Is it difficult to spell or say then stfu or get married to a normal last name

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Anonymous wrote:You expect parents to call you Ms. Lastname? We are all adults. Parents and teachers should be on a first-name basis u less kids are present. So, in an email it should be addressing by first name.

Absolutely, I expect that parents address teachers by their last name, and likewise for teachers to address parents by their last name. Neither should be on a first-name basis unless they happen to know each other socially, as well.

It is outright rude for a parent or teacher to automatically use a first name in an email to the other. It is not appropriate.

That is your opinion. That is not my opinion. I think it is much more appropriate for adults to call one another by first name when child is not present, especially over email when there is no wat a child could overhear it. It seems rude not to do so. And when my child’s principal addresses me in an email as Dear firstname, when we have never been in touch before, I welcomeD it and don’t find it rude. We are adults, and I write back using Dear firstname.

Mrs G. = Mrs. Garrett.

As for Mrs. C, I doubt the parent shortening this teacher's name is The Fonz.

Parents are not a teacher's colleague and are not in a professional setting with them.

Anonymous wrote:Dear Mrs. G:

I often write to teachers by saying Hi Ms. A and Ms. L (if there are two and there usually are). I think it is a friendly way of communicating when we do a lot of it.

Also, formally I should be addressed as "Dr. Fullofherself" but you call me Mrs. Husbandslastname and just let it go. So I type "Mrs. G." and you got my name wrong all last year.

Thank you.
Sincerely, Dr. F

PS: I always wondered the derivation of your last name but would not have guessed Slovak. Cool!

Bahaha. Busted, Teach.

My kid's teacher has a somewhat long last name that took us a few times to figure out how to pronounce correctly. I always call her Mrs. Teacherlastname in emails and sign my emails with my first name. She always addresses me as Mrs. Mylastname which annoys me because I feel like it's pretty obvious I'm NOT MRS. Mylastname: DC and DC's father have the same last name, I do not. She has seen DH and me together, and heard me refer to "my DH" as DC's father, so she also knows my different last name is not a case of me being remarried with a new last name. I really wish she'd either use my first name since it's how I sign my emails, or MS. Mylastname.

That said, typing this response is probably 10x the amount of time I've spent thinking about it until now, so while annoying in the moment it's not enough for me to get bent out of shape.

Anonymous wrote:You expect parents to call you Ms. Lastname? We are all adults. Parents and teachers should be on a first-name basis u less kids are present. So, in an email it should be addressing by first name.

Absolutely, I expect that parents address teachers by their last name, and likewise for teachers to address parents by their last name. Neither should be on a first-name basis unless they happen to know each other socially, as well.

It is outright rude for a parent or teacher to automatically use a first name in an email to the other. It is not appropriate.

Dear Mrs. G:

I often write to teachers by saying Hi Ms. A and Ms. L (if there are two and there usually are). I think it is a friendly way of communicating when we do a lot of it.

Also, formally I should be addressed as "Dr. Fullofherself" but you call me Mrs. Husbandslastname and just let it go. So I type "Mrs. G." and you got my name wrong all last year.

Thank you.
Sincerely, Dr. F

PS: I always wondered the derivation of your last name but would not have guessed Slovak. Cool!

Mr.s C was good enough for Mrs. Cunningham, it should be good enough for you. Signed, Arthur Fonzerelli.

I'm a parent and agree that's it's easier to call teachers Mr. Mrs. Ms. so that kids learn it; I don't mind if they use my first name and I use first names with my colleagues, of course. It's OK to have different rules.

We had a teacher with a very long, GREEK last name, and I nailed it in the first month, even though she said to call her Mrs. P. Was so proud. My child's thank you also spelled it out. That being said, I can't see caring about this.

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Anonymous wrote:I am so confused about all the people talking about using Mrs./Mr. LastName in a professional setting... so you say that for your colleagues?? Your boss? That’s so bizarre to me.

I’m a teacher and at my school adults call all adults Mr./Ms. Last name. I hate it, but when I asked coworkers about it (I was new there) they were horrified that I would use a first name for someone older or more senior. I also discovered it’s common etiquette among the Black community where I live.

For a lot of teachers they are just trying to minimize the code switching. We want the children to call us Mr. LastName and Mrs. LastName. It is easier to stick with calling our colleagues the same thing. I have been teaching at the same school for 15+ years, and I have been teaching next door to and on the same team as some of the same teachers for 10-15 years. We always call each other Mr. LastName and Mrs. LastName in school or when referring to each other. It works for us. If it doesn't work for you then that's fine. Different strokes for different folks.

Anonymous wrote:I am so confused about all the people talking about using Mrs./Mr. LastName in a professional setting... so you say that for your colleagues?? Your boss? That’s so bizarre to me.

I’m a teacher and at my school adults call all adults Mr./Ms. Last name. I hate it, but when I asked coworkers about it (I was new there) they were horrified that I would use a first name for someone older or more senior. I also discovered it’s common etiquette among the Black community where I live.

I am so confused about all the people talking about using Mrs./Mr. LastName in a professional setting... so you say that for your colleagues?? Your boss? That’s so bizarre to me.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You expect parents to call you Ms. Lastname? We are all adults. Parents and teachers should be on a first-name basis u less kids are present. So, in an email it should be addressing by first name.

Why? We are in a professional work environment. I am a teacher and have never once called a parent by their first name. I'm not friends with my students' parents. Boundaries people. I also don't accept Facebook friend requests from them. Are you suggesting I do that? Since we're all so friendly with each other?

I always sign my first name with the teacher, I'd prefer that than 'Mrs.' But always refer to them as Ms./Mrs. whether it's writing or in person.

I sign my first name and don’t address the teacher as anything unless she signs her first name. Does not mean we are friends or people are unprofessional. Just is a sign of mutual respect. In every professional work environment I have ever worked in, everyone has been on a first-name basis.

I always address teachers as Mr. LastName or Mrs. LastName or Ms. LastName. I don't want them calling me anything other than Mrs. LastName either. I'm not at the coffee shop.

Anonymous wrote:OMG. You’re too sensitive. We have several teachers with long complicated names and they gladly go by Mrs. K or Mrs. P or Mr. A. It’s not a big deal.

So we'll just call you A for "anonymous" but in our heads we'll be thinking A for "a$$"

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You expect parents to call you Ms. Lastname? We are all adults. Parents and teachers should be on a first-name basis u less kids are present. So, in an email it should be addressing by first name.

Why? We are in a professional work environment. I am a teacher and have never once called a parent by their first name. I'm not friends with my students' parents. Boundaries people. I also don't accept Facebook friend requests from them. Are you suggesting I do that? Since we're all so friendly with each other?

In professional environments adults call one another by their first name. That does not mean you are friends in real life or on Facebook. It is what adults do with one another in professional environments.

At my school, we use last names only. No courtesy title.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You expect parents to call you Ms. Lastname? We are all adults. Parents and teachers should be on a first-name basis u less kids are present. So, in an email it should be addressing by first name.

Why? We are in a professional work environment. I am a teacher and have never once called a parent by their first name. I'm not friends with my students' parents. Boundaries people. I also don't accept Facebook friend requests from them. Are you suggesting I do that? Since we're all so friendly with each other?

I always sign my first name with the teacher, I'd prefer that than 'Mrs.' But always refer to them as Ms./Mrs. whether it's writing or in person.

I sign my first name and don’t address the teacher as anything unless she signs her first name. Does not mean we are friends or people are unprofessional. Just is a sign of mutual respect. In every professional work environment I have ever worked in, everyone has been on a first-name basis.