Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:1. Approach the landlord now and break the lease.
2. Move to a 2 bedroom with a decent living room.
3. You get one room during the day, your husband gets the other room, nanny and baby get the living room and kitchen. Text the nanny BEFORE you come out for any reason.
4. Make sure that you have a lightweight stroller if it’s a walk up. You will want the nanny to take your child out every morning and afternoon, and you guys should get out after work. Staring at the same four walls all day is not healthy.

What is the rationale behind texting nanny before I come out? I get that it is easier for nanny to be on her best behavior then but I like the idea of being able to check in at random to assess how she’s doing

Omg this really will be a truly terrible nanny job...

Anonymous wrote:1. Approach the landlord now and break the lease.
2. Move to a 2 bedroom with a decent living room.
3. You get one room during the day, your husband gets the other room, nanny and baby get the living room and kitchen. Text the nanny BEFORE you come out for any reason.
4. Make sure that you have a lightweight stroller if it’s a walk up. You will want the nanny to take your child out every morning and afternoon, and you guys should get out after work. Staring at the same four walls all day is not healthy.

What is the rationale behind texting nanny before I come out? I get that it is easier for nanny to be on her best behavior then but I like the idea of being able to check in at random to assess how she’s doing

Anonymous wrote:1. Approach the landlord now and break the lease.
2. Move to a 2 bedroom with a decent living room.
3. You get one room during the day, your husband gets the other room, nanny and baby get the living room and kitchen. Text the nanny BEFORE you come out for any reason.
4. Make sure that you have a lightweight stroller if it’s a walk up. You will want the nanny to take your child out every morning and afternoon, and you guys should get out after work. Staring at the same four walls all day is not healthy.

Where would the baby nap in this scenario?

What I would propose with a 2 bedroom

Bedroom 1: set up as master bedroom with a baby crib in there
Bedroom 2: Set up as an office

Nanny and baby get the living room, but nanny puts baby to nap in the master bedroom.

Rent office space to work in and give the nanny and the baby the apartment. You cannot all be in that space all day.

Where are you and DH going to work in a 2 br?

I would look into a nanny share.

Omg no. Your nanny will not able to keep your baby occupied with you in the same room. Also, when the baby naps, is the nanny just supposed to sit on the couch with you guys....??? This is NOT WORKABLE. You need daycare, a bigger place, or quitting your job.

If you don't want to break your lease, then find a place where you and your husband can work. Even a one-room office space out in the boondocks, just to have a space away from the baby and nanny.

Or break your lease and get a bigger place.

I WAH with a small place and a nanny for a couple years. I stayed in the bedroom but hated it. Hearing the baby crying is the worst and it was so much harder to focus than I expected. I was always most productive when they went on outings — also, that was my chance to sneak to the kitchen to get food.

1. Approach the landlord now and break the lease.
2. Move to a 2 bedroom with a decent living room.
3. You get one room during the day, your husband gets the other room, nanny and baby get the living room and kitchen. Text the nanny BEFORE you come out for any reason.
4. Make sure that you have a lightweight stroller if it’s a walk up. You will want the nanny to take your child out every morning and afternoon, and you guys should get out after work. Staring at the same four walls all day is not healthy.

Why don’t you just move if cost is not an issue? No nanny will like this.

OP, is your plan to confine baby and nanny to a bedroom all day every day? Because that is not much better than staying where you are.

If you don’t offer premium pay, you’ll likely be needing a new nanny every 2-3 months. Good luck.

Anonymous wrote:DH and I will be wfh once my maternity leave ends in a few weeks. We live in a small 1br apartment- the bedroom is tiny and only fits a crib and our bed (no space for walking). Would a nanny work with this arrangement? It would involve all 3 adults plus baby in the living room almost all day. Cost is not an issue and we are willing to pay, but it’s not an ideal living situation. We are moving when our lease comes up in Sept but will need a nanny before that. We are not considering daycare.

Tough. Only a fool would take this job.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP- thanks to all for confirming this is impossible. Likely will break the lease (it was a 2 yr lease). We were planning to move to a 2br so baby and nanny have their own room. Would this work? This is NYC not dc hence the small spaces

You and dh get the bedroom and baby get the living room.

I would not do this. We don't even feel comfortable with a nanny in our two bedroom, two bathroom apartment because we are both WFH right now and it just feels too cramped. Instead we have a sitter come in the afternoon and take our DD out to the park for several hours. If the weather is terrible, they stay in her room and play, but that's rare.

But we have a toddler, not an infant, and I'm PT. If I were OP, I would either get over my daycare aversion, look for a nanny share with another host, or just suck it up and move (find a submitter or break lease, deal with the fact that you will have to move again in September).

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP- thanks to all for confirming this is impossible. Likely will break the lease (it was a 2 yr lease). We were planning to move to a 2br so baby and nanny have their own room. Would this work? This is NYC not dc hence the small spaces

It is honestly still not an ideal work situation and I can't imagine the good nannies out there wanting that job.

Isn’t this par for the course for any nanny of working parents in Manhattan now though?

Umm no. Most nannies aren’t living in the same bedroom as the child. They have their own - sometimes attached.

This isn't a live in nanny situation. When OP said nanny and baby would have their own room, she just meant they would spend their days in a room apart from the parents.