Yikes!

Red flags everywhere, OP!

You said she'd quite a bit more attractive than you... is that your opinion or your husband's?

Change your schedule and start going with or instead of hm.

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Anonymous wrote:Your husband (or alternately you) will have to say something to her.

It's f-ing weird what she's doing, and if your husband wasn't a freak of nature himself (or wanting to bone her), he would have slow faded to non-topical texts right away. Not it's too late for him to do what anyone normal would have done right away and it will have to be a confrontation.

Meant to say slow-faded THE non-topical texts. Kept conversation to soccer practice pickup (or whatever) only.

Husband and horny housewife are building up to cheating. He’ll swear it’s all innocent and you are crazy.

This woman is a predator and your husband is enjoying it way too much.

Covid boredom makes it even more high stakes.

I was just coming here to say this.

He's loving the attention from her.
We wives nag, are demanding, can be critical and make them feel less than -- all without intention, but that doesn't matter, right? It's still being done.

She's lighthearted, she probably tells him how funny and great he is, she doesn't bring up his clothes on the floor of the bathroom, hound him to fix the plunger in the toilet, or berate him as to why the credit card bill was so high this month.

She strokes his ego -- she makes him feel important... men crave that.

Have you ever seen a really handsome guy leave his beautiful wife for his mistress who's obviously not as pretty as the wife?
The wife will undoubtedly think "he left me for that?? She's so ugly!" but it's not about looks.
It's about how the mistress makes him feel about himself -- she makes him feel like the greatest perspn in the world... like a king and that is intoxicating to men. It's addicting.
His wife... she made him feel like garbage or like he was never good enough.

Someone new and exciting can NEVER compare to a 20 year marriage, but that's hard to see when you're in the midst of it.

I'm not saying that this is occurring in your marriage OP, but it's well on its way to becoming an emotional affair and maybe even physical.
Keep your eyes open and look for warning signs.

Anonymous wrote:I would make sure her husband knows. Not sure how, but I would complicate her life somehow.

This is what I would do. Do you see her husband sometime, OP? Come up to him and joke about it, except it won’t be a joke. Oh goodness, you guys are having a hard time right now, right? Larla has been texting my husband all day every day complaining about you. Better be careful or they’ll run away together! Plant that seed. Make her life a little uncomfortable. Do this every time you see them. Bonus points if she’s there too. She’s a SAHM, she clearly can’t just leave and is at a disadvantage, so use it to your advantage. All’s fair!

I would make sure her husband knows. Not sure how, but I would complicate her life somehow.

Anonymous wrote:There was a mom like this who got too friendly with my best friend’s STBXH. She was married but complained how unhappy she was. On an out of town tournament she offered him a BJ, no strings attached and he accepted. Claims it didn’t mean anything but my friend left. You need to shut it down now.

Why would the OW even do this? What is in it for her? Serious question. I don’t get it.

I'm fine with opposite sex friends and my spouse and I both have them. Texting every day though? Nope. Taking time away from family to text? Nope again. I thought PP's suggestion to add you to the text chain was spot on. There shouldn't be anything said between them that they wouldn't want you to see and it sends a message to her that if she's looking for anything more than friendship she's barking up the wrong DH.

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Anonymous wrote:She is a fair bit more attractive than me and that is part of my problem I think.

She's not tho. She's in an unhappy marriage and open about it, she's openly flirting with your DH, etc. What's attractive about her *to him* is that she's paying attention to him. That's it. I mean come on. Most of us are close to, if not over 40. No one here is Heidi Klum. Dollars to donuts your DH wants you. But something's up with him and that needs exploration.

What’s wrong? Nothing. He has a practiced Ho throwing herself at him and pumping up his ego. Hos like this study the wife and position themselves to try to be the opposite. She probably alludes to you are overly critical and they probably commiserate. She knows exactly what she’s doing.

He’s acting like a loser and sinking to her disgusting level.

I’d personally confront the Ho.

Oh stop with this. Whether she's a "practiced ho" or not is irrelevant and this old trope that men are clueless is tired. This woman owes nothing to OP and clearly has issues or she wouldn't be texting someone else's man. The person who does have responsibility to OP is her H, and she needs to start with him.

Again, texting lady is a symptom, not the problem, and identification of the issue occurs through the couple talking to each other. Not OP confronting this lady at the gymnastics meet, FFS. If OP's husband isn't the one to shut this down, it'll be someone else next year.

True. The hos move onto the next man. They are even proud about it and use “if it wasn’t me, it would have been someone else” as their calling card. Zero shame or personal responsibility for their contribution from married hos like this. They just put out for the next willing guy. Their poor husbands.

That’s the siren song of a whore. Imagine having such little self respect you admit you are a throw away Ho and weren’t anyone special. It could have been anyone. A pathetic and lame and disturbing self-defense.

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Anonymous wrote:She is a fair bit more attractive than me and that is part of my problem I think.

She's not tho. She's in an unhappy marriage and open about it, she's openly flirting with your DH, etc. What's attractive about her *to him* is that she's paying attention to him. That's it. I mean come on. Most of us are close to, if not over 40. No one here is Heidi Klum. Dollars to donuts your DH wants you. But something's up with him and that needs exploration.

What’s wrong? Nothing. He has a practiced Ho throwing herself at him and pumping up his ego. Hos like this study the wife and position themselves to try to be the opposite. She probably alludes to you are overly critical and they probably commiserate. She knows exactly what she’s doing.

He’s acting like a loser and sinking to her disgusting level.

I’d personally confront the Ho.

Oh stop with this. Whether she's a "practiced ho" or not is irrelevant and this old trope that men are clueless is tired. This woman owes nothing to OP and clearly has issues or she wouldn't be texting someone else's man. The person who does have responsibility to OP is her H, and she needs to start with him.

Again, texting lady is a symptom, not the problem, and identification of the issue occurs through the couple talking to each other. Not OP confronting this lady at the gymnastics meet, FFS. If OP's husband isn't the one to shut this down, it'll be someone else next year.

True. The hos move onto the next man. They are even proud about it and use “if it wasn’t me, it would have been someone else” as their calling card. Zero shame or personal responsibility for their contribution from married hos like this. They just put out for the next willing guy. Their poor husbands.

Agree. Society is awful when we say this mother whose daughter is friends with OP’s daughter owes her nothing. Wrong. She owes decency and the respect of someone else’s marriage and families. It’s a sad place when we think it’s perfectly acceptable to do sh@t things to people like this.

He’s sleeping with her.

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Anonymous wrote:There was a mom like this who got too friendly with my best friend’s STBXH. She was married but complained how unhappy she was. On an out of town tournament she offered him a BJ, no strings attached and he accepted. Claims it didn’t mean anything but my friend left. You need to shut it down now.

Man, that's sad. I just can't imagine ever being that desperate (other woman) and reckless (husband).

OP, I agree with everyone else--red flags all over the place with your situation. Talk to your husband and get him to include you on texts.

They both sound desperate and reckless. Smh.

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Anonymous wrote:She is a fair bit more attractive than me and that is part of my problem I think.

She's not tho. She's in an unhappy marriage and open about it, she's openly flirting with your DH, etc. What's attractive about her *to him* is that she's paying attention to him. That's it. I mean come on. Most of us are close to, if not over 40. No one here is Heidi Klum. Dollars to donuts your DH wants you. But something's up with him and that needs exploration.

What’s wrong? Nothing. He has a practiced Ho throwing herself at him and pumping up his ego. Hos like this study the wife and position themselves to try to be the opposite. She probably alludes to you are overly critical and they probably commiserate. She knows exactly what she’s doing.

He’s acting like a loser and sinking to her disgusting level.

I’d personally confront the Ho.

Oh stop with this. Whether she's a "practiced ho" or not is irrelevant and this old trope that men are clueless is tired. This woman owes nothing to OP and clearly has issues or she wouldn't be texting someone else's man. The person who does have responsibility to OP is her H, and she needs to start with him.

Again, texting lady is a symptom, not the problem, and identification of the issue occurs through the couple talking to each other. Not OP confronting this lady at the gymnastics meet, FFS. If OP's husband isn't the one to shut this down, it'll be someone else next year.

True. The hos move onto the next man. They are even proud about it and use “if it wasn’t me, it would have been someone else” as their calling card. Zero shame or personal responsibility for their contribution from married hos like this. They just put out for the next willing guy. Their poor husbands.

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Anonymous wrote:She is a fair bit more attractive than me and that is part of my problem I think.

She's not tho. She's in an unhappy marriage and open about it, she's openly flirting with your DH, etc. What's attractive about her *to him* is that she's paying attention to him. That's it. I mean come on. Most of us are close to, if not over 40. No one here is Heidi Klum. Dollars to donuts your DH wants you. But something's up with him and that needs exploration.

What’s wrong? Nothing. He has a practiced Ho throwing herself at him and pumping up his ego. Hos like this study the wife and position themselves to try to be the opposite. She probably alludes to you are overly critical and they probably commiserate. She knows exactly what she’s doing.

He’s acting like a loser and sinking to her disgusting level.

I’d personally confront the Ho.

Oh stop with this. Whether she's a "practiced ho" or not is irrelevant and this old trope that men are clueless is tired. This woman owes nothing to OP and clearly has issues or she wouldn't be texting someone else's man. The person who does have responsibility to OP is her H, and she needs to start with him.

Again, texting lady is a symptom, not the problem, and identification of the issue occurs through the couple talking to each other. Not OP confronting this lady at the gymnastics meet, FFS. If OP's husband isn't the one to shut this down, it'll be someone else next year.

Anonymous wrote:There was a mom like this who got too friendly with my best friend’s STBXH. She was married but complained how unhappy she was. On an out of town tournament she offered him a BJ, no strings attached and he accepted. Claims it didn’t mean anything but my friend left. You need to shut it down now.

Man, that's sad. I just can't imagine ever being that desperate (other woman) and reckless (husband).

OP, I agree with everyone else--red flags all over the place with your situation. Talk to your husband and get him to include you on texts.

You have to do this: buy a pair of sexy underwear and mail it to your husband, make sure he doesn’t know it comes from you. He’ll think she sent it and hopefully it’ll scare him off. It could also have the opposite effect.

There was a post a few years ago about a women who discovered her husband’s affair. She mailed him sexy underwear, he ended up fighting with his AP AP because of it. I believe the wife divorced him in the end.