Anonymous wrote:My DH does not eat:
any kind of seafood
meat on the bone (non-filet)
blueberries, cherries, cranberries, grapefruit, pineapple
quinoa or oatmeal
eggplant, zucchini, artichokes, squash, pumpkin, capers, olives
garlic
cinnamon, cloves, dill
sweet potatoes
any cheese except cheddaresque types or mozzarella
raisins, prunes, dates
others I'm forgetting

We've been married for 15 years. It's impossible to eat as a family and give the kids the variety necessary for optimum health. He typically cooks meat and potatoes or pasta for himself and them. I cook my vegetarian meals separately but share veggies with the kids.

Did this come out overtime or did you know this before mariage. I;m curious how open people are with their pickiness.

We all have quirks and nobody is perfect. If he’s otherwise a good person then I would give it a shot. But know that if you do have kids with him, the no vegetable thing will likely bite you in the behind. Getting kids to eat their vegetables is easier if they see both parents eating them, not just one.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t think it matters. Cook separately. Problem solved.

Seems impractical. How does this work if OP (eventually) has a family?

I'm an omnivore married to a longtime vegetarian. He is lucky that he happens to be a wonderful person, because take it from me: it is SUPER annoying (not always, because I enjoy many vegetarian meals, but often) to have to work around my spouse's diet as well as my kids' pickiness. I got so fed up at one point that I was close to telling him he had to try fish or SOMETHING to expand the slate of meals we could both eat.

Could you maybe make a vegetarian “meatloaf” or lentil burgers, tofu, etc. at the start of the week (or keep microwaveable vegetarian meatballs, etc. in the freezer) and go ahead and make what you want - fish, roast beef, etc. and just sub the vegetarian protein for the meat entree? You should be able to make fish for you and your child...is there a reason your DH can’t eat a meat substitute with whatever sides you have.

I think if you love to cook and/or are a “foodie” it might be challenging. Does he have a sensitive stomach? I wonder why no herbs or spices.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t think it matters. Cook separately. Problem solved.

Seems impractical. How does this work if OP (eventually) has a family?

I'm an omnivore married to a longtime vegetarian. He is lucky that he happens to be a wonderful person, because take it from me: it is SUPER annoying (not always, because I enjoy many vegetarian meals, but often) to have to work around my spouse's diet as well as my kids' pickiness. I got so fed up at one point that I was close to telling him he had to try fish or SOMETHING to expand the slate of meals we could both eat.

Interesting. I’m a vegetarian DW and do most of the cooking. I make tons of vegetarian dishes (that they love) but my DH and kids are total carnivores so I regularly have meat on the side - grilled chicken, sausage, meatballs, etc. I also cook meat dishes for them and adapt it for myself — so if they are eating sloppy joes, I eat a veggie burger, or if they are eating a chicken dish I’ll have some marinated tofu in the fridge that I’ll substitute. It’s been a non-issue, but maybe I’m more flexible than your DH? I will admit I don’t make things like pot roast, rubs, brisket, etc. - it’s always just chicken or ground beef, which they love but might be boring to most - I’m just much better at cooking vegetarian than meat and my family doesn’t much care, thankfully.

Just remembered that DH also does not eat cucumbers or
beans of any kind or ginger.

My DH does not eat:
any kind of seafood
meat on the bone (non-filet)
blueberries, cherries, cranberries, grapefruit, pineapple
quinoa or oatmeal
eggplant, zucchini, artichokes, squash, pumpkin, capers, olives
garlic
cinnamon, cloves, dill
sweet potatoes
any cheese except cheddaresque types or mozzarella
raisins, prunes, dates
others I'm forgetting

We've been married for 15 years. It's impossible to eat as a family and give the kids the variety necessary for optimum health. He typically cooks meat and potatoes or pasta for himself and them. I cook my vegetarian meals separately but share veggies with the kids.

The picky eaters I know are all high-maintenance in other ways. I work as a nanny and it’s interesting because I get to be a fly on the wall in other’s homes. The picky eater adults I have worked for:
One dad who only ate meat and carbs didn’t think it was a big deal if his daughters had cheetos for lunch on his watch. He also wanted to watch Fox News at top volume 24/7 and refused to ever tell the kids “no” about anything, ever.

A mom with a bunch of food issues who was constantly on some kind of special diet (GF, GAPS, etc.) but then would eat Nutella by the scoopful when stressed, and was VERY controlling about what the kids ate. She also had other bizarre or nitpicky rules for the children about what they could wear, watch, etc. eventually devolved into an antimasker.

A dad who mostly eats a list of canned/frozen meals and is super controlling about what others do. The kids weren’t allowed to color unless I had a wet wash cloth in my hand to wipe if they went off the page (using washable markers that easily wipe up), laundry had to be folded with military precision, he complained constantly about not being able to sleep but refused to try melatonin or white noise or going to bed at a reasonable hour. Ended up separated.

In short the picky eating may or may not be annoying to you but IME, it tends to be a manifestation of someone who in general lacks self-awareness and emotional control and healthy coping habits and will end up making those they marry carry the burden of managing their moods and needs because they aren’t emotionally self-sufficient.

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Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't care about mac and cheese, red meat, or fried chicken, but the lack of herbs, spices, and vegetables would be a problem.

I think there is picky and then there is PICKY! This probably won't be a popular opinion but I actually don't even like going out to dinner with people who are extremely picky. I once had experience eating out to dinner with someone who couldn't find ANYTHING she would eat on the menu which had apps, salads, soup, sandwiches, fish, chicken, etc, and ended up ordering a grilled cheese and french fries from the kid's menu. It was weird! Couldn't imagine living with someone like this!

You’re the weird one!

-Not a picky eater

DP, no way. An adult without allergies should be able to find something acceptable on most any menu. To resort to eating a grilled cheese from the kid's menu is really bizarre. I am definitely not the weird one if we go to a restaurant and you sit there eating buttered toast because any of the other 25+ options was not ok.

You’re the weird one if it bothers you.

I mean, it "bothers" me in as much as that it is somewhat remarkable and I find it either very odd or disordered. It's not going to ruin my day or anything, but I'm going to notice. I don't think I am weird for thinking it is messed up you have adults that are so extremely picky it is basically a sensory disorder. See, "I only eat white colored foods!"

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Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't care about mac and cheese, red meat, or fried chicken, but the lack of herbs, spices, and vegetables would be a problem.

I think there is picky and then there is PICKY! This probably won't be a popular opinion but I actually don't even like going out to dinner with people who are extremely picky. I once had experience eating out to dinner with someone who couldn't find ANYTHING she would eat on the menu which had apps, salads, soup, sandwiches, fish, chicken, etc, and ended up ordering a grilled cheese and french fries from the kid's menu. It was weird! Couldn't imagine living with someone like this!

You’re the weird one!

-Not a picky eater

DP, no way. An adult without allergies should be able to find something acceptable on most any menu. To resort to eating a grilled cheese from the kid's menu is really bizarre. I am definitely not the weird one if we go to a restaurant and you sit there eating buttered toast because any of the other 25+ options was not ok.

You’re the weird one if it bothers you.

Yeah, sorry. It's really limiting. All ethnic options are out. Anything "fancy" is out. Call me weird, but I enjoy eating at restaurants with adults who don't require a children's menu.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t think it matters. Cook separately. Problem solved.

Seems impractical. How does this work if OP (eventually) has a family?

I'm an omnivore married to a longtime vegetarian. He is lucky that he happens to be a wonderful person, because take it from me: it is SUPER annoying (not always, because I enjoy many vegetarian meals, but often) to have to work around my spouse's diet as well as my kids' pickiness. I got so fed up at one point that I was close to telling him he had to try fish or SOMETHING to expand the slate of meals we could both eat.

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Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't care about mac and cheese, red meat, or fried chicken, but the lack of herbs, spices, and vegetables would be a problem.

I think there is picky and then there is PICKY! This probably won't be a popular opinion but I actually don't even like going out to dinner with people who are extremely picky. I once had experience eating out to dinner with someone who couldn't find ANYTHING she would eat on the menu which had apps, salads, soup, sandwiches, fish, chicken, etc, and ended up ordering a grilled cheese and french fries from the kid's menu. It was weird! Couldn't imagine living with someone like this!

You’re the weird one!

-Not a picky eater

DP, no way. An adult without allergies should be able to find something acceptable on most any menu. To resort to eating a grilled cheese from the kid's menu is really bizarre. I am definitely not the weird one if we go to a restaurant and you sit there eating buttered toast because any of the other 25+ options was not ok.

You’re the weird one if it bothers you.

I kind of get it, it just seems immature.

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Anonymous wrote:That level of picky eater would be a dealbreaker for me.

I don’t eat everything—I’m a pescatarian for one—but I like to try new cuisines and couldn’t deal with someone like that.

Is this the new " I'm a vegan" " I'm gluten free" I keep seeing it in people's profiles?

It's definitely the new trend. PP being a pescatarian had nothing to do with the topic yet pp brought it up much like the trendy vegan and glute free , keto, people did/do.

Just stop. You thinking being pescatarian is new just shows your ignorance. I brought it up because it’s why I don’t eat everything. It was relevant to the thread.

How about you stop. If it's as old as you say it is then no one cares. You are not special Eat your fish and keep scrolling.

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Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't care about mac and cheese, red meat, or fried chicken, but the lack of herbs, spices, and vegetables would be a problem.

I think there is picky and then there is PICKY! This probably won't be a popular opinion but I actually don't even like going out to dinner with people who are extremely picky. I once had experience eating out to dinner with someone who couldn't find ANYTHING she would eat on the menu which had apps, salads, soup, sandwiches, fish, chicken, etc, and ended up ordering a grilled cheese and french fries from the kid's menu. It was weird! Couldn't imagine living with someone like this!

You’re the weird one!

-Not a picky eater

DP, no way. An adult without allergies should be able to find something acceptable on most any menu. To resort to eating a grilled cheese from the kid's menu is really bizarre. I am definitely not the weird one if we go to a restaurant and you sit there eating buttered toast because any of the other 25+ options was not ok.

You’re the weird one if it bothers you.

DH is picky - no vegetables, no fish, nothing pickled. I think it’s funny. I’m more of a eat to live type of person and don’t care what he does/doesn’t eat. We cook meat together and I add vegetable sides if I want them. It’s never been an issue for us. I fast a lot and only eat at certain times which I think people find much more annoying.