Anonymous wrote:I am currently dating a lawyer, and I will say it’s not easy. The way they twist things around until it’s unrecognizable is amazing.

+1

Yes, I did. I had more school debt than he did so that isn’t always the case.

Well, I'm a lawyer married to a lawyer, and although you might say this is a nightmare, it is actually one of the ways it works. We both know the game--in and out of Big Law, gov't and in-house--don't try pulling rank, and know the difference between each other's "real work" and BS--and thus how to balance schedules. (Tip: Rarely is it an emergency call...) And although we can both be argumentative, we don't even bother much any more. We know we won't persuade each other so we just save it all up for you unsuspecting laypeople .

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Anonymous wrote:Nah. Argumentative a-holes.

Engineer was what I wanted (and married!)

Engineer are always up for an argument but we generally believe in objective truth.

I like to believe that about myself, though DW would tell you that the level of analytic detail I thrive on getting to objective truth can be mind numbing to someone who's wired differently.

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Anonymous wrote:Nah. Argumentative a-holes.

Engineer was what I wanted (and married!)

Engineer are always up for an argument but we generally believe in objective truth.

I like engineers too!

Anonymous wrote:Nah. Argumentative a-holes.

Engineer was what I wanted (and married!)

Engineer are always up for an argument but we generally believe in objective truth.

*deal, not desk

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Anonymous wrote:I am currently dating a lawyer, and I will say it’s not easy. The way they twist things around until it’s unrecognizable is amazing.

This. My DH doesn’t even practice anymore but still acts that way. EVERYTHING turns into an argument. I can’t even load the dishwasher without hearing all the reasons why I did it wrong. I’ve had to start fighting dirty just to be heard.

My God, this sounds like a nightmare!
I don't know how old you are, but are you prepared to desk with this for the next 30 or so years??

No way. My parents were both lawyers. They tore each other to shreds in the high conflict divorce. Marrying a lawyer seems like marrying a time bomb to me... how would you ever reconcile the power imbalance?

My husband tells me he once considered law school. I tell him he is lucky he changed his mind. I would never have gone near him.

Anonymous wrote:I am currently dating a lawyer, and I will say it’s not easy. The way they twist things around until it’s unrecognizable is amazing.

This. My DH doesn’t even practice anymore but still acts that way. EVERYTHING turns into an argument. I can’t even load the dishwasher without hearing all the reasons why I did it wrong. I’ve had to start fighting dirty just to be heard.

I'm a sahm with a husband in big law. I really think it's the only way for it to work. We have very little marital stress because our roles are so clearly defined. The flip side is I communicate a lot with him via email and sometimes wish he could be more involved in day to day. But we love each other and it works for is.

Anonymous wrote:Nope. My friend's husband was literally taking work calls on a Sunday afternoon while his two year old was blowing out birthday cake candles. He spend the birthday son, cake eating, and gift opening in the back of the house on an "emergency call."

Yeah that’s why I had to leave Big Law. 11 years was plenty.