Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All your eggs being in one basket is very, very stressful. Everything became so much easier and laid back after I had a second child.

PP here - to add, when my parents were deciding, Dad said that he wanted to have either no kids or at least two. His aunt and uncle had lost their only child and it destroyed them.

I’m sorry but this is the most depressing reason to have a second child.

Also, the people I know who had multiple children and one died were gutted anyway. It's not like you say, "Oh, well at least I have another kid." You're devastated. In my observation, it destroys marriages and lives even if you have other kids.

I don't know why you'd want someone to talk you into a second. If you want two kids, have a second. If you don't, it's completely fine to have one kid. No one will ever tell you that they regret their second kid, because they love their second kid, but that doesn't mean that they wouldn't have also been happy with one. The world doesn't need more people. Your kid doesn't need a sibling. The only reason to have another kid is because you truly want one and think you could be good parents.

We have three kids, each 3.5 years apart (so 7 years between oldest and youngest).

I couldn’t fathom another child at age 15 months. When our first was 2 we finally had consistent sleep, time and space to go on dates or out with friends, etc. At around 2.5 we realized the hardest babyhood part really doesn’t last forever, and so we tried and got pregnant a couple months later.

Fast forward to kid #2 being 2, and again we felt more relaxed, so we tried for baby #3.

You are not that old. Kids really don’t have to be two years apart. Honestly a bigger age gap is so much easier. Give it time.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:the first commandment in the Bible is "be fruitful and multiply".

Michelle Duggar, is that you?

No. But she did ask for reasons and that's a possible one. Many other people have kids for that reason.

Anonymous wrote:the first commandment in the Bible is "be fruitful and multiply".

Michelle Duggar, is that you?

My two kids hate each other.

I am an only and love it.

Anonymous wrote:Find other moms of only children. Having two kids is too hard to do it unless you are called to it. You clearly aren’t. You will likely resent kid 2, especially if he or she has special needs. Don’t do it!

Mom of 2

+1

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All your eggs being in one basket is very, very stressful. Everything became so much easier and laid back after I had a second child.

PP here - to add, when my parents were deciding, Dad said that he wanted to have either no kids or at least two. His aunt and uncle had lost their only child and it destroyed them.

I’m sorry but this is the most depressing reason to have a second child.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All your eggs being in one basket is very, very stressful. Everything became so much easier and laid back after I had a second child.

PP here - to add, when my parents were deciding, Dad said that he wanted to have either no kids or at least two. His aunt and uncle had lost their only child and it destroyed them.

That's some really strange logic.

Agree. Is PP essentially saying "an heir and a spare?"????

Not only that but losing a child is devastating, no matter how many children you have.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All your eggs being in one basket is very, very stressful. Everything became so much easier and laid back after I had a second child.

PP here - to add, when my parents were deciding, Dad said that he wanted to have either no kids or at least two. His aunt and uncle had lost their only child and it destroyed them.

That's some really strange logic.

Agree. Is PP essentially saying "an heir and a spare?"????

That’s why I had my kids early. Now I’m 40, I can’t imagine parenting a toddler, let alone giving birth.

Don’t have another, OP.

No. Anyone who needs convincing shouldn't.

I am one and done and happy about it. No reason to have a second kid when I hated everything about pregnancy and know I can give my kid pretty much whatever she needs without having to balance with another kid.

Find other moms of only children. Having two kids is too hard to do it unless you are called to it. You clearly aren’t. You will likely resent kid 2, especially if he or she has special needs. Don’t do it!

Mom of 2

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All your eggs being in one basket is very, very stressful. Everything became so much easier and laid back after I had a second child.

PP here - to add, when my parents were deciding, Dad said that he wanted to have either no kids or at least two. His aunt and uncle had lost their only child and it destroyed them.

That's some really strange logic.

Anonymous wrote:Wait until your child is at least 2 to decide. 2 kids is a lot harder than 1 and can really strain your relationship with your spouse, so don’t do it unless you really want another child.

I disagree. There's more jealousy fartherin age