Anonymous
01/22/2021 10:49
Subject: Nanny is late everyday - what to do?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:
She's one of the many, many, tardy people, in this world. My husband, my two best friends, my daughter's music teacher, are ALL like this (and two are way worse).
There are so many people like this that I wouldn't make it an issue unless you must, ie, you're going back to the office, or you have a meeting at 9.
This. Many people are like this. If you refused to deal with every single one of them, there’d be so few people left. How can you demand everyone be exactly on time? So few people are. You just have to learn to let it go.
Do all those late people expect to get on an airplane after the doors are closed or have a class wait for them to start? Can teachers be late and leave you standing outside the school for drop off?
You absolutely do not let chronic lateness “go”. It’s stunningly disrespectful and unprofessional.
No, it’s not. I have never, ever had a job as an adult where I didn’t have leeway on when to arrive every day. It’s just not the norm for professional jobs, and I extended this courtesy to my nanny. If it is important to an employer that the nanny arrive prescisely on time every day, you need to make that very clear - not just assume it. And then you better let the nanny go at exactly her end time as well. No detaining her at the door to talk about how the day went, etc. Live by the clock, die by the clock.
Anonymous
01/22/2021 08:44
Subject: Nanny is late everyday - what to do?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:
She's one of the many, many, tardy people, in this world. My husband, my two best friends, my daughter's music teacher, are ALL like this (and two are way worse).
There are so many people like this that I wouldn't make it an issue unless you must, ie, you're going back to the office, or you have a meeting at 9.
This. Many people are like this. If you refused to deal with every single one of them, there’d be so few people left. How can you demand everyone be exactly on time? So few people are. You just have to learn to let it go.
Do all those late people expect to get on an airplane after the doors are closed or have a class wait for them to start? Can teachers be late and leave you standing outside the school for drop off?
You absolutely do not let chronic lateness “go”. It’s stunningly disrespectful and unprofessional.
Anonymous
01/21/2021 23:34
Subject: Re:Nanny is late everyday - what to do?
We had a nanny who was late all the time and had a million issues and we worked around it for months because she was so great with the kids. When she left we got a new nanny who was on time to the dot every single day and I couldn't believe we put up with all that shit from the first one. There are plenty of great nannies out there. This one is pissing you off every single morning. Why put yourself through that?
Anonymous
01/21/2021 23:27
Subject: Nanny is late everyday - what to do?
Where is she from?
Anonymous
01/21/2021 23:15
Subject: Nanny is late everyday - what to do?
Anonymous wrote:We had a nanny like this and it drove me nuts. I moved the start time up even though l was annoyed about paying the extra 2.5 hours/week and then she was still at least 15 mins late consistently. There was always an excuse in thr am but in the evening she was packed and ready to roll the second the clock struck 6. The kids loved he and otherwise she was good, so I kept her. Finally she had 2 random days of being 45 minutes late and they were both days I had things at work first thing and had reminded her. Once we had a new nanny who was punctual, I realized how much the old one had stressed me every am. Yes the 5-10 mins late wasn’t a huge deal, but it was the unknown of when she’d show up and the waste of time every am - I was ready to get out the door on time but couldn’t leave and it was just disjointed time for the kids.
Yes, it just feels so disrespectful to leave people waiting for you on a consistant basis. I agree with PP that this is common, but it is not OK.
Would it be too petty to dock her pay or ask her to make up the time at the end of the day?
Anonymous
01/21/2021 23:14
Subject: Nanny is late everyday - what to do?
Do you let her leave exactly at her end time each day, or do you keep her for few extra minutes sometimes while you finish one last email, etc? This issue works in both directions.
Anonymous
01/21/2021 23:02
Subject: Re:Nanny is late everyday - what to do?
Five minute grace period does t seem unreasonable. But that is t working for you. I think two things to consider in how you deal with is are whether she stops work exactly at her end time and whether she gets uninterrupted breaks during the day.
Anonymous
01/21/2021 22:58
Subject: Nanny is late everyday - what to do?
We had a nanny like this and it drove me nuts. I moved the start time up even though l was annoyed about paying the extra 2.5 hours/week and then she was still at least 15 mins late consistently. There was always an excuse in thr am but in the evening she was packed and ready to roll the second the clock struck 6. The kids loved he and otherwise she was good, so I kept her. Finally she had 2 random days of being 45 minutes late and they were both days I had things at work first thing and had reminded her. Once we had a new nanny who was punctual, I realized how much the old one had stressed me every am. Yes the 5-10 mins late wasn’t a huge deal, but it was the unknown of when she’d show up and the waste of time every am - I was ready to get out the door on time but couldn’t leave and it was just disjointed time for the kids.
Anonymous
01/21/2021 22:50
Subject: Nanny is late everyday - what to do?
Anonymous wrote:
She's one of the many, many, tardy people, in this world. My husband, my two best friends, my daughter's music teacher, are ALL like this (and two are way worse).
There are so many people like this that I wouldn't make it an issue unless you must, ie, you're going back to the office, or you have a meeting at 9.
This. Many people are like this. If you refused to deal with every single one of them, there’d be so few people left. How can you demand everyone be exactly on time? So few people are. You just have to learn to let it go.
Anonymous
01/21/2021 22:42
Subject: Nanny is late everyday - what to do?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Yes you should if it matters to you. But you should also consider whether you actually need her to show up at 9 on the dot. Flexibility to arrive 5-15 minutes late is pretty standard in the working world, so you need to consider whether you really have to take that away. If it was 15 minutes every day I might feel differently.
Nanny here.
Larla, you seem to prefer starting between 9.05 and 9.15. We’re going to be moving the start time to 9.15 to accommodate that preference, and we expect you to be on time. Thanks!
This will almost certainly result in nanny not showing up till 9:25.
Anonymous
01/21/2021 22:37
Subject: Nanny is late everyday - what to do?
She's one of the many, many, tardy people, in this world. My husband, my two best friends, my daughter's music teacher, are ALL like this (and two are way worse).
There are so many people like this that I wouldn't make it an issue unless you must, ie, you're going back to the office, or you have a meeting at 9.
Anonymous
01/21/2021 22:37
Subject: Nanny is late everyday - what to do?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Yes you should if it matters to you. But you should also consider whether you actually need her to show up at 9 on the dot. Flexibility to arrive 5-15 minutes late is pretty standard in the working world, so you need to consider whether you really have to take that away. If it was 15 minutes every day I might feel differently.
Nanny here.
Larla, you seem to prefer starting between 9.05 and 9.15. We’re going to be moving the start time to 9.15 to accommodate that preference, and we expect you to be on time. Thanks!
plus 1
Anonymous
01/21/2021 22:31
Subject: Re:Nanny is late everyday - what to do?
Anonymous wrote:Stop the excuses! Tell your nanny to be on time or she’s fired! God, how do some of you exist in the world?
There is no excuse for habitual lateness. Do your fricking job at the agreed upon time!
- signed, a nanny
+1. This. From another nanny.
All the childish excuses give nannies a bad name. Don’t be late for work. Period.
Anonymous
01/21/2021 22:28
Subject: Re:Nanny is late everyday - what to do?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Stop the excuses! Tell your nanny to be on time or she’s fired! God, how do some of you exist in the world?
There is no excuse for habitual lateness. Do your fricking job at the agreed upon time!
- signed, a nanny
Np. Only fire if mom boss has a backup nanny. If your kids like her why not work with her instead of being a hard ass.
NP. What ones “work with her” mean? It’s not an outlandish wish that people show up to work on time?! The rest of the working world manages to do it!
Anonymous
01/21/2021 17:58
Subject: Re:Nanny is late everyday - what to do?
I’d just start work at 9:15