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Anonymous wrote:My DD has always been on the tall side (99+%). She was 5' 3" at 11 and is close to 5' 9" now after turning 13. I have the opposite worries as she may be awkwardly tall (6') in high school (my worries, not hers). But... we don't dwell on it and celebrate all her awesomeness. Tall.. short... somewhere in the middle... they are going to exactly as tall as they are going to be. They're our kids... height should be the last thing we have to worry about.

While I agree with this, if my daughter grows to only be 4’11’ she will be at a disadvantage. Not the case for 6ft women.
I’m talking as adults with careers, hoping to be taken seriously. There are exceptions to this but they are that... exceptions.
I sounds like you have no personal experience with knowing the difficulty very very short women face in the work place. Clearly this is vastly less important than her health, etc.

I'm 5'-1" in a very male dominated profession, and I agree with you. I've been referred to as a "little girl" in meetings. I suppose if you're in a work environment that is less cut throat, this wouldn't matter. But height conveys power, and there is a strong and consistent correlation between height and income as well as promotions. Of course there are always exceptions.

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Anonymous wrote:What was your daughter's height at her 11 year physical?

She is 4ft 7.5 inches tall
At age 11.

If she is barely showing signs of puberty then I wouldn’t worry. My DD had a big growth spurt (and also developed breasts) just before starting puberty, which is very common. By the time she got her period at 11 she was 5’2”, and at 14 she seems to be done growing at 5’5” (1.5 inches taller than me). If your DD had already started her cycle I would think she’d be more likely to stay on the short side.

The doctor told us that there’s often a growth spurt before the first period, and kids average about 1-3 inches of growth within the next 2 years afterward, before they stop growing. That was true for us.

Mine grew a lot too. I remember being surprised to learn she was 5’4” at doctor appt when she turned 11, thinking that seemed so tall for her age. She is 12.5 now and measuring 5’9”. Got her period right around 12th bday.

A lot. My daughter was already about 5'5" at age 10 and shot up another 4 inches few years after that. Now at 16 she seems to be topping out at 5'10".

A given, but make sure she is getting enough nutrients. Milk/calium/D is so important right now.

Nothing stunts a girl's growth quite like an eating disorder in early tween/teens.

DD will be 13 in May and most likely won’t be 5’ by her birthday. I don’t know her exact height but she’s visibly shorter than her 10 year old brother who is 5’.5”. She got her period back in the fall. Hoping she makes it to a respectable 5’2”.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DD has always been on the tall side (99+%). She was 5' 3" at 11 and is close to 5' 9" now after turning 13. I have the opposite worries as she may be awkwardly tall (6') in high school (my worries, not hers). But... we don't dwell on it and celebrate all her awesomeness. Tall.. short... somewhere in the middle... they are going to exactly as tall as they are going to be. They're our kids... height should be the last thing we have to worry about.

While I agree with this, if my daughter grows to only be 4’11’ she will be at a disadvantage. Not the case for 6ft women.
I’m talking as adults with careers, hoping to be taken seriously. There are exceptions to this but they are that... exceptions.
I sounds like you have no personal experience with knowing the difficulty very very short women face in the work place. Clearly this is vastly less important than her health, etc.

Speak for yourself! I’m a short woman (5’0) with a very successful career. I never lacked for boyfriends either. I have never once been disadvantaged in the workplace by my height. I learned early on to say intelligent things and people will listen.

The only disadvantage to being short that’s factual is that I eat less calories to maintain my weight than tall women.

I’m not short (in fact I’m on the talk side) but 100% agree. I’ve worked with plenty of short women professionally.

I’d say being tall can be a lot harder, unless you are model material. Dating is super hard bc even tall men seem to want to date shorter girls. I’m 5’8” and dealt with it to some degree but my 6 foot tall friends had the hardest time with it

I’m 5’7 and my husband is 6’3. When we were dating I actually had a friend who was an inch or two taller than me berate me for “taking” a guy who could’ve dated a taller girl. It was so bizarre. I know plenty of couples where the woman is taller, or where they’re close in height. Many fewer where there’s a big discrepancy.

Dd12 is 5'6" and grew 8 inches in the last 18 months. Her feet went from size 5 to 9.5. It's crazy. I am 5'8" so expect her to be taller still. She loves it for sports but hates it for feeling large.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DD has always been on the tall side (99+%). She was 5' 3" at 11 and is close to 5' 9" now after turning 13. I have the opposite worries as she may be awkwardly tall (6') in high school (my worries, not hers). But... we don't dwell on it and celebrate all her awesomeness. Tall.. short... somewhere in the middle... they are going to exactly as tall as they are going to be. They're our kids... height should be the last thing we have to worry about.

While I agree with this, if my daughter grows to only be 4’11’ she will be at a disadvantage. Not the case for 6ft women.
I’m talking as adults with careers, hoping to be taken seriously. There are exceptions to this but they are that... exceptions.
I sounds like you have no personal experience with knowing the difficulty very very short women face in the work place. Clearly this is vastly less important than her health, etc.

Speak for yourself! I’m a short woman (5’0) with a very successful career. I never lacked for boyfriends either. I have never once been disadvantaged in the workplace by my height. I learned early on to say intelligent things and people will listen.

The only disadvantage to being short that’s factual is that I eat less calories to maintain my weight than tall women.

I’m not short (in fact I’m on the talk side) but 100% agree. I’ve worked with plenty of short women professionally.

I’d say being tall can be a lot harder, unless you are model material. Dating is super hard bc even tall men seem to want to date shorter girls. I’m 5’8” and dealt with it to some degree but my 6 foot tall friends had the hardest time with it

About 6-7 inches I believe. With the majority of that from her 12th to 13th birthday. She’s now 5’4” and 13 and I’d guess she might grow another 2-3in max. She just got her period and me and my sisters didn’t really grow much past age 14.

NP here, following with interest since I am 5' (and the tallest woman in my mom's family!) and DH is 5'10" but the tallest in his family. DD, 11 1/2 has gone from about 4'7" to 4'10" since the pandemic started. I'm rooting for at least 5'3" or 5'4"! I can't tell you how awful it is to have everything in a standard kitchen be too tall--I can't reach past the bottom shelf in any cabinet, counter is too high for me to chop on without hurting my shoulder so I wear clogs to cook.So hoping and praying my girls will be a few inches taller than me!

DD grew 4” between ages 12 and 13. She is now 5’1” and has not had her period yet. Not sure how much taller she’ll get. I’m 5’6” and DH is 5’7”, so while I’m average height, DH is pretty short.

This thread would have better information if more answers also included the age the daughter started their period.

Anonymous wrote:My DD grew 7" between Gr. 7 and Gr. 12.

Wow! That's a lot!

I stopped growing in 7th grade. Granted, I was 5'9" then, but it still was weird to stop growing that early. I started my period that same year.

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Anonymous wrote:I was 5'6 at 11 (topped out at 5'7) and my 11yo is 4'11, just barely starting to get breast buds and I sincerely hope she grows a lot. My husband is 6'3 and she was always tall as an infant/young child but now says she's "just average" for her class. I'm expecting her to start growing any day...

Isn't she slated to be around 5'6? That's not short. I don’t understand why people are worried about height.

No one can predict the height but, more than likely, PP's DD will be taller than average simply because she has tall parents.

Pp here - I’m not worried - but considering how tall she was from birth until @ age 7, it’s a little surprising that she hasn’t had her growth spurt yet - especially considering that I was so tall at her age. My husband was a later grower (which is normal for boys) and I’m glad she’s not super tall yet, just wonder how it will all end up. Fwiw, I was projected to be even taller but developed an auto-immune disorder at age 14 which doctors think shortened my growth.