Anonymous wrote:Swimming

This. You train to do your best times and maybe get a placing. While in soccer and tennis you face a random element (i.e. the movement of the ball), in swimming you know what you've got to do and try and do it as well as you can. Also synchronized swimming?

Anonymous wrote:Obviously not a great option now, but when my daughter was 7, she discovered she loved rock climbing. There are plenty of gyms around with that option.

+1

Running

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Anonymous wrote:My non aggressive DD (age 11) plays softball (just rec league)

She really likes it. I’m sure club teams are totally different, but rec teams are just for fun. Really nice team sport with a great group of girls.

So maybe tball in the spring? Tball tends to be mixed boys and girls, and might be fun to try.

This!! Except it isn’t the most active, heart-pumping, calorie-burning sport, which you seem to want. For that, any individual sport is going to be better. Bit of you want a team sport for your non-aggressive girl, softball ALL THE WAY!!!

Club softball is extremely active and cardiovascular anyway. You have no idea how hard those girls work.

Martial arts -- capoeira, in particular, is very dance-like, or aikido, which is a particularly defensive art.

And don't rule out dance. She doesn't have to be a ballerina -- there are lots of forms of dance: contemporary/modern, hip-hop, tap, jazz, etc.

Softball

Ice skating

Running/cross-country

Volleyball is great for non aggressive girls. Very defined roles

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Anonymous wrote:She’s 5, OP. How about a playground?

It’s possible to both play on playgrounds and participate in sports that offer additional benefits.

Thank you pp.

Yes, she's in private school. She's on the playground everyday.

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Anonymous wrote:Ice skating. It’s a great sport with the potential for life long enjoyment, and easy to enjoy progress without competition — unless she wants that at some point.

What planet do you live on? Ice skating is as competitive as can be, and it doesn't make any sense without competition.

PP: Many people manage to enjoy participation in activities and making progress without being competitive. I’m not sure why this “doesn’t make any sense” to you. She can seek instruction, take USFSA tests — if she wants to, and even participate in ice shows, all without having to compete for medals. Like most sports, and like many things in life, it can be competitive but doesn’t have to be.

My planet includes enough skating lessons through the FS club at my college to appreciate finding a sport that has brought me much joy. I saved my competitive drive for my academic accomplishments. Skating brought me much welcome balance.

Circus skills or trapeze class

I also second golf.

As someone forced into sports who is naturally not aggressive I really like golf for this. I’ve done almost all so feel free to ask details.

Golf
Rowing
Riding / equestrian
Entry level gymnastics. I’m not familiar with upper levels.
Track and field
Softball is not one that I would have suggested initially but it works really well after thinking about it.
Sailing might work

How do you feel about cheerleading?
Tennis could go either way

Avoid:
Volleyball
Basketball
Lacrosse
Soccer
Field hockey
Rugby

+1 on softball. As a softball coach, I have seen many girls who struggled in other sports due to lack of aggressiveness excel in softball.

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Anonymous wrote:Ice skating. It’s a great sport with the potential for life long enjoyment, and easy to enjoy progress without competition — unless she wants that at some point.

What planet do you live on? Ice skating is as competitive as can be, and it doesn't make any sense without competition.

Op here- Competition is okay. I was referring to physical competition where one on one aggression was an advantage. This is not really her personality.

What happened to working hard and mastering something for its own sake. Not everything needs to be a competition. Especially something that isn't a varsity sport at college level. OP, I took ice skating several times a week as a kid and loved. I also hated physical competition type sports.

Any non-contact sport. In high school, rowing.

Anonymous wrote:Capoeira - while it's a martial art, it's done entirely non-contact.

My 5 year old is already an expert at that.

Capoeira - while it's a martial art, it's done entirely non-contact.