Grow up. Seriously.

Some catty hos are responding. Look away. Be mad for a day. Cry a river, build a bridge, get over it.

Maybe your sister doesnt remember that the reason you didn't get married there was finances? Could be she just remembered it from when you were looking and remembered how nice it was.

Anonymous wrote:This is SO petty but I am so angry this morning. A few years ago I could not get married at my dream wedding venue as it was too expensive for my husband and I.

My sister is wedding planning and has decided she will get married there. She knew how sad I was so I am so angry and annoyed that she would do this to me!

Wow that's weird. I wonder if maybe your sister hasn't noticed that you're selfish and assumed you would react normally?

I had a small, kind of rushed, wedding, because that's what our budget could afford under the circumstances.

My BIL and SIL were supposed to have what would have been my dream wedding. I had so much fun helping them plan it. I was looking forward to attending it. I can't imagine being angry and annoyed that someone I loved got something wonderful.

Except said dream wedding was planned for April 2020, so their actual wedding, moved up to March when the writing was on the wall but the lockdown hadn't been announced, was even smaller and more rushed.

If the next family member to get married has our dream wedding, we'll all be happy for him or her.

I feel sorry for your DH, OP.

Get over it and dance with your DH and decide if YOUR marriage was worth it, regardless of where it was held.

OP-you can wallow in self pity for half a day then dang it: LET IT GO !!!
Unless this is some unknown hidden gem and not just a pretty venue used by many others this just seems like a logical place to hold a wedding. If you couldn’t afford it it wasn’t the right place for your wedding and holding onto that disappointment remain a costly price to your happiness. Enjoy your life and stop seeing what you lack.

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Anonymous wrote:Is she prettier than you? Is she marrying a well off guy or into a well off family? I feel like this isn't just about the venue and your pinterest.

This sounds like a life of jealousy coming to a head.

OP here. Yes. She is the "pretty one" who is marrying a rich guy. His family is footing the bill.

Lol omg do you even hear yourself? Your poor husband. Pleas NEVER have children.

+1 Can you imagine what OP will be like when her sister has one more kid than she does?

Anonymous wrote:You can still have an event there. Lol. Renew your vows the week before? Kidding. I’m sorry. I understand it’s painful (and obnoxious) right now - consider it a hat tip to your good taste, but later.

OP can (secretly) arrange to renew her vows during sister's wedding! (Bonus, place is already booked).
Kidding, kidding, but what a great DCUM thread that would be.

Sorry, OP, I actually do see why it would sting but I urge you to realize this really isn't a big deal in the scheme of things. Your marriage is good? If so, that is all that mattes. If not, be happy you didn't spend the extra money!

Definitely wear white as a guest.

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Anonymous wrote:Take some time to grieve, then let it go. She won’t change. It you’ll be able to enjoy a beautiful day without paying or organizing it. You can decide how much you want to participate in the forthcoming bridezillary

Can you imagine how pathetic you must be to need to "grieve" your sister getting married at a venue you wanted a few years ago? Like how ridiculous is that?

It’s normal. She prob just found out. I’d be a little annoyed and bummed for about 15 mins then get excited. But also be aware of the incoming asks. This sister combo sounds a bit dysfunctional. Not alarmingly so. But the dynamic is funky for sure.

I consider myself a fairly mature adult, I'm not even into weddings, and this would bother me. OP, I understand and think people are being a little harsh. You can't change it, but it's not wrong to feel sad about it.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Also her wedding decor Pinterest board is a copycat of mine.

How am I not supposed to be annoyed?

Grow up.

Be happy she loves your tase it's a compliment.

Wow in what is going on in the world and this is what you pick to get upset over?

Your poor DH.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. Also her wedding decor pinterest board is a copycat of mine.

How am I not supposed to be annoyed?

She likes your taste!

She wants to minimize effort since you've already done the research.

Do you have other issues with her? b/c if this is an isolated incident I'd think you're incredibly childish and immature.

OP here. I feel like my sister simultaneously tries to one-up me and also copy me at the same time. Its not like she actually compliments me or gives me credit. She is like my shadow I can't get rid of.

So, play Single White Female at her wedding. You will get rid of your "shadow" permanently.

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Anonymous wrote:Is she prettier than you? Is she marrying a well off guy or into a well off family? I feel like this isn't just about the venue and your pinterest.

This sounds like a life of jealousy coming to a head.

OP here. Yes. She is the "pretty one" who is marrying a rich guy. His family is footing the bill.

Lol omg do you even hear yourself? Your poor husband. Pleas NEVER have children.

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Anonymous wrote:Is she prettier than you? Is she marrying a well off guy or into a well off family? I feel like this isn't just about the venue and your pinterest.

This sounds like a life of jealousy coming to a head.

OP here. Yes. She is the "pretty one" who is marrying a rich guy. His family is footing the bill.

So you're just a jealous, petty, B. Figure out how to deal with your jealousy or remove yourself from the situation. Don't ruin her engagement and wedding because you never grew up.