Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What do you mean you just started having sex again? Do you have a newborn?

OP here. Yes. We have a son that is turning 2 later this month and a son born in May. We started having sex at 8 weeks at he doesn’t seem very interested the last month.

You have a baby that is 4 months. You also have a two year old. Odds are, you may not look or feel the same.

Oy, that answer is offensive. Or maybe he's exhausted from having a two year old and an infant!!! Middle of the night wake ups.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I realize how I’m just probably overreacting. My husband does go to work but we work at the same hospital ( we met at work) and he wouldn’t cheat there. I trust that he isn’t cheating. I’m more worried he’s no longer attracted to me. I lost the baby weight but my body isn’t the same. I’m probably overreacting and worrying about nothing. We do have a 4 month old but he’s very easy. It’s still hard but both kids sleep through the night. We have plenty of time to have sex at night.

Not on the subject but how did you get your 4 month old to sleep through the night? Is it the “ 5 hours is sleeping through the night” or longer? Mine is waking every 2-3 hours still. Any tips?

OP here. It’s controversial but we sleep train. Our first was a great sleeper and slept through the night at 8 weeks but then the 4 month sleep regression hit. We sleep trained at 6 months and he has slept 12 hours almost every night. We haven’t sleep trained our youngest yet but will if we need to. We have been making sure to get him to put himself to sleep. He is on the small side and still wakes up to eat. Our two year old sleeps 7-7 and our 4-month-old sleeps 8-4, and 4:30-7. We keep him on a nap routine and have a bedtime routine.

So....you have two young children that are great sleepers, are having regular sex, lost all your baby weight at 4 months PP, and are financially secure.

I'm honensly stumped as to what your complaint is.

Have you talked to him about it?

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Anonymous wrote:You are over thinking this. We are all living in boring bubbles and there is so much misery locally, nationally and globally that it’s easy to be depressed and that can manifest itself in many ways. If you are having sex 2-3 times a week you are doing better than most. Things will get better, just be sure to vote! If Biden wins, I will be so happy my husband might be worn out for days.

OP here. Please don’t bring politics into this. People have differing views and it’s not appropriate on this thread. I also do not want to think of creepy job Biden.

Ohhh. Maybe you’re a Trumpette and he thinks it’s gross?

OP, you can’t police the replies when you ask someone a question. This tells me a lot about your pandemic home atmosphere....

OP, here are the likely scenarios

1. He's exhausted. He's working and has two kids. Even if they are both great sleepers, he still has two kids. And both are at a needy age

2. He's stressed. 2 little kids, working at a hospital during Covid. Covid crap in general. Everything else going on righ tnow.

3. he's trying to be sensitive to you. He knows you have a lower drive. He's trying not to pressure you or make you feel bad.

My guess is it is a combo of the 3. Can you find time to do something that makes you feel good about yourself?

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. I realize how I’m just probably overreacting. My husband does go to work but we work at the same hospital ( we met at work) and he wouldn’t cheat there. I trust that he isn’t cheating. I’m more worried he’s no longer attracted to me. I lost the baby weight but my body isn’t the same. I’m probably overreacting and worrying about nothing. We do have a 4 month old but he’s very easy. It’s still hard but both kids sleep through the night. We have plenty of time to have sex at night.

Not on the subject but how did you get your 4 month old to sleep through the night? Is it the “ 5 hours is sleeping through the night” or longer? Mine is waking every 2-3 hours still. Any tips?

OP here. It’s controversial but we sleep train. Our first was a great sleeper and slept through the night at 8 weeks but then the 4 month sleep regression hit. We sleep trained at 6 months and he has slept 12 hours almost every night. We haven’t sleep trained our youngest yet but will if we need to. We have been making sure to get him to put himself to sleep. He is on the small side and still wakes up to eat. Our two year old sleeps 7-7 and our 4-month-old sleeps 8-4, and 4:30-7. We keep him on a nap routine and have a bedtime routine.

Anonymous wrote:Did he see your vagina during childbirth? Some men can't come back from that

Oh God not this troll again!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I realize how I’m just probably overreacting. My husband does go to work but we work at the same hospital ( we met at work) and he wouldn’t cheat there. I trust that he isn’t cheating. I’m more worried he’s no longer attracted to me. I lost the baby weight but my body isn’t the same. I’m probably overreacting and worrying about nothing. We do have a 4 month old but he’s very easy. It’s still hard but both kids sleep through the night. We have plenty of time to have sex at night.

Not on the subject but how did you get your 4 month old to sleep through the night? Is it the “ 5 hours is sleeping through the night” or longer? Mine is waking every 2-3 hours still. Any tips?

Not OP but my almost 3 month old has just started sleeping from 8pm to almost 6am. She’s a good size and while I’m breast feeding I do give her a bottle of formula in the evening and that seems to be helping. Of course, she could wake up tonight at 12 and 3 and break her streak.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I realize how I’m just probably overreacting. My husband does go to work but we work at the same hospital ( we met at work) and he wouldn’t cheat there. I trust that he isn’t cheating. I’m more worried he’s no longer attracted to me. I lost the baby weight but my body isn’t the same. I’m probably overreacting and worrying about nothing. We do have a 4 month old but he’s very easy. It’s still hard but both kids sleep through the night. We have plenty of time to have sex at night.

Isn't working at a hospital even more stressful and tiring than it used to be? And then he comes home to two little kids? He's tired. He thinks you're tired.

Most men are able to get over their wives' mom bodies if their wives are still enthusiastic about sex. If you're up for more sex, and you want to have that connection with him if he's up for it, say so.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I realize how I’m just probably overreacting. My husband does go to work but we work at the same hospital ( we met at work) and he wouldn’t cheat there. I trust that he isn’t cheating. I’m more worried he’s no longer attracted to me. I lost the baby weight but my body isn’t the same. I’m probably overreacting and worrying about nothing. We do have a 4 month old but he’s very easy. It’s still hard but both kids sleep through the night. We have plenty of time to have sex at night.

Jeez - you’re having sex 2-3 times a week. That’s pretty darn good with 2 little children and jobs. You’ve lost the baby weight and your body isn’t the same so maybe some toning effort will pay off. I had three huge babies - think 9 and 10 pounders - and my stomach never recovered but I told my husband it was his fault and he had to deal with it and he has nicely.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I realize how I’m just probably overreacting. My husband does go to work but we work at the same hospital ( we met at work) and he wouldn’t cheat there. I trust that he isn’t cheating. I’m more worried he’s no longer attracted to me. I lost the baby weight but my body isn’t the same. I’m probably overreacting and worrying about nothing. We do have a 4 month old but he’s very easy. It’s still hard but both kids sleep through the night. We have plenty of time to have sex at night.

Not on the subject but how did you get your 4 month old to sleep through the night? Is it the “ 5 hours is sleeping through the night” or longer? Mine is waking every 2-3 hours still. Any tips?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are over thinking this. We are all living in boring bubbles and there is so much misery locally, nationally and globally that it’s easy to be depressed and that can manifest itself in many ways. If you are having sex 2-3 times a week you are doing better than most. Things will get better, just be sure to vote! If Biden wins, I will be so happy my husband might be worn out for days.

OP here. Please don’t bring politics into this. People have differing views and it’s not appropriate on this thread. I also do not want to think of creepy job Biden.

Please please think about the hunk that is Trump.

OP here. That is equally as gross.

OP here. I realize how I’m just probably overreacting. My husband does go to work but we work at the same hospital ( we met at work) and he wouldn’t cheat there. I trust that he isn’t cheating. I’m more worried he’s no longer attracted to me. I lost the baby weight but my body isn’t the same. I’m probably overreacting and worrying about nothing. We do have a 4 month old but he’s very easy. It’s still hard but both kids sleep through the night. We have plenty of time to have sex at night.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are over thinking this. We are all living in boring bubbles and there is so much misery locally, nationally and globally that it’s easy to be depressed and that can manifest itself in many ways. If you are having sex 2-3 times a week you are doing better than most. Things will get better, just be sure to vote! If Biden wins, I will be so happy my husband might be worn out for days.

Since he's going to lock us down like Victoria, pretty sure your husband will be sick of you.

As long as he isn’t sick with Covid. I can live with that.

Anonymous wrote:You are over thinking this. We are all living in boring bubbles and there is so much misery locally, nationally and globally that it’s easy to be depressed and that can manifest itself in many ways. If you are having sex 2-3 times a week you are doing better than most. Things will get better, just be sure to vote! If Biden wins, I will be so happy my husband might be worn out for days.

Since he's going to lock us down like Victoria, pretty sure your husband will be sick of you.