Anonymous
10/15/2020 14:57
Subject: How do you identify the “competitive” people
No, really. We don't care. You are caught in your own little race with yourself. So just enjoy it why don't you? We don't care. (from a different poster)Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:We’re easy to recognize. We live in the houses you wished you lived in, in the neighborhoods you can’t. Our kids go to schools you can’t get get your kids into, and we drive the cars you can’t afford.
Dude, you're in a race that a lot of us opted out of. No one cares.
You opted out because you couldn’t.... wait for it....
compete.
Anonymous
10/15/2020 14:55
Subject: Re:How do you identify the “competitive” people
The way I deal with people like this - if I can't avoid them - is to think about what it must be like to be in the mind of someone who is so deeply insecure that they have to keep reminding everyone (and themselves) how special they are. That's a special kind of hell to live in - where you're never good enough for yourself.Anonymous wrote:Some people are just very intense. Like I've only met my friend's BIL a handful of times. Maybe 10x? And he is clearly one of the most competitive people I've ever met. He once told me, in a kind of jokey way, that he was annoyed because his wife had made more TV appearances than he had in the most recent calendar year, and he liked to "win that one." They are both very accomplished and smart. But there was something so distasteful to me about competing with your own spouse about something pretty shallow (neither of them do TV for a living, they just get invited on news shows periodically to discuss their areas of expertise). He also brags on his kids a lot, but in a way that feels almost offensive, like it's an attack not just on my kids but on ALL other kids. He once told me that his daughter never gets cold because his wife at a high protein diet during pregnancy. It was so weird!
I also knew a woman for a while who didn't seem that competitive at first, but it would come out whenever she did something brag-worthy. Like she'd never say "I'm really excited about my new job!" She'd say "I hope all those suckers who didn't get this job don't hate me too much!" Or if she went on vacation somewhere cool, it was never "Wow, that place was great, I loved it" or even "you should go!" It was always "Haha, sucks to be stuck at home when I was hanging out in HAWAII on the BEACH." She'd say it in kind of a funny way, but after a while I realized that she was just really competitive and liked winning (and was an extremely graceless winner).
Those are the main signs for me -- constantly comparing yourself to others, constantly talking up your accomplishments, turning stuff that shouldn't be competitive into a competition, bragging, being aggressive.
Anonymous
10/15/2020 14:52
Subject: Re:How do you identify the “competitive” people
Anonymous wrote:Types of competitive people:
The ones at competitive sporting events
The ones that have a nicer car/better job/better spouse/better house/better clothes/better kids than you do
The one uppers (the ones that take whatever you say and turn it into a chance to make themselves out to be superior to you).
The ones that talk loud and talk over you
The ones that buy the largest gifts/throw the largest parties/put up the largest decorations/invite the most people (pre-covid)
These are the only ones that actually annoy me. One-uppers more than people who talk loud and talk over you (I have so many family members who do this that it doesn't offend me and I know how to deal with it, though I agree it is competitive and rude). But one-uppers are the WORST because they make it impossible to actually develop a friendship. If you share something about yourself, they feel the need to compete with it, and then it's hard to trust what they say in response because it's so obvious that it's just an effort to win the back and forth. Such a conversation killer.
And no one has a better kid than I do, sorry
Anonymous
10/15/2020 12:12
Subject: How do you identify the “competitive” people
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I have a higher IQ than anyone else on DCUM.
What’s your number? I’m pretty high.
Nobody cares how much pot you smoke Karen. Now go get some Denny's.
Anonymous
10/15/2020 07:57
Subject: How do you identify the “competitive” people
Anonymous wrote:I have a higher IQ than anyone else on DCUM.
What’s your number? I’m pretty high.
Anonymous
10/14/2020 22:33
Subject: How do you identify the “competitive” people
I have one child who seems likely that she will grow into this. She compares EVERYTHING, she must win ALL THE TIME, and she always HAS to be first! She is tiresome and hard to raise. I love her but in my mind I affectionately call her Baby Trump.
Anonymous
10/13/2020 20:57
Subject: Re:How do you identify the “competitive” people
Types of competitive people:
The ones at competitive sporting events
The ones that have a nicer car/better job/better spouse/better house/better clothes/better kids than you do
The one uppers (the ones that take whatever you say and turn it into a chance to make themselves out to be superior to you).
The ones that talk loud and talk over you
The ones that buy the largest gifts/throw the largest parties/put up the largest decorations/invite the most people (pre-covid)
The ones at competitive sporting events
The ones that have a nicer car/better job/better spouse/better house/better clothes/better kids than you do
The one uppers (the ones that take whatever you say and turn it into a chance to make themselves out to be superior to you).
The ones that talk loud and talk over you
The ones that buy the largest gifts/throw the largest parties/put up the largest decorations/invite the most people (pre-covid)
Anonymous
10/13/2020 20:51
Subject: How do you identify the “competitive” people
I have a higher IQ than anyone else on DCUM.
Anonymous
10/13/2020 20:45
Subject: How do you identify the “competitive” people
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:We’re easy to recognize. We live in the houses you wished you lived in, in the neighborhoods you can’t. Our kids go to schools you can’t get get your kids into, and we drive the cars you can’t afford.
Dude, you're in a race that a lot of us opted out of. No one cares.
You opted out because you couldn’t.... wait for it....
compete.
Anonymous
10/13/2020 17:57
Subject: How do you identify the “competitive” people
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:The better question is "Why does it bother you?"
^^ we’ve got a live one
Heh. That's nothing, you should have seen a thread I started on this topic. I had like 50 pages the first hour.
I hope this was intended to be a meta joke, and not someone actually competing on how their thread was better. You never can tell here on DCUM!
Ha ha it was. But you are right-- you never can tell!
Now, me, I can always tell. I have such a good sarcasm radar. When jokes go over other poster's heads, I totally get it. I have the best reaction gifs too, like, "whoosh" response...nobody on here reaction gifs like I do. Plus my kids are all advanced and I'm 70 but I look like I'm 23.
Anonymous
10/13/2020 13:36
Subject: How do you identify the “competitive” people
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:The better question is "Why does it bother you?"
^^ we’ve got a live one
Heh. That's nothing, you should have seen a thread I started on this topic. I had like 50 pages the first hour.
I hope this was intended to be a meta joke, and not someone actually competing on how their thread was better. You never can tell here on DCUM!
Ha ha it was. But you are right-- you never can tell!
Now, me, I can always tell. I have such a good sarcasm radar. When jokes go over other poster's heads, I totally get it. I have the best reaction gifs too, like, "whoosh" response...nobody on here reaction gifs like I do. Plus my kids are all advanced and I'm 70 but I look like I'm 23.
Anonymous
10/13/2020 11:44
Subject: How do you identify the “competitive” people
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:The better question is "Why does it bother you?"
^^ we’ve got a live one
Heh. That's nothing, you should have seen a thread I started on this topic. I had like 50 pages the first hour.
I hope this was intended to be a meta joke, and not someone actually competing on how their thread was better. You never can tell here on DCUM!
Ha ha it was. But you are right-- you never can tell!
Now, me, I can always tell. I have such a good sarcasm radar. When jokes go over other poster's heads, I totally get it. I have the best reaction gifs too, like, "whoosh" response...nobody on here reaction gifs like I do. Plus my kids are all advanced and I'm 70 but I look like I'm 23.
Anonymous
10/13/2020 11:32
Subject: How do you identify the “competitive” people
They talk about where they went to college.
Anonymous
10/13/2020 11:31
Subject: How do you identify the “competitive” people
Anonymous wrote:We’re easy to recognize. We live in the houses you wished you lived in, in the neighborhoods you can’t. Our kids go to schools you can’t get get your kids into, and we drive the cars you can’t afford.
LOL, exactly. They are incredibly insecure and generally miserable.
Anonymous
10/13/2020 11:12
Subject: How do you identify the “competitive” people
Anonymous wrote:Competitive people are usually slow to pay compliments. Paying compliments causes them pain. For me, that is generally a first sign of an envious person as well.
This! Also can’t stand people that fish for compliments also. Annoying.