I'm really grateful for this one: don't point something embarrassing out to people that they can't change in the moment. E.g., first said to me as a child when a lady in the grocery store's bra was glowing through her sweater. My mom modelled a lot of kindness and integrity.

"like". She rooted it out. I do the same to my kids.

The sad thing is I hear their TEACHERS using it on distance learning!

She taught me to always acknowledge and thank people for gifts.

If the givers were not local it meant I sat down and wrote a note/card that was mailed.

Displaying this type of gratitude is now considered passe'.

Anonymous wrote:My mom would revert to her native language for words she found crude, like "booger."

I have a pretty weird Swedish vocabulary!

We do this in our house but in French and Hindi. We had to tell our DD she can't talk back at school in either language.

Mr and Mrs no first names

Anonymous wrote:The one that immediately leaps to mind, OP, is not ending a sentence with "for."

Not ending a sentence with a preposition is not a real grammar rule.

My mom would revert to her native language for words she found crude, like "booger."

I have a pretty weird Swedish vocabulary!

I am doing WELL! It went WELL!

And obviously... yes, please. No, thank you.

And we had to eat all our vegetables.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:“I beg your pardon” instead of “what.”

Ugh, this is so middle-class.

Are you class-shaming me because of an etiquette quirk of my long-dead mother? That’s hilarious! (And she was actually a scrappy working class immigrant, btw. Seriously, though- thank you, snobby poster. I got a kick out of that.)

Sir and Ma’am was drilled into my head. My first professional job interview asked me why I didn’t mention my military service
I’m in my 40’s now and still say ma’am/sir to anyone older than me.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:“I beg your pardon” instead of “what.”

Of course “what” is U and “I beg your pardon” is non-U, so...

Sticklers come from all walks of life!

Never start eating your meal until your mother (or your host, depending on where you are) begins to eat.

Anonymous wrote:“I beg your pardon” instead of “what.”

Of course “what” is U and “I beg your pardon” is non-U, so...

milk in a jug on the table never a carton or bottle
never drink from a bowl
never put the knife in your mouth
never put your elbows on the table
never clear up before everyone has finished
never take food off another person's plate

I say "yes?" Instead of what
People have told me I sound like jeeves and wooster