Anonymous wrote:Billy's mom wants to know whether you're extra conservative about social distancing, or if your kid just hates Billy and doesn't want to go, or ever want to play with him any more.

OP how old is your kid?

Anonymous wrote:When people send regrets to your kid's birthday party in the time of COVID, your only option is to accept that gracefully. Do not push, inquire, wheedle or whine. Do not ask "is this just because of coronavirus"?

I said no thank you, and Happy Birthday, Billy. Drop it. I owe you no explanation. I owe you no reassurance.

No, you "come on," I don't need another rundown of how "safe" your event is. You do you. We're not coming.

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Anonymous wrote:When people send regrets to your kid's birthday party in the time of COVID, your only option is to accept that gracefully. Do not push, inquire, wheedle or whine. Do not ask "is this just because of coronavirus"?

I said no thank you, and Happy Birthday, Billy. Drop it. I owe you no explanation. I owe you no reassurance.

No, you "come on," I don't need another rundown of how "safe" your event is. You do you. We're not coming.

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I agree, but wonder if people are trying to figure out how they themselves should be asking?
Has this happened more than once? Are people actually holding parties ni this time?

Sadly, yes. We attended a culdesac party for a kid. Parents invited way more people than they implied when they invited us. Then let their kid blow out the candles on the cake before serving it. We left.

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Anonymous wrote:When people send regrets to your kid's birthday party in the time of COVID, your only option is to accept that gracefully. Do not push, inquire, wheedle or whine. Do not ask "is this just because of coronavirus"?

I said no thank you, and Happy Birthday, Billy. Drop it. I owe you no explanation. I owe you no reassurance.

No, you "come on," I don't need another rundown of how "safe" your event is. You do you. We're not coming.

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I agree, but wonder if people are trying to figure out how they themselves should be asking?
Has this happened more than once? Are people actually holding parties ni this time?

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Anonymous wrote:It drives me nuts when we can't make it to a party and the host continues to try to figure out a way we can somehow make it. This is not a covid-specific thing. (We would definitely attend a backyard kid party at this point.) People should be able to accept a person's no and leave it at that.

So this. "Can you just come for the cake?!" "Can you stop by later for dessert?"

Like, no. It's just a no.

Anonymous wrote:When people send regrets to your kid's birthday party in the time of COVID, your only option is to accept that gracefully. Do not push, inquire, wheedle or whine. Do not ask "is this just because of coronavirus"?

I said no thank you, and Happy Birthday, Billy. Drop it. I owe you no explanation. I owe you no reassurance.

No, you "come on," I don't need another rundown of how "safe" your event is. You do you. We're not coming.

I've lost all respect for you because you just invited me to a party during a pandemic

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Anonymous wrote:Why can't you decline politely like you would have pre covid?

"Sorry we won't be able to make it. I hope Larlo has a wonderful Birthday!"

Did you read the OP? That's exactly what transpired and OP said the person was pushing back, not taking a polite "no thanks' for an answer.

"No thank you" to an invite is confrontational and looking for an argument.

OP here, my exact words were:

"I'm sorry, we can't make it. Happy Birthday, Billy!"

Anonymous wrote:When people send regrets to your kid's birthday party in the time of COVID, your only option is to accept that gracefully. Do not push, inquire, wheedle or whine. Do not ask "is this just because of coronavirus"?

I said no thank you, and Happy Birthday, Billy. Drop it. I owe you no explanation. I owe you no reassurance.

No, you "come on," I don't need another rundown of how "safe" your event is. You do you. We're not coming.

Anonymous wrote:It drives me nuts when we can't make it to a party and the host continues to try to figure out a way we can somehow make it. This is not a covid-specific thing. (We would definitely attend a backyard kid party at this point.) People should be able to accept a person's no and leave it at that.

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Anonymous wrote:Well, yes it is because of Covid-19.

I can't really tell you to your face that I've lost all respect for you because you just invited me to a party during a pandemic, and I know social distancing won't be implemented, can I?

So we're not going to see much of each other in the future.

We are still social distancing so aren't going to parties, but I strongly disagree that a party invitation now means that you should have no respect for the person and won't be seeing them in the future. That's a really strong judgment to make when the information has been so mixed, and you don't know what what safety procedures will be followed at the party you are not attending. We don't attend because better safe than sorry, but I believe that it is possible to have a pretty safe socially distanced outside party.