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Anonymous wrote:There should be a compromise here. Unless you suspect shoddy work by her body shop or it would require added inconvenience on your part, why not let her find somewhere more affordable? I can understand if she is asking you to add 30 miles driving to get to a specific shop, but otherwise you just seem to want to soak her rather than just trying to make yourself whole.

NP. I don't even begin to understand this thinking. If OP ran her car into a wall herself, she would pick the body shop. I don't see any reason why she shouldn't pick the body shop based on whatever criteria she would typically use. It's not her job in any way to make this more convenient or cheaper for the other driver, colleague or not. The colleague caused her harm, not the other way around.

A bit of decency. If your friend spilled wine on your shirt by accident and she bought the same exact shirt on sale at one store, would you insist that she buy it full price elsewhere?

No, but I would expect she buy the one with the same thread count, not the one from the outlet that might be lower quality, not a used one that someone might have shrunk, etc. I do not think this is the same as that. And, anyway, I would probably tell someone not to worry about a shirt. Choosing your own shop is not about the price. It's about getting a repair that you can trust. I have had multiple experiences at body shops from terrible (forgot a crucial part that another shop found later when I was there for something else) to amazing with attention to all details. All were paid for by insurance so by definition none of the prices were outrageous. But there there's a huge range of quality and trustworthiness, and I want to go somewhere I trust for my car and I don't believe that is indecent.

What part of “exact same shirt” is hard to understand?

Anonymous wrote:If someone hits a car, would you go through your insurance or would you directly go through the insurance of the person who hit the car?

Anonymous wrote:If someone hits a car, would you go through your insurance or would you directly go through the insurance of the person who hit the car?

Anonymous wrote:If her guy doesn't do a good job, you probably won't have any recourse to get it done properly. If done through insurance through an approved shop, there's probably a quality guarantee.

I think insurance companies also agree prices with body shops, just like PPOs negotiate prices with hospitals. The insurance price may be less than the non-negotiated price.

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Anonymous wrote:There should be a compromise here. Unless you suspect shoddy work by her body shop or it would require added inconvenience on your part, why not let her find somewhere more affordable? I can understand if she is asking you to add 30 miles driving to get to a specific shop, but otherwise you just seem to want to soak her rather than just trying to make yourself whole.

NP. I don't even begin to understand this thinking. If OP ran her car into a wall herself, she would pick the body shop. I don't see any reason why she shouldn't pick the body shop based on whatever criteria she would typically use. It's not her job in any way to make this more convenient or cheaper for the other driver, colleague or not. The colleague caused her harm, not the other way around.

A bit of decency. If your friend spilled wine on your shirt by accident and she bought the same exact shirt on sale at one store, would you insist that she buy it full price elsewhere?

No, but I would expect she buy the one with the same thread count, not the one from the outlet that might be lower quality, not a used one that someone might have shrunk, etc. I do not think this is the same as that. And, anyway, I would probably tell someone not to worry about a shirt. Choosing your own shop is not about the price. It's about getting a repair that you can trust. I have had multiple experiences at body shops from terrible (forgot a crucial part that another shop found later when I was there for something else) to amazing with attention to all details. All were paid for by insurance so by definition none of the prices were outrageous. But there there's a huge range of quality and trustworthiness, and I want to go somewhere I trust for my car and I don't believe that is indecent.

What part of “exact same shirt” is hard to understand?

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Anonymous wrote:There should be a compromise here. Unless you suspect shoddy work by her body shop or it would require added inconvenience on your part, why not let her find somewhere more affordable? I can understand if she is asking you to add 30 miles driving to get to a specific shop, but otherwise you just seem to want to soak her rather than just trying to make yourself whole.

NP. I don't even begin to understand this thinking. If OP ran her car into a wall herself, she would pick the body shop. I don't see any reason why she shouldn't pick the body shop based on whatever criteria she would typically use. It's not her job in any way to make this more convenient or cheaper for the other driver, colleague or not. The colleague caused her harm, not the other way around.

A bit of decency. If your friend spilled wine on your shirt by accident and she bought the same exact shirt on sale at one store, would you insist that she buy it full price elsewhere?

No, but I would expect she buy the one with the same thread count, not the one from the outlet that might be lower quality, not a used one that someone might have shrunk, etc. I do not think this is the same as that. And, anyway, I would probably tell someone not to worry about a shirt. Choosing your own shop is not about the price. It's about getting a repair that you can trust. I have had multiple experiences at body shops from terrible (forgot a crucial part that another shop found later when I was there for something else) to amazing with attention to all details. All were paid for by insurance so by definition none of the prices were outrageous. But there there's a huge range of quality and trustworthiness, and I want to go somewhere I trust for my car and I don't believe that is indecent.

What part of “exact same shirt” is hard to understand?

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Anonymous wrote:There should be a compromise here. Unless you suspect shoddy work by her body shop or it would require added inconvenience on your part, why not let her find somewhere more affordable? I can understand if she is asking you to add 30 miles driving to get to a specific shop, but otherwise you just seem to want to soak her rather than just trying to make yourself whole.

NP. I don't even begin to understand this thinking. If OP ran her car into a wall herself, she would pick the body shop. I don't see any reason why she shouldn't pick the body shop based on whatever criteria she would typically use. It's not her job in any way to make this more convenient or cheaper for the other driver, colleague or not. The colleague caused her harm, not the other way around.

A bit of decency. If your friend spilled wine on your shirt by accident and she bought the same exact shirt on sale at one store, would you insist that she buy it full price elsewhere?

No, but I would expect she buy the one with the same thread count, not the one from the outlet that might be lower quality, not a used one that someone might have shrunk, etc. I do not think this is the same as that. And, anyway, I would probably tell someone not to worry about a shirt. Choosing your own shop is not about the price. It's about getting a repair that you can trust. I have had multiple experiences at body shops from terrible (forgot a crucial part that another shop found later when I was there for something else) to amazing with attention to all details. All were paid for by insurance so by definition none of the prices were outrageous. But there there's a huge range of quality and trustworthiness, and I want to go somewhere I trust for my car and I don't believe that is indecent.

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Anonymous wrote:My colleague hit my car and the front of my car is damaged.
I have taken pictures of both the cars.
She says not to contact her car insurance.
She giving me a car mechanic number to contact and get the car repaired and says she will pay the mechanic.

Please advice what is the best option? Is it better to contact the car insurance?

I stupidly let someone convince me to do this years ago. Please contact your insurance and also make a police report.

Anonymous wrote:My colleague hit my car and the front of my car is damaged.
I have taken pictures of both the cars.
She says not to contact her car insurance.
She giving me a car mechanic number to contact and get the car repaired and says she will pay the mechanic.

Please advice what is the best option? Is it better to contact the car insurance?

Anonymous wrote:Since it’s my colleague I would go with her shop. For anyone I don’t know I wouldn’t. If you go thru your insurance she will think you a major byatch. I doubt her body shop does too poor a job. If you have a run of the mill not so new car there’s not much to be afraid of.

Anonymous wrote:Y'all need a police report.