Anonymous
Post 11/29/2020 20:46     Subject: Christmas List for 13 year old, 16, year olds, 17 year old, 19 year old
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My kid is 16 - Literally wants nothing
Basically said she has everything - doesn't need new clothes since she isn't going to school
has all the tech that she needs
suggested a dog - we vetoed
doesn't even want money or gift cards because she works pet sitting, has cash and no where to spend since she isn't going out much and has a hoard of gift cards



What a shitty parent you are. The kid wants nothing but a dog and you veto it? In the middle of a pandemic where suicide and depression rates have gone up? I’d be happy if that was all my kid wanted.


What a bizarre response! A parent isn't getting a dog (huge responsibility and expense) and that makes him/her a shitty parent?? yikes! I'm much more concerned about you than the PP.




NP. To me the biggest reason to veto an animal is that her daughter is 16. She will be off to college in 1-3 years max. Animals live much longer and then the parents are stuck with the pet while DD is off living her life. You always need to consider the lifespan of the pet. We are not a family that rehomes pets for any reason.

As it stands now I will be caring for three 8 year old lizards next fall. There’s no way I’d agree to any new pets from age 12 on.


I'm a shjtty parent, too! My 14 almost 15 yo wants a dog, too. No way. My SIL did that when her girls were teens. Kid who wanted it took care of it for a few months then was done picking up the crap in the backyard. Now, they're gone and guess who can't travel?
Anonymous
Post 11/29/2020 17:28     Subject: Christmas List for 13 year old, 16, year olds, 17 year old, 19 year old
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Need some help. I am adopting a family from church and there is a 13 year old boy. As I don’t know anything about them other than they live in the city proper; any suggestions would be appreciated. I have a 10 year old and he keeps suggesting things for which you need to know something about the recipient - like a tablet or X box games.


Gift cards (amazon, dicks, or food ones like chipolte); gaming headset; hoodie (do you know his size?); AirPods.


Thanks! I do know his size. Food gift cards are a great idea, thanks.
Anonymous
Post 11/29/2020 15:48     Subject: Christmas List for 13 year old, 16, year olds, 17 year old, 19 year old
Anonymous wrote:How about an "experience" gift that can still be done outdoors? For example... invite a friend of two and treat them to Top Golf. It's outdoors, everyone has to wear a mask anyway, lots of fun...


Maybe a ropes course like the one at Sandy Spring Adventure Park?
Anonymous
Post 11/29/2020 15:07     Subject: Christmas List for 13 year old, 16, year olds, 17 year old, 19 year old
Anonymous wrote:Need some help. I am adopting a family from church and there is a 13 year old boy. As I don’t know anything about them other than they live in the city proper; any suggestions would be appreciated. I have a 10 year old and he keeps suggesting things for which you need to know something about the recipient - like a tablet or X box games.


Gift cards (amazon, dicks, or food ones like chipolte); gaming headset; hoodie (do you know his size?); AirPods.
Anonymous
Post 11/29/2020 13:35     Subject: Christmas List for 13 year old, 16, year olds, 17 year old, 19 year old
Need some help. I am adopting a family from church and there is a 13 year old boy. As I don’t know anything about them other than they live in the city proper; any suggestions would be appreciated. I have a 10 year old and he keeps suggesting things for which you need to know something about the recipient - like a tablet or X box games.
Anonymous
Post 11/28/2020 23:56     Subject: Christmas List for 13 year old, 16, year olds, 17 year old, 19 year old
Anonymous wrote:How about an "experience" gift that can still be done outdoors? For example... invite a friend of two and treat them to Top Golf. It's outdoors, everyone has to wear a mask anyway, lots of fun...


This is a great idea!
Anonymous
Post 11/28/2020 07:13     Subject: Re:Christmas List for 13 year old, 16, year olds, 17 year old, 19 year old
Anonymous wrote:19 year old DS came up with "some shirts, I guess" and an iPad Pro as suggestions. If it's like any other year, he'll give me several good ideas 12 to 36 hours before Christmas morning.

An ipad and shirts isn’t enough as presents? That’s more than my kids will be getting. Shirts and socks. Earbuds for the one who lost hers. A couple books. . AP study guides. (Because he doesn’t want us to spend the money on them so the only way to get around it is to make it a gift.) I am grateful for our kids lack of materialism. We’re not poor at all but in this area sometimes it sure feels like it.
Anonymous
Post 11/27/2020 23:48     Subject: Christmas List for 13 year old, 16, year olds, 17 year old, 19 year old
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What are you getting your 13 year old boy?


Gaming laptop, keyboard, mouse
Baseball hit-a-way
Scooter (bigger than a razor, has larger wheels, don't know the brand - already wrapped it)
Books (Hunger Games trilogy and a few others)
Sweatshirts/t-shirts/sweats (bands, anime, brands he likes)
Cozy throw blanket from a band he likes
A card game
Stocking stuffers (small discs of solid cologne, new skincare stuff, toilet spray haha, other things he would think are funny/fun)



What is "solid cologne"? Sounds like something my son would like.


https://oakcitybeardcompany.com/collections/solid-cologne

I got them on Amazon from this brand but there are quite a few brands out there. I got him the mini six sample pack: thought they were fun, not in a glass bottle and he could have six different scents to choose from (keep some in a drawer at home, easy to travel with in luggage, his backpack, his locker at school… when school happens again…).
Anonymous
Post 11/27/2020 20:32     Subject: Christmas List for 13 year old, 16, year olds, 17 year old, 19 year old
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My kid is 16 - Literally wants nothing
Basically said she has everything - doesn't need new clothes since she isn't going to school
has all the tech that she needs
suggested a dog - we vetoed
doesn't even want money or gift cards because she works pet sitting, has cash and no where to spend since she isn't going out much and has a hoard of gift cards



What a shitty parent you are. The kid wants nothing but a dog and you veto it? In the middle of a pandemic where suicide and depression rates have gone up? I’d be happy if that was all my kid wanted.


I’m the other parent who said no to a dog. I love dogs and know exactly what is involved in their care. That is why we are not in any position to take on that responsibility. Life will get back to normal someday and our family will not be home much at all. Responsible families look at getting a pet as a long term commitment. The teens will be even older and possibly not here in a few years. While I love dogs, I’m not interested in having a pet for 10-15+ years at this point in my life. DD can adopt her own dog when she’s an adult.
Anonymous
Post 11/27/2020 16:40     Subject: Re:Christmas List for 13 year old, 16, year olds, 17 year old, 19 year old
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I told mine if they didn't give me a list, then they couldn't complain about getting socks and underwear. Once I said that, guess what appeared. This is my 15 year old boy's list. He is super sporty and he is not getting everything on this list:

-new xbox
2K21
Madden 21
Call of Duty Cold War
X Box Gift Card
Tickets to something I would like (usually we do an experience gift to a sporting event) Not sure what I can get since nothing is going on.
Pullover with his high school's insignia
Gonzaga basketball jersey
basketball arm sleeves



This is a good list. Anything spirts related for boys.


My boys would politely thank and then surreptitiously glare at me if they got sports stuff. Tickets to the NSO, on the other hand ...
Anonymous
Post 11/27/2020 16:36     Subject: Christmas List for 13 year old, 16, year olds, 17 year old, 19 year old
Anonymous wrote:My kid is 16 - Literally wants nothing
Basically said she has everything - doesn't need new clothes since she isn't going to school
has all the tech that she needs
suggested a dog - we vetoed
doesn't even want money or gift cards because she works pet sitting, has cash and no where to spend since she isn't going out much and has a hoard of gift cards



Time to introduce her to something new via gift! Something she doesn't know she'll enjoy yet, e.g., Broadway show IOU, digital camera, robotics set, knitting gear, a ski trip, cooking or baking lessons with chefs tools, etc.

Or since she like animals, donate to train a dog somewhere like here: https://k9partnersforpatriots.com/service-dog-training-program/
Anonymous
Post 11/27/2020 16:23     Subject: Christmas List for 13 year old, 16, year olds, 17 year old, 19 year old
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What are you getting your 13 year old boy?


Gaming laptop, keyboard, mouse
Baseball hit-a-way
Scooter (bigger than a razor, has larger wheels, don't know the brand - already wrapped it)
Books (Hunger Games trilogy and a few others)
Sweatshirts/t-shirts/sweats (bands, anime, brands he likes)
Cozy throw blanket from a band he likes
A card game
Stocking stuffers (small discs of solid cologne, new skincare stuff, toilet spray haha, other things he would think are funny/fun)



What is "solid cologne"? Sounds like something my son would like.
Anonymous
Post 11/27/2020 14:49     Subject: Christmas List for 13 year old, 16, year olds, 17 year old, 19 year old
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My kid is 16 - Literally wants nothing
Basically said she has everything - doesn't need new clothes since she isn't going to school
has all the tech that she needs
suggested a dog - we vetoed
doesn't even want money or gift cards because she works pet sitting, has cash and no where to spend since she isn't going out much and has a hoard of gift cards



What a shitty parent you are. The kid wants nothing but a dog and you veto it? In the middle of a pandemic where suicide and depression rates have gone up? I’d be happy if that was all my kid wanted.


What a bizarre response! A parent isn't getting a dog (huge responsibility and expense) and that makes him/her a shitty parent?? yikes! I'm much more concerned about you than the PP.




NP. To me the biggest reason to veto an animal is that her daughter is 16. She will be off to college in 1-3 years max. Animals live much longer and then the parents are stuck with the pet while DD is off living her life. You always need to consider the lifespan of the pet. We are not a family that rehomes pets for any reason.

As it stands now I will be caring for three 8 year old lizards next fall. There’s no way I’d agree to any new pets from age 12 on.
Anonymous
Post 11/27/2020 14:42     Subject: Christmas List for 13 year old, 16, year olds, 17 year old, 19 year old
How about an "experience" gift that can still be done outdoors? For example... invite a friend of two and treat them to Top Golf. It's outdoors, everyone has to wear a mask anyway, lots of fun...
Anonymous
Post 11/27/2020 14:40     Subject: Christmas List for 13 year old, 16, year olds, 17 year old, 19 year old
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My kid is 16 - Literally wants nothing
Basically said she has everything - doesn't need new clothes since she isn't going to school
has all the tech that she needs
suggested a dog - we vetoed
doesn't even want money or gift cards because she works pet sitting, has cash and no where to spend since she isn't going out much and has a hoard of gift cards



What a shitty parent you are. The kid wants nothing but a dog and you veto it? In the middle of a pandemic where suicide and depression rates have gone up? I’d be happy if that was all my kid wanted.


What a bizarre response! A parent isn't getting a dog (huge responsibility and expense) and that makes him/her a shitty parent?? yikes! I'm much more concerned about you than the PP.