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Anonymous wrote:Are you ok with being a stepmom? Do you get along with the children?
I'm 35 he's 50. Sometimes his age comes out and it feels like he talks to me like I'm his child instead of partner. We are working on that.

I haven't met his kids. The kids are 10/15, and if anything I find it better that they're "older" kids.

Absolutely go meet his kids. They are teens. Super tough stage to parent. I'd say no just because of the kids' ages right now.

I’m 45 and I wouldn’t want to be with a 55 year old! I’m married, though, so maybe I am underestimating how lonely I would be if I were single?

You need to make sure you get yourself an income stream into an account under your sole control, as well as a nice condo in your name. Then marry the guy, enjoy the material comforts, and get yourself some action on the side.

I would say no, but for us it is 54 (me) and 71 (him). He’s been up front about wanting to know if I’ll really stick if there are health problems. He’s far wealthier than I am, but that gap will close a bit as I continue to work. Make your peace with what you are willing to give and get. This guy is fricking hot for 71, and I would rather be with him than anyone for as long as we have.

I know a 30 year old woman who is dating a 53 year old man. She was married to a man 23 years older than her. She likes her older men bc they are more mature. Of course a man who is old enough to be your father is mature. Gross!
She also mentioned that she hasn't really had the opportunity to go out and do fun things, which of course I understand bc her ex husband was in his 40s when they met and at that age, you've done a lot and at 19(her age at the time), life was just getting started.

I wouldn't do it, I'm 34 and personally grossed out by dating someone more than a decade older. There are plenty of guys with a decent head on their shoulders now that we are in our 30s. Find someone closer to your age.

Anonymous wrote:I'm 3 years older than you, and I would pass.

I am also 3 years older AND with someone a decade older than me and I would also pass.

A friend at work is my age (mid-50s). He's been in a live-in relationship for years with a mid-30s Asian woman who has a PhD and a professional job. I've met her, and his ex-wife. His ex-wife is awful.

Who cares what we think, you have to live with him, you either like him or not.

Do you not have your own opinions?

Are you not attractive?

You are only 33. Why can you only attract an old guy with baggage, an ex-wife and two kids?

That sounds awful.

Go find a hot 30-something that has never been married.

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Anonymous wrote:At 33- I was going to all night clubs in Europe with my 32-year old husband, living life to the hilt. I wouldn’t want an old dude.

Gross. Saggy balls are in your future

Do you just not want to work?

Who"s going to lick your husband's saggy balls when he is 50? Oh, I forgot....you and your husband are never going to age. Do share your secret!

I will be old too.

When I was in my early 30s I would not have wanted to lick a 50-year old man’s saggy balls.

When we are both 50 it’s a different beast. At 33, 50 was old as f@ck to me. At 50, another 50-year old is fine.

I'm 3 years older than you, and I would pass.

Anonymous wrote:At 33- I was going to all night clubs in Europe with my 32-year old husband, living life to the hilt. I wouldn’t want an old dude.

Gross. Saggy balls are in your future

Do you just not want to work?

Who"s going to lick your husband's saggy balls when he is 50? Oh, I forgot....you and your husband are never going to age. Do share your secret!

Gross, no. He’s of an entirely different generation. Do you really want to marry a boomer? Do you like sex and are you actually attracted to him? Or is there something else drawing you to him? You can do way better, don’t settle for a grandpa. Plus if he’s divorced with kids you’re probably just his mid life crisis. You’re just an affirmation for him and an “escape” from the family life he likely broke.

Anonymous wrote:He’s got too much baggage unless there’s tons of money in it too! His kids are gonna be a pita no matter how you slice it and those preteen years suck! Find someone closer to your age with no kids.

THIS! His kids are what you should be worrying about not so much his age. Two kids at that age are going to cause you nothing but trouble. If not immediately then it will happen within the first few years and probably won't ever end. Pre-teens and teens are notorious for NOT accepting a parent's new spouse.

The second biggest problem is going to be his relationship with his ex wife. What's that like? Again, that is a headache that may follow you for the rest of your life.

He’s got too much baggage unless there’s tons of money in it too! His kids are gonna be a pita no matter how you slice it and those preteen years suck! Find someone closer to your age with no kids.