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Anonymous wrote:Op here- For those saying im a horrible mother not trying to foster a relationship with my daughter’s dad because of my reaction to this, ughh! We have been separated since she was 2, i have always had an open door policy for him, he used to come and get DD in my house on weekends til new wife said she wasn't comfortable with how good my relationship was with my ex, as her parents got divorced and never spoke to each other, so she didnt want him to enter my house to pick up DD, so he would wait outside and call for her to come out, which was ridiculous but I let it slide. I find it weird to randomly call the wife when she was never formally introduced to me, we dont live in the same state and she has never made an effort to know me. Both times I met her are because I went to visit when they had a baby so I could meet the baby and introduce myself. I have done nothing less but try go support and nurture DD’s relationship with him despite numerous visit cancelations,ect. In addition, the child support he gives is minimal and i have been giving him 50% of it back every month as he kept saying it was hard for him having a wife, baby and still paying that amount yadi yada ($850) because his new job pays less money, ect so, every month I wire him back $400 on my own free will. I pay 100% of all my daughters expenses, activities, flights, insurance, needs, extra Cullicular, don’t ask him for anything. Theres been times where he said he didnt have gas money or toll money to drive and get her and I wired him the gas money! There is nothing more to the story or to my relationship or lack thereof with the wife, this is what we’ve been living for 8 years!

Your jealousy is very evident in this post.

NP. What jealousy? This is a crazy statement.

OP, ignore this poster. Do not send any money back from child support and don’t let your daughter know how you feel
about her dad. You’re doing great BTW.

Not crazy. It's based on OPs statements which indicate she obviously has a lot of negative emotion (jealousy, resentment, whatever) over her ex moving on and his wife and child. Just look at bolded - she's blaming SM and attributing comments she supposedly made, yet then says she has no relationship with her. And who the hell would want their husband's ex wife showing up after they've had a baby to "introduce themselves." Talk about intrusive and boundary crossing.

After being divorced for 8 years she should feel ambivalence if not neutral acceptance. OP - get counseling to get your emotions back on a healthy track or your daughter will suffer the consequence.

Oh please. If you were bending over backwards to help your child foster a relationship with her parent, only to have the new spouse get in the way of the relationship, you would not be ambivalent.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here- For those saying im a horrible mother not trying to foster a relationship with my daughter’s dad because of my reaction to this, ughh! We have been separated since she was 2, i have always had an open door policy for him, he used to come and get DD in my house on weekends til new wife said she wasn't comfortable with how good my relationship was with my ex, as her parents got divorced and never spoke to each other, so she didnt want him to enter my house to pick up DD, so he would wait outside and call for her to come out, which was ridiculous but I let it slide. I find it weird to randomly call the wife when she was never formally introduced to me, we dont live in the same state and she has never made an effort to know me. Both times I met her are because I went to visit when they had a baby so I could meet the baby and introduce myself. I have done nothing less but try go support and nurture DD’s relationship with him despite numerous visit cancelations,ect. In addition, the child support he gives is minimal and i have been giving him 50% of it back every month as he kept saying it was hard for him having a wife, baby and still paying that amount yadi yada ($850) because his new job pays less money, ect so, every month I wire him back $400 on my own free will. I pay 100% of all my daughters expenses, activities, flights, insurance, needs, extra Cullicular, don’t ask him for anything. Theres been times where he said he didnt have gas money or toll money to drive and get her and I wired him the gas money! There is nothing more to the story or to my relationship or lack thereof with the wife, this is what we’ve been living for 8 years!

Your jealousy is very evident in this post.

NP. What jealousy? This is a crazy statement.

OP, ignore this poster. Do not send any money back from child support and don’t let your daughter know how you feel
about her dad. You’re doing great BTW.

Not crazy. It's based on OPs statements which indicate she obviously has a lot of negative emotion (jealousy, resentment, whatever) over her ex moving on and his wife and child. Just look at bolded - she's blaming SM and attributing comments she supposedly made, yet then says she has no relationship with her. And who the hell would want their husband's ex wife showing up after they've had a baby to "introduce themselves." Talk about intrusive and boundary crossing.

After being divorced for 8 years she should feel ambivalence if not neutral acceptance. OP - get counseling to get your emotions back on a healthy track or your daughter will suffer the consequence.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here- For those saying im a horrible mother not trying to foster a relationship with my daughter’s dad because of my reaction to this, ughh! We have been separated since she was 2, i have always had an open door policy for him, he used to come and get DD in my house on weekends til new wife said she wasn't comfortable with how good my relationship was with my ex, as her parents got divorced and never spoke to each other, so she didnt want him to enter my house to pick up DD, so he would wait outside and call for her to come out, which was ridiculous but I let it slide. I find it weird to randomly call the wife when she was never formally introduced to me, we dont live in the same state and she has never made an effort to know me. Both times I met her are because I went to visit when they had a baby so I could meet the baby and introduce myself. I have done nothing less but try go support and nurture DD’s relationship with him despite numerous visit cancelations,ect. In addition, the child support he gives is minimal and i have been giving him 50% of it back every month as he kept saying it was hard for him having a wife, baby and still paying that amount yadi yada ($850) because his new job pays less money, ect so, every month I wire him back $400 on my own free will. I pay 100% of all my daughters expenses, activities, flights, insurance, needs, extra Cullicular, don’t ask him for anything. Theres been times where he said he didnt have gas money or toll money to drive and get her and I wired him the gas money! There is nothing more to the story or to my relationship or lack thereof with the wife, this is what we’ve been living for 8 years!

Your jealousy is very evident in this post.

NP. What jealousy? This is a crazy statement.

OP, ignore this poster. Do not send any money back from child support and don’t let your daughter know how you feel
about her dad. You’re doing great BTW.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here- For those saying im a horrible mother not trying to foster a relationship with my daughter’s dad because of my reaction to this, ughh! We have been separated since she was 2, i have always had an open door policy for him, he used to come and get DD in my house on weekends til new wife said she wasn't comfortable with how good my relationship was with my ex, as her parents got divorced and never spoke to each other, so she didnt want him to enter my house to pick up DD, so he would wait outside and call for her to come out, which was ridiculous but I let it slide. I find it weird to randomly call the wife when she was never formally introduced to me, we dont live in the same state and she has never made an effort to know me. Both times I met her are because I went to visit when they had a baby so I could meet the baby and introduce myself. I have done nothing less but try go support and nurture DD’s relationship with him despite numerous visit cancelations,ect. In addition, the child support he gives is minimal and i have been giving him 50% of it back every month as he kept saying it was hard for him having a wife, baby and still paying that amount yadi yada ($850) because his new job pays less money, ect so, every month I wire him back $400 on my own free will. I pay 100% of all my daughters expenses, activities, flights, insurance, needs, extra Cullicular, don’t ask him for anything. Theres been times where he said he didnt have gas money or toll money to drive and get her and I wired him the gas money! There is nothing more to the story or to my relationship or lack thereof with the wife, this is what we’ve been living for 8 years!

Your jealousy is very evident in this post.

Anonymous wrote:How many jobs is the new wife working?

Anonymous wrote:Op here- For those saying im a horrible mother not trying to foster a relationship with my daughter’s dad because of my reaction to this, ughh! We have been separated since she was 2, i have always had an open door policy for him, he used to come and get DD in my house on weekends til new wife said she wasn't comfortable with how good my relationship was with my ex, as her parents got divorced and never spoke to each other, so she didnt want him to enter my house to pick up DD, so he would wait outside and call for her to come out, which was ridiculous but I let it slide. I find it weird to randomly call the wife when she was never formally introduced to me, we dont live in the same state and she has never made an effort to know me. Both times I met her are because I went to visit when they had a baby so I could meet the baby and introduce myself. I have done nothing less but try go support and nurture DD’s relationship with him despite numerous visit cancelations,ect. In addition, the child support he gives is minimal and i have been giving him 50% of it back every month as he kept saying it was hard for him having a wife, baby and still paying that amount yadi yada ($850) because his new job pays less money, ect so, every month I wire him back $400 on my own free will. I pay 100% of all my daughters expenses, activities, flights, insurance, needs, extra Cullicular, don’t ask him for anything. Theres been times where he said he didnt have gas money or toll money to drive and get her and I wired him the gas money! There is nothing more to the story or to my relationship or lack thereof with the wife, this is what we’ve been living for 8 years!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here- For those saying im a horrible mother not trying to foster a relationship with my daughter’s dad because of my reaction to this, ughh! We have been separated since she was 2, i have always had an open door policy for him, he used to come and get DD in my house on weekends til new wife said she wasn't comfortable with how good my relationship was with my ex, as her parents got divorced and never spoke to each other, so she didnt want him to enter my house to pick up DD, so he would wait outside and call for her to come out, which was ridiculous but I let it slide. I find it weird to randomly call the wife when she was never formally introduced to me, we dont live in the same state and she has never made an effort to know me. Both times I met her are because I went to visit when they had a baby so I could meet the baby and introduce myself. I have done nothing less but try go support and nurture DD’s relationship with him despite numerous visit cancelations,ect. In addition, the child support he gives is minimal and i have been giving him 50% of it back every month as he kept saying it was hard for him having a wife, baby and still paying that amount yadi yada ($850) because his new job pays less money, ect so, every month I wire him back $400 on my own free will. I pay 100% of all my daughters expenses, activities, flights, insurance, needs, extra Cullicular, don’t ask him for anything. Theres been times where he said he didnt have gas money or toll money to drive and get her and I wired him the gas money! There is nothing more to the story or to my relationship or lack thereof with the wife, this is what we’ve been living for 8 years!

Your jealousy is very evident in this post.

Anonymous wrote:Op here- For those saying im a horrible mother not trying to foster a relationship with my daughter’s dad because of my reaction to this, ughh! We have been separated since she was 2, i have always had an open door policy for him, he used to come and get DD in my house on weekends til new wife said she wasn't comfortable with how good my relationship was with my ex, as her parents got divorced and never spoke to each other, so she didnt want him to enter my house to pick up DD, so he would wait outside and call for her to come out, which was ridiculous but I let it slide. I find it weird to randomly call the wife when she was never formally introduced to me, we dont live in the same state and she has never made an effort to know me. Both times I met her are because I went to visit when they had a baby so I could meet the baby and introduce myself. I have done nothing less but try go support and nurture DD’s relationship with him despite numerous visit cancelations,ect. In addition, the child support he gives is minimal and i have been giving him 50% of it back every month as he kept saying it was hard for him having a wife, baby and still paying that amount yadi yada ($850) because his new job pays less money, ect so, every month I wire him back $400 on my own free will. I pay 100% of all my daughters expenses, activities, flights, insurance, needs, extra Cullicular, don’t ask him for anything. Theres been times where he said he didnt have gas money or toll money to drive and get her and I wired him the gas money! There is nothing more to the story or to my relationship or lack thereof with the wife, this is what we’ve been living for 8 years!

Anonymous wrote:Op here- For those saying im a horrible mother not trying to foster a relationship with my daughter’s dad because of my reaction to this, ughh! We have been separated since she was 2, i have always had an open door policy for him, he used to come and get DD in my house on weekends til new wife said she wasn't comfortable with how good my relationship was with my ex, as her parents got divorced and never spoke to each other, so she didnt want him to enter my house to pick up DD, so he would wait outside and call for her to come out, which was ridiculous but I let it slide. I find it weird to randomly call the wife when she was never formally introduced to me, we dont live in the same state and she has never made an effort to know me. Both times I met her are because I went to visit when they had a baby so I could meet the baby and introduce myself. I have done nothing less but try go support and nurture DD’s relationship with him despite numerous visit cancelations,ect. In addition, the child support he gives is minimal and i have been giving him 50% of it back every month as he kept saying it was hard for him having a wife, baby and still paying that amount yadi yada ($850) because his new job pays less money, ect so, every month I wire him back $400 on my own free will. I pay 100% of all my daughters expenses, activities, flights, insurance, needs, extra Cullicular, don’t ask him for anything. Theres been times where he said he didnt have gas money or toll money to drive and get her and I wired him the gas money! There is nothing more to the story or to my relationship or lack thereof with the wife, this is what we’ve been living for 8 years!

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Anonymous wrote:Thank you everyone for listening, i needed to vent but feel better. Im grateful that im healthy enough and able to take care of DD on my own and will keep it moving, knowing I can only rely on myself and keep doing what I was doing!

^This statement shows you are NOT healthy. Your daughter has a father yet you are mentally in a state where you intend to highlight his flaws and look for reasons to get him out of your daughter's life. I believe you need therapy. Seriously. Read up about parental alienation and you will find you may be practicing it without even being aware.

The most important thing you can do as a mother is foster and support your child's relationship with her father.

This is such a horrible take. Absolute horsesh*t. OP, ignore this. Bitter crappy dad troll strikes again.

OP, you are a good mom and you're doing a good job while also dealing with the issue that DD's dad is a deadbeat.