Anonymous wrote:Also start working on making sure you and your family as a family rule don’t talk about and comment on other people’s bodies. I think that’s how my husbands house was such a safe place. They truly do not comment on people’s bodies - not those in their home, not extended family, not people on the street. Good and bad. Bodies are bodies and we feed them well and move them to our enjoyment is how they live their life and it creates such a safe spot! You may think you don’t do this too but after being around my husbands family I realized how much my family actually does make comments in subtle ways. Not saying oh that person is fat! Of course, but in more subtle ways that tell you how different bodies rank. So start paying attention and you will probably notice ways you are relating what are ideal bodies (this is the same for weight, you shouldn’t be relaying that a certain weight is ideal either, health and weight are not synonymous so focus on behaviors like finding ways you enjoy moving your body etc). Don’t comment on each other’s bodies if at all possible.

Anonymous wrote:I don't know why everyone is jumping all over this poster and telling her she's mentally ill. If you read the relationships board on here (or anywhere), you'll see how many women fret about dating a shorter man, not finding them attractive, etc. It's not fair or reasonable but a man's height is a big deal in a social context. I think the advice about no child (or person) having all "ideal" assets is a good one. There are many more things to a person than height and it's a good reminder not to place too much emphasis on any one attribute.