Anonymous wrote:What clubs are owned by individual people? I never knew this. Thanks.

Almost none in the DC area. They are virtually all not-for-profits around here.

OP’s DH sounds like a toxic idiot, and people who call out that sort of ridiculous behavior are not “Karens”.

Anonymous wrote:I don't want to call out specific clubs but there is one club in Loudoun that is the worst. I wont name it but the initials are FCV. I have actually heard that they don't have a u little programs because the parents eat the weaker players. Correct me if I am wrong but I think there were parents from that club that brawled with each other during a game.

FCV COACHES are the worst!

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Anonymous wrote:I think it must have been much worse than you thought. I have witnessed some unbelievable jacksssery on the sidelines and never thought of complaining (and not did any other arenas as far as I know) so for people to have complained it must have been bad. Tell your husband to chill.

Woman here. After a year of hearing sh@t like this I finally broke at a Memorial Day tournament and yelled “shut the f@ck up” to a d-bag dad that pulled that sh@t all year. Not my finest moment, but he’s been remarkably quiet this year.

This happened on out team. One mom finally had it! Jumped up and told the yakkers to shut up and just watch the game. Worked perfectly !

How does your HUSBANDs bad behaviour turn this into a KAREN situation. It's not a Karen/female thing. It's a male ego (living vicariously) thing!! Sexists for sure.

Your "quiet" and "encouraging" comments weren't quiet or encouraging. Everyone can hear what you say. Just keep your mouth shut.

Anonymous wrote:Just started travel this year, so maybe my expectations are off. Wanted to get a gut check:

Spouse gets a little enthusiastic on the sidelines. Never calls out any individual player by name (other than our kid), but may call out if the defense or offense is lacking. Nothing mean-spirited, mostly encouragement. Sure, there were also some private parent-to-parent conversations on the sideline that may have been more critical, but nothing loud enough for a player or even another parent in the stands to hear . . . unless they were eavesdropping.

Yesterday, after the tournament weekend, spouse gets a call from the OWNER of the club dressing him down for his sideline behavior. Another parent on the team got the same call. I would have thought adults could have a conversation with each other, or even with the coach, before involving the owner of the entire organization.

IS THIS NORMAL?

It happens but no the coach or owner should not have to talk to you after a game. I am assuming you kid is under u12? The u littles(12 and under) is not really soccer and the kids are still developing. When you look back on these years you will understand how little wins/loses matter. It’s important the kids have a fun, challenging environment where they can experiment and learn. Having a parent call out the “defense” after a bad play is the same as calling out the kid on defense who had the bad play. Other parents will react.

It is easy to see mistakes or a player being physically beat(ie other player is way faster) on defense. The mistakes made on offense are rarely seen by parents but there are just as many even more vs the mistakes on defense.

Your husband needs to shut up. He is embarrassing your kid, hurting other kids on the team and pissing off other parents. If he can not let the kids play without comments, he should not be on the sidelines. Get him a camera and tell him to film the game. This will keep him busy and remove him from all the excitement.

Our club rule is NO PARENT COACHING. If your spouse pulled the child to the side to tell them how to play, that is coaching. That is a big NO.
Your pay coaches to coach your child. They don’t need their directions to be countermanded by a parent on the sideline.

I don't want to call out specific clubs but there is one club in Loudoun that is the worst. I wont name it but the initials are FCV. I have actually heard that they don't have a u little programs because the parents eat the weaker players. Correct me if I am wrong but I think there were parents from that club that brawled with each other during a game.

Anonymous wrote:At the recreation level, parents, including me, don’t know better and yell at their kids. As my DC learned and progressed on the soccer field with skills and IQ, so did I.

Ever since travel, DC still looks at me sometimes during the game and all I do is give her the thumbs up and smile. I now cheer for the entire team. No negative comments. I don’t jell at the referees either. If see a dirty play, I just yell out, “please be careful”.

^ I forgot to add in the above. My DC and I enjoy the game much more with my attitude towards the game.

At the recreation level, parents, including me, don’t know better and yell at their kids. As my DC learned and progressed on the soccer field with skills and IQ, so did I.

Ever since travel, DC still looks at me sometimes during the game and all I do is give her the thumbs up and smile. I now cheer for the entire team. No negative comments. I don’t jell at the referees either. If see a dirty play, I just yell out, “please be careful”.

Anonymous wrote:At the rec level, it seems like every parent yells the whole game. It's so commonplace . The kids don't pay any attention, and no one bothers to enforce it because it's rec soccer. But just go to any rec game and parents are shouting the whole time.

Take one of those parents and then put their kid on a travel team and there you go. therein in lies the problem

Not at all. Travel soccer has no shortage of parents that cant keep their mouths shut.

At the rec level, it seems like every parent yells the whole game. It's so commonplace . The kids don't pay any attention, and no one bothers to enforce it because it's rec soccer. But just go to any rec game and parents are shouting the whole time.

Take one of those parents and then put their kid on a travel team and there you go. therein in lies the problem

What clubs are owned by individual people? I never knew this. Thanks.

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Anonymous wrote:I think it must have been much worse than you thought. I have witnessed some unbelievable jacksssery on the sidelines and never thought of complaining (and not did any other arenas as far as I know) so for people to have complained it must have been bad. Tell your husband to chill.

Woman here. After a year of hearing sh@t like this I finally broke at a Memorial Day tournament and yelled “shut the f@ck up” to a d-bag dad that pulled that sh@t all year. Not my finest moment, but he’s been remarkably quiet this year.

I have seen much worse then that. Parents that insist on relentless commentary about others people's players risk it almost coming to blows.