Anonymous wrote:Less than I want to. My in-laws are active alcoholics. DH is over a decade in recovery.

So, at every family gathering, they pretend that they aren’t drinking even though they are clearly drunk and fooling no one with their coffee cups and plastic cups of “ice water.”
However, because we are all keeping up with this bizarre, dysfunctional charade, no one ever offers me any alcohol, and they pretend they don’t have any if I ask. Ughh...it drives me crazy.

They are probably just being cheap. My husband is a 20+ year recovering alcoholic, but I still drink and he actual likes it when I drink I feel like my in-laws are cheap with their alcohol when I am around. It drives me crazy because when I have them over I make sure plenty of wine and other alcohol is available for them all night, whereas at their homes they have one bottle of wine out that is quickly finished very early by 3 families. After that, they sneak drinks amongst themselves. I find it very rude and uncomfortable.

My ILs don’t drink and it causes a scene if we want to even have just a glass of wine with dinner at their house. Visits are excruciatingly painful in the blaring Fox News kind of way and a drink or two would go a long way. When they come here, we drink whatever we want since it’s our house.

My parents have happy hour every night and everyone can drink what they like though my mother starts getting judgy if you have more than 2 in a night even as she’s asking my dad for “just one more half glass of wine.”

Anonymous wrote:Yes. A metric shit-ton.

+100

Moderate amount.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes. We visit for three nights and I'll have 4 or 5 drinks each night. Plus I'll smoke a small bowl of pot when I take the dog for a walk around 8 each night. Amazingly non one notices.

They probably notice and don’t say anything.

Right? It is impossible not to notice the smell of pot.

My MIL stocks nothing, so we drink nothing. My mom stocks her cabinet for parties, so we will imbibe a bit if we are in the mood.

never enough...

Less than I want to. My in-laws are active alcoholics. DH is over a decade in recovery.

So, at every family gathering, they pretend that they aren’t drinking even though they are clearly drunk and fooling no one with their coffee cups and plastic cups of “ice water.”
However, because we are all keeping up with this bizarre, dysfunctional charade, no one ever offers me any alcohol, and they pretend they don’t have any if I ask. Ughh...it drives me crazy.

Hell yes! We bring a case of wine with us as my in laws love to party. We get the games going and the drinks flowing around 3 every day. Great time.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes. We visit for three nights and I'll have 4 or 5 drinks each night. Plus I'll smoke a small bowl of pot when I take the dog for a walk around 8 each night. Amazingly non one notices.

They probably notice and don’t say anything.

My BIL sneaks cigarettes on the dog walks and it's plain as day. He reeks of smoke. You can smell it on him from across the room. I'm sure PP's in laws smell the pot on him and are disappointed in the loser their daughter married.