Anonymous
09/10/2020 22:23
Subject: What annoying traits do you put up with?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:1. My DH plays too much. He makes a joke out of everything. It's frustrating. Sometimes I just want a nice compliment like "you look nice today honey" instead of a joke. It would be fine if it wasn't constant, but I do think he does it sometimes to cover up insecurities/awkwardness (i.e. he's not comfortable giving me a nice compliment so he makes it a joke (even though he really does mean what he says...he just says it in a joking manner)).
2. He is very rigid/controlling - needs things in a certain order, needs to plan ahead, very orderly, needs to know everything that's happening and ahead of time. I don't function that way, so it is hard to meet that need all the time. Things can be as small as making DD change her skirt because she wore it 3 days ago to getting mad when the house isn't perfectly clean 24/7 (we have 3 kids).
3. Curses a lot. Like a lot. And in front of the kids. I can't stand it.
"I did not want my tombstone to read, 'She kept a really clean house.'" ... Ann Richards, 45th Governor of Texas.
You may want to remind your husband that women are capable of a lot more important things than keeping a house clean. Especially for your daughter's sake. He's already teaching her that her "fashion" choices are important - what's he teaching her about her true worth?
You have bigger problems with your DH than annoying traits, I'm afraid.
PP here. The issue with him is cleanliness. It’s not that women should only be caretakers, clean the house, and look good. I run businesses and he supports me in that. Our daughter watches that. He has an obsession with cleanliness. I’ll admit, he does laundry and his fair share of cleaning around the house. It’s just he gets so ruffled when it’s not 100% spotless. The issue with DDs skirt is that he thinks it’s unclean to wear things back to back, even if it’s technically washed. Idc if we call it an annoying trait or a mental disorder like OCD, it annoys tf out of me.
Anonymous
09/10/2020 18:19
Subject: What annoying traits do you put up with?
I Fing HATE her smoking. And she makes no effort to quit and gets all pissy and defensive when I talk to her about it.
Anonymous
09/10/2020 17:33
Subject: Re:What annoying traits do you put up with?
My husband has hearing problems so he has all calls on speaker phone and watching youtube videos on full blast.
He says huh as in repeat everything I say to him. I bought a white board and solved that.
He says huh as in repeat everything I say to him. I bought a white board and solved that.
Anonymous
09/10/2020 17:11
Subject: Re:What annoying traits do you put up with?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:The term "put up with" is becoming less and less true, but:
Wears his headphones all day and randomly yells out lines of music
Wants me to facilitate FTing *his* parents with the kids but he will say hi then go do something else while I'm stuck talking to his mother about how its problematic to say "some slaves were happy and had nice owners" (a for instance)
Will take his work calls in common areas/the room I'm working in despite having an office space of his own
YUP. A real FT convo with my MIL that happened within the last couple months.
Anonymous
09/10/2020 15:54
Subject: What annoying traits do you put up with?
Anonymous wrote:1. My DH plays too much. He makes a joke out of everything. It's frustrating. Sometimes I just want a nice compliment like "you look nice today honey" instead of a joke. It would be fine if it wasn't constant, but I do think he does it sometimes to cover up insecurities/awkwardness (i.e. he's not comfortable giving me a nice compliment so he makes it a joke (even though he really does mean what he says...he just says it in a joking manner)).
2. He is very rigid/controlling - needs things in a certain order, needs to plan ahead, very orderly, needs to know everything that's happening and ahead of time. I don't function that way, so it is hard to meet that need all the time. Things can be as small as making DD change her skirt because she wore it 3 days ago to getting mad when the house isn't perfectly clean 24/7 (we have 3 kids).
3. Curses a lot. Like a lot. And in front of the kids. I can't stand it.
"I did not want my tombstone to read, 'She kept a really clean house.'" ... Ann Richards, 45th Governor of Texas.
You may want to remind your husband that women are capable of a lot more important things than keeping a house clean. Especially for your daughter's sake. He's already teaching her that her "fashion" choices are important - what's he teaching her about her true worth?
You have bigger problems with your DH than annoying traits, I'm afraid.
Anonymous
09/10/2020 15:47
Subject: What annoying traits do you put up with?
Compulsions. Quite a few of them.
Must brush and floss his teeth after every meal, within minutes. God help you if you are in the bathroom when he wants to brush. His anxiety is palpable.
When returning from a trip and entering our home, he literally RUNS with his suitcase into the bedroom to begin unpacking it. He even does this when we're both jet-lagged and tired. He's got to unpack that bag first!
If he uses the kitchen dishcloth, he is absolutely compelled to make sure it is wet and then roll it up in a tight ball and leave it on the sink to molder.
Must brush and floss his teeth after every meal, within minutes. God help you if you are in the bathroom when he wants to brush. His anxiety is palpable.
When returning from a trip and entering our home, he literally RUNS with his suitcase into the bedroom to begin unpacking it. He even does this when we're both jet-lagged and tired. He's got to unpack that bag first!
If he uses the kitchen dishcloth, he is absolutely compelled to make sure it is wet and then roll it up in a tight ball and leave it on the sink to molder.