Anonymous wrote:What a depressing thread for a parent of a ninth grader. She's getting a B in math, so I guess it's all over for her!
I should definitely not open these threads.
Yes, DCUM college talk focuses on the superlatives. The top 20 schools, the Ivies, etc.
But if we step away from the elitism, many, many kids will NOT go to these top schools, and they will still be able to go to college. Our kids can get a decent college education at a reputable -- if not superlative -- school, and can go on and have a happy life, find a job, etc.
I'm not saying its bad to chase after "the best". But it is not a good fit for many (including my child), and the intense focus on the top schools on this board is not where many of us should focus. Especially if you'd need merit aid to access an elite school -- much harder to qualify for merit aid at the most competitive schools.
I am banking on my child getting merit aid at "lesser' non-elite colleges (which are actually reasonable schools, just not with national name recognition). My child's college search is focused on match and safety schools, where merit aid chances are greater. Using Naviance and getting a sense of which schools are reach, match, and target for your child based on GPA, SAT, is a good thing to explore to see what schools are realistic options.