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Anonymous

09/22/2020 18:37 Subject: Re:What kind of women do UMC well adjusted men find attractive?

Anonymous wrote:Hi OP- I also don’t really have UMC guys into me, despite having a good job and family money. And it probably comes down to looks, I’m overweight and don’t wear makeup. So I would think having a decent BMI, clear skin, and a good personality/attitude goes a long ways. Also, through from my personal experience, having an UMC man is not everything. I went to private schools and universities, and I knew so many people with dysfunctional family relationships that well hidden. There can be great people to date that don’t check all the boxes.

I’d say it’s makeup more than being overweight. Based on my observations, heavier girls who present very feminine do just fine. They are being called curvy and voluptuous rather than fat.

Anonymous

09/22/2020 18:29 Subject: What kind of women do UMC well adjusted men find attractive?

Anonymous wrote:Low drama
Attractive - not drop dead gorgeous, just reasonable
Likes sex and having fun
Low drama

Guy here.

The number #1 thing.a woman can do to start punching above her weight In terms of guys she can attract?

Stop being a drama queen. Just be normal.

Anonymous

09/22/2020 18:26 Subject: What kind of women do UMC well adjusted men find attractive?

Everyone keeps saying "be thin" but I seriously dated only this kind of guy, and was proposed to by two (before DH). And I've always been thick (not fat, but size 12). UMC guys sometimes like thick women just like poor guys sometimes do.

Anonymous

09/22/2020 18:25 Subject: Re:What kind of women do UMC well adjusted men find attractive?

Both my husband and I were very MC but we went to good colleges and then graduate school (MBA's). We both came from good families so we were well adjusted early on. We are both attractive but not 9 or 10's. I think people like us just moved in the same orbit and eventually meet. There are many different orbits.

Anonymous

09/22/2020 18:21 Subject: Re:What kind of women do UMC well adjusted men find attractive?

Attractive well adjusted men look for attractive well adjusted women. It's not that difficult.

Anonymous

09/22/2020 17:53 Subject: What kind of women do UMC well adjusted men find attractive?

I don’t know if I qualify as UMC, I make 350k working in IT and am early 30’s/single. I have a hard time dating, always did. I’m in pretty good shape (long time runner/cyclist) but am very short for a man at 5’4 and am also quite introverted. I’ve never been to a bar or club in my life and rely exclusively on dating apps. I didn’t even start dating until my mid 20’s due to lack of confidence, and the women I’ve dated were the type most other men would overlook.

Anonymous

09/22/2020 16:31 Subject: What kind of women do UMC well adjusted men find attractive?

Anonymous wrote:I married one of these guys. Most of them are closet a-holes.

Really? PP here. Neither my husband nor his friends are.

Anonymous

09/22/2020 16:30 Subject: What kind of women do UMC well adjusted men find attractive?

I married one of these guys. Most of them are closet a-holes.

Anonymous

09/22/2020 16:21 Subject: What kind of women do UMC well adjusted men find attractive?

My husband is as you describe. I was raised regular middle class. Not DCUM middle class. I think he liked me because I was drama-free and can cook. I also am reasonably intelligent (we met in law school) and attractive on the law school scale, not overweight and take reasonable care of myself. Plus, I wanted kids. I really am nothing special, but I don’t have huge downsides and I can get along with almost everyone. I think he could see having an easy life with me.

Anonymous

09/22/2020 16:05 Subject: What kind of women do UMC well adjusted men find attractive?

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Anonymous wrote:You are a messy lackluster person.

Don't be rude. NP

Not that poster but PP has a point. OP wants to snag a 1 percenter yet sounds very average herself

Anonymous

09/22/2020 16:04 Subject: What kind of women do UMC well adjusted men find attractive?

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Anonymous wrote:Most people marry people who grew up in their class. Men who were raised UMC prefer women who were raised the same way, and vice versa. No, it's not something you can fake.

If the money is what matters to you find a guy who made his money yesterday. Those men are happy to date the women who grew up LMC.

I am not LMC. I grew up UMC. I was socially awkward and had anxiety issues so I did not make a lot of social connections among my peers.

So what's stopping you from making those connections now? Are you attractive and do you have a decent job?

I would say I am probably a 6 on a scale of 10. I am skinny fat and do not put a lot of effort into my looks or style. I work as a program specialist for a non profit. I am not a professional rock star but I have worked for prestigious organizations.

So you're not attractive, you don't have a good job, and you have social issues? I know this sounds harsh, but of course men aren't going to be lining up to take that on. Would you date you?

Probably not.

Why not do exactly what your friends did to land this guys.
Including complete makeover with help of your friends.

OP here. My friends are awesome women. Both were raised solidly MC with good values and an emphasis on upward mobility. I will say, both are traditionally attractive (fit or thin, very appearance conscience). They both always wanted to target a certain kind of man and actively cultivated a certain image and persona. Both are girly and into cooking and home making.

You can change all that within one year.
New diet, New workout, cooking class and easily you can move from 6 to 8.

Anonymous

09/22/2020 15:50 Subject: What kind of women do UMC well adjusted men find attractive?

Anonymous wrote:You are a messy lackluster person.

Don't be rude. NP

Anonymous

09/22/2020 15:49 Subject: What kind of women do UMC well adjusted men find attractive?

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Anonymous wrote:Most people marry people who grew up in their class. Men who were raised UMC prefer women who were raised the same way, and vice versa. No, it's not something you can fake.

If the money is what matters to you find a guy who made his money yesterday. Those men are happy to date the women who grew up LMC.

I am not LMC. I grew up UMC. I was socially awkward and had anxiety issues so I did not make a lot of social connections among my peers.

So what's stopping you from making those connections now? Are you attractive and do you have a decent job?

I would say I am probably a 6 on a scale of 10. I am skinny fat and do not put a lot of effort into my looks or style. I work as a program specialist for a non profit. I am not a professional rock star but I have worked for prestigious organizations.

So you're not attractive, you don't have a good job, and you have social issues? I know this sounds harsh, but of course men aren't going to be lining up to take that on. Would you date you?

NP. What is a "good job"?

Anonymous

09/22/2020 15:31 Subject: What kind of women do UMC well adjusted men find attractive?

Be thin and in good shape. Have great skin and keep things natural and low key. Think classic and minimalist. Be interesting. This will give you a chance of finding a great UMC guy that isn't a tool.

Don't try to turn yourself into a generic sorority girl/stepford wife or you may end up with a total UMC douchebag

Anonymous

09/22/2020 15:04 Subject: What kind of women do UMC well adjusted men find attractive?

I know a lot of people like this that met through college or college friends. It’s a social group thing.