The thought of pregnancy was always undesirable to me. I and my DH adopted our 3 amazing kids -- 2 different countries.

Ok everyone, you realize telling OP to suck it up is not helpful, right?

I think you could find a doc who would knock you out and give you a csection. Has anyone done that? The elective csection thing I know is easy to find, but would they put you under general anesthesia if you wanted? Or at least give you super strong opiates/anti anxiety meds to help you totally not care/feel extremely relaxed?

Op, I think it could be done. Wouldn’t solve the pregnancy piece but the birth part you can sort.

I had an OB who once gave me Valium and painkiller plus laughing gas to get an IUD inserted. It was amazing.

I wish I could trade with you. I loved pregnancy and childbirth more than pretty much anything. Alas I can’t get pregnant again

Having had c sections I would never elect for one. The recovery from a c section is bad and takes a big toll on your body. People who give birth vaginally return to normal much faster. Needing colace and having a big stab wound while caring for a baby is not my idea of easy. Yes I know rearing is fun. I tore with one but I would rather have vaginal than c section.

I had horrific pregnancies, super sick the whole time, bad spd. I called it Them all parasites.

I have three. Like others said I just accepted that it was temporary. But it sucked. But now I have the family I wished for. It’s not easy def don’t do unless you really want another. I really wanted my third and spent the entire pregnancy thinking i was a moron because I was so incredibly miserable. But now she’s perfect. It’s hard no easy answers for those of us that have such crappy pregnancy rideS

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Anonymous wrote:I haven't BTDT, but if I were you and only wanted one more, I'd opt for an elective C section.

This. I'd find an OB that would agree to it. I know people will freak out, but I've had one vaginal delivery and one c-section and would have preferred the c-section recovery.

Elective c-sections are very common in other countries. You generally have to pay a bit more, but lots of women do it.

In this country you don't have to pay more or search out a doctor who will agree to do it. Go to a private practice OB, tell them your concerns and I can guarantee they will find a way to get it approved as "medically necessary."

I would also urge OP, despite not GAF what kind of birth anyone chooses, to seek therapy from a counselor with experience treating birth trauma. The amount of terror and trauma you have around birth speaks to a larger problem going on that probably isn't limited only to birth.