Anonymous wrote:Don’t know the details for your situation, but for us, we are stopping all friends and activities two weeks before Christmas because we are planning to spend them with the grandparents.

And you are why COVID is increasing.

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Anonymous wrote:Hanging out once a month is not often. It sounds like you need to just let it go. You weren't friends.

That is definitely often.

Once a month is definitely often, especially these days.

Does this family also have a younger child? I am just wondering if it is the same family. Honestly, this is so rude and she is the one who should be mortified for lacking all social graces.

I would just say something like okay—stay safe and leave it because you don’t want to negatively affect your kid’s friendship.
It seems to me like she is one of those women who has a super tight group that she considers friends and everyone else is just a friendly acquaintance. You are the occasional guest star to her Monica, but not her Rachel or Phoebe. Maybe you’re the Guenther? Sorry.
(PS—for fun, watch the episode of Episodes with Guenther in it. Too funny a send up of the Friends mythology.)

Send her the broken heart emoji-lol

She is not worth the time or energy it would take to respond.

My kids have been friends with various kids over the years through school. Most normal people are innately kind and inclusive, particularly if their children are fond of your kids. I have also experienced, though more subtle than yours, snubs and insinuations that I am not good enough to be included in a particular social circle (we are apartment dwellers/non-lawyers/non-fancy people in the sea of Upper NW uppityness). In such instances, I remain nice out of deference to my kids and their relationships, but don't extend myself personally. It does bring me back to the days of high school and the mean girls table and it is not a good feeling.

I would keep this response her problem and not take it on as your own. I doubt her overwhelming large circle of friends is crammed full of kind, genuine friends.

She should be mortified by her own behavior. What she said was gross. You have nothing to be embarrassed about.

I don't think I could completely let the rudeness of it go.

"What a strange reply. Okay, take care!"

Is she foreign? I have a few Eastern European friends who don't mince words. I take them with a grain of salt and still love them ( that doesn't mean you need to love this woman, just that they are more direct)

"It's wasn't really that deep, but okay. I won't bother you again!"

Sounds like a fantastic new catch phrase among your real friends and family. Be sure to share at fire.

Anonymous wrote:Hanging out once a month is not often. It sounds like you need to just let it go. You weren't friends.

That is definitely often.

I’d send her some kind of whacko gif, passive aggressive or over the top search terms with a wink and thumbs up. Make it as awkward as possible.

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Anonymous wrote:I’d be laughing my butt off - at their expense. People are crazy.

+1 I’m cringing on this super-awkward woman’s behalf. I would definitely tell this story to a lot of people over the coming years.

Yeah, this one is going to be entertaining for years. OP, you dodged a creepy and rude bullet.

Anonymous wrote:What is a good comeback to this? It almost can’t be left without a snappy response

In this case no response is best. Not even OK. But don’t delete that text, OP. Don’t ever forget what trash that woman is.