Anonymous wrote:I am an older mom (Gen X, 52) so maybe it's generational, but I do not answer my kids when they yell at me from other rooms. I do not respond to my child upstairs yelling, "Where are my socks, mom?" If they want an answer, then they can come downstairs and ask me in a normal voice. Or text. But I will not barked at from other parts of the house. Again, it's a generational respect thing to me. If you have question, then you come and ask.

I do make an exception right now for online school -- "I can't log in", etc. and I am usually nearby working on my stuff. But otherwise my kids know better than to yell from upstairs.

I’m 42. My kids always yell from other rooms. They yell for me and they yell for each other.


I ignore them, chastise them...they keep on doing it. I like to hide out in my room

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Anonymous wrote:Mine are 17 and 13, no mom or dad unless it’s urgent. We’re WFH and are swamped. I make sure the fridge and pantry are stocked and they have the supplies they need. Dad is on IT (laptops connected to printer, toner filled, enough paper), upgraded our internet when we all started from home in the Spring, etc. Dad is now going into the office more often and I am home indefinitely, but even so they use their “moms” judiciously.

I have no problem saying, “I don’t know, ask dad” even if I know the answer when they’ve used up their “moms” for the day.

Oh and we all share a grocery list via Notes on our IPhones ; add what you want, I’m going to the store at this time, and if you don’t add it, you’ll wait until the next grocery trip.

Final comment, no one is yelling at me. Even when the oldest had an AP login glitch in May he texted me because he knew I was on a call myself but had my phone up in case he had a situation.

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Anonymous wrote:Holy Crap OP. This is my life too.

Mine are 5th, 8th and 8th graders. I think i hear "MOM!" about 30 times a day.

Meanwhile my husband is working from the "Bubble that cannot be disturbed" in the attic from 7am to 7pm each day.

+1 except 10th and 12th graders so it's until 11pm sometimes!

WTF?

Anonymous wrote:I am an older mom (Gen X, 52) so maybe it's generational, but I do not answer my kids when they yell at me from other rooms. I do not respond to my child upstairs yelling, "Where are my socks, mom?" If they want an answer, then they can come downstairs and ask me in a normal voice. Or text. But I will not barked at from other parts of the house. Again, it's a generational respect thing to me. If you have question, then you come and ask.

I do make an exception right now for online school -- "I can't log in", etc. and I am usually nearby working on my stuff. But otherwise my kids know better than to yell from upstairs.

Me too—51.

Anonymous wrote:Mine are 17 and 13, no mom or dad unless it’s urgent. We’re WFH and are swamped. I make sure the fridge and pantry are stocked and they have the supplies they need. Dad is on IT (laptops connected to printer, toner filled, enough paper), upgraded our internet when we all started from home in the Spring, etc. Dad is now going into the office more often and I am home indefinitely, but even so they use their “moms” judiciously.

I have no problem saying, “I don’t know, ask dad” even if I know the answer when they’ve used up their “moms” for the day.

Oh and we all share a grocery list via Notes on our IPhones ; add what you want, I’m going to the store at this time, and if you don’t add it, you’ll wait until the next grocery trip.

Mine are 17 and 13, no mom or dad unless it’s urgent. We’re WFH and are swamped. I make sure the fridge and pantry are stocked and they have the supplies they need. Dad is on IT (laptops connected to printer, toner filled, enough paper), upgraded our internet when we all started from home in the Spring, etc. Dad is now going into the office more often and I am home indefinitely, but even so they use their “moms” judiciously.

I have no problem saying, “I don’t know, ask dad” even if I know the answer when they’ve used up their “moms” for the day.

Mom, bla bla bla.
Mom, bla bla bla.
Mom, bla bla bla.
Mom, bla bla bla.

Every second of the day. I could scream.

I so get this, OP.
DH just sked what additional groceries we should buy since the kids will be needing lunches for online school, and I shot daggers at him--"Who do you think has been preparing their lunches for the last FIVE months?!?!?!? You think suddenly now that the new school year has started that we need to think about lunch?!? WTF! Seriously. He's been ensconced in his impenetrable home office since March and has never until now even thought about needing to stop work to prepare and have lunch with the kids. He's in his office from 7-7, steps out to prepare HIS OWN lunch, and never once re-emerges to take care of the kids.
BTW, I work full-time, too. And please, it's not about "asking"--we have had arguments about his need to observe and take responsibility. Grrrrrr.

Magic wands make the day a lot less stressful.

If these kids were young/ elementary age, then I get it. Middle and high schoolers should be pretty self-sufficient. And no one is doing their kids any favors by catering to it.

I am an older mom (Gen X, 52) so maybe it's generational, but I do not answer my kids when they yell at me from other rooms. I do not respond to my child upstairs yelling, "Where are my socks, mom?" If they want an answer, then they can come downstairs and ask me in a normal voice. Or text. But I will not barked at from other parts of the house. Again, it's a generational respect thing to me. If you have question, then you come and ask.

I do make an exception right now for online school -- "I can't log in", etc. and I am usually nearby working on my stuff. But otherwise my kids know better than to yell from upstairs.

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Anonymous wrote:Well, it's a 24/7 job so... I am sure you knew that.

Nope. We are not servants. Our “job” is to help them become good, resilient, self sufficient adults.

Yes, and that takes time, sometimes 24/7 time.

When my kids were little and yelled Mom, I would reply with Mary (their name). Gave me some satisfaction. Course I was a SAHM and not working.

Basically we had a no yelling rule in our house as soon as the kids were old enough to follow it.

Poor OP
it’s a mom thing it truly is.
It would be a dad thing too but Daddy wears his noise canceling headphones all day.
Daddies are smart.

Anonymous wrote:I have a rule that if they ask me to find something and I can find it within 30 seconds they owe me money from their allowance because they just “stole” MY time instead of using their brains and their eyes.

I just started a reverse allowance. If they ask and I can find it quickly, they owe me. Like where would frozen mangoes hide? The freezer is only so big.

Also I went to a fast food place and decided to eat it in the parking lot for some quiet time. Son called, then daughter called on behalf of my husband. Really??