Anonymous wrote:What about an annual subscription to Giant or Harris Teeter curbside pickup. It’s 100 bucks I believe.

Ask her which one she wants, plus Amazon prime. This gives flexibility for now and the future in addition to the extra compensation. She can use these services and be ready for future requests. Maybe a warehouse club too if she's interested.

My point is -- you're putting some practices in places that might help everyone in the future.

OP, I'm a nanny and haven't had my employers ask me this, but yes, I would do it if compensated.
As far as OP being "selfish" for visiting family, my employers saw the grandparents 2x in this 9 month span and each time, I was off 2 weeks prior, family stayed home and ordered groceries in the 2 weeks, they took the rapid tests week of, drove the 6 hours to/from there, etc. When they got back, I was off for a week before they got tested again. I definitely think it's possible to take trips and minimize exposure.

Enjoy the trip!

Anonymous wrote:Are you paying her for 24 hours a day, 7 days a week? If not it isn't reasonable to ask her.

Agree. You are one lazy person. OP.

OP, this is completely reasonable and fair. You aren't asking her to do this on a consistent basis - it's for a limited time.

If I have notice, I can easily go two weeks without going to the store. All she needs to do is plan ahead and get a grocery trip or two delivered. Easy.

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Anonymous wrote:Why 5 weeks? Two is sufficient.

OP here. I should have mentioned we are giving her four PAID weeks off around the visit. Two before and two after. Plus we are getting tested. Nanny will not be at risk any more than she is now when she goes to the store. We just cannot get covid three weeks before or who knows if we can go and we have to go.

That is very generous of you OP. If you are already giving her 2 weeks off before trip you really only need grocery delivery perhaps one week before that for fresh food etc anything nanny runs out. So just one online order would be needed. Why do you need her to do for 5 weeks?

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks, PPs. This was definitely our plan - to talk to her. We have a very good, open relationship. I was trying to gauge a number to throw out in the initial conversation. My guess is she’ll say yes to anything I suggest, but I can ask her to go home and do the math to see what works for her family. I also wanted to see how many people thought this was a good vs bad idea.

Yikes you’re awful. You’re admitting to taking advantage of this poor woman. Two weeks off before the visit is sufficient. Unless you’re paying her 24/7 stop making unreasonable demands of her just because you know she’ll say yes. This is a truly terrible way to treat your employee.

Woah, no way lady. My point in saying that is she’s very easy going and we are incredibly generous with her. So if I offered $500 a week extra she’d say yes or if I offered $400 a week she’d say yes. The whole point of this thread is that I don’t want to take advantage of her and so was soliciting opinions about what is generous/reasonable. One takeaway we’ve gotten so far is that 5 weeks is unnecessarily long. If we do this at all (which we might not) we’d discuss it with her and probably do it for the two weeks prior to her two weeks off. That gives us a month of zero exposure and she’d only have to forgo shopping in person for 2 weeks with plenty of notice and generous extra pay.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks, PPs. This was definitely our plan - to talk to her. We have a very good, open relationship. I was trying to gauge a number to throw out in the initial conversation. My guess is she’ll say yes to anything I suggest, but I can ask her to go home and do the math to see what works for her family. I also wanted to see how many people thought this was a good vs bad idea.

Yikes you’re awful. You’re admitting to taking advantage of this poor woman. Two weeks off before the visit is sufficient. Unless you’re paying her 24/7 stop making unreasonable demands of her just because you know she’ll say yes. This is a truly terrible way to treat your employee.

What about an annual subscription to Giant or Harris Teeter curbside pickup. It’s 100 bucks I believe.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks, PPs. This was definitely our plan - to talk to her. We have a very good, open relationship. I was trying to gauge a number to throw out in the initial conversation. My guess is she’ll say yes to anything I suggest, but I can ask her to go home and do the math to see what works for her family. I also wanted to see how many people thought this was a good vs bad idea.

You mention she has a family. Would you also expect her family to stay home and refrain from in person stores and grocery shopping?

Without sharing her family details - all you need to know is this isn’t an issue. Will not impact her in any other way than shopping, which is the only time she goes out.

Then a monetary incentive on top of it would be helpful but again it’s outside of work and personally I see that as an intrusion onto her personal life but other people see it different ways. I would also like to add that I do a lot of my grocery shopping at Latin markets and Asian markets because the ingredients are not available at American stores. As far as I know those places do not offer delivery or Instacart. I recognize my comment makes a huge stereotype about a nanny but I just wanna put it out there for you to consider That it may not be possible to do exclusive online grocery shopping.

+1, I really only go out to grocery shop but I also don't want multiple people touching my food.

It’s one extra person, if you normally scan your own groceries. If you go through a cashier who scans your groceries, there’s no difference in number of people. If you have someone who bags your groceries as well as scanning, there’s one less person.