We were really good business friends and we had socialized quite a bit so I knew him very well. We were on a business trip together and our flight from Cincinnati to Chicago was cancelled due to bad weather so we decided to drive. Half way to Chicago at about 10pm we ran into a terrible snow storm and left the highway to find a motel. The only one was low end and full of loud trucker types who greeted my arrival with merriment. I was very nervous and he said we could share a room and he promised to be a perfect gentleman. I’m not sure why I did it but once we were in bed I cuddled up next to him and started tickling him and that led to great fun. We got married a year later in 1995. It was so out of character for me but it certainly worked out for the best.

Anonymous wrote:When did you have sex with your husband or wife after meeting them? How long did you date?

We were friends for three months first. Then decided we wanted more.

I think it was our sixth date and I invited him to my place for dinner. I decided it was time and when I shopped for groceries I also bought condoms and an extra toothbrush and he was very impressed.

First date but he definitely wasn’t a stranger as we had know each other since ES. It was crazy because on other first dates I rarely even kissed anyone.

One month. Completely in love following. Happily married 20 years

First date.

3rd date - which was 3 days after our first date. That was 15 years ago!!

Didn't touch until after marriage. Very happy, good sex life. Yes we're religious.
We were each other's first everything. I hope my kids get the same.

Anonymous wrote:We had been friends for about 2 years. Slept together after our first date. We’ve been married for 6.5 years happily with a kid.

This happens with a lot of couples and I wonder if the marriages last longer given they were good friends beforehand.

Met at party in college. Started sleeping together the next night. Began dating a month after that. Very happy a decade later!

We had been friends for about 2 years. Slept together after our first date. We’ve been married for 6.5 years happily with a kid.

There is no right answer! Prior to meeting my DH I was very slow to have sex with anyone and I know guys simply disappeared because of it but I was fine with it because it had to be right for me. With my DH we had sex after the first date because it felt right to me.

When to get intimate depends on many factors including age, attractiveness, desire, any lingering feelings for another person, what type of relationship/no relationship you want, how desperate you want the person to be for you, etc. Give me some specifics and I'll be happy to advise.

Anonymous wrote:We had been very good friends for three years and then one day at lunch we began flirting and I really felt something. Two days later we had our first date and spent the night together. I was a virgin through college and with the few guys I was with before my husband it was never before the 5-6 date. We’ve been married 32 years so it’s worked out very well.

Guy here with a similar situation. A coworker and I were really good friends but I at least didn’t feel comfortable dating a coworker so nothing happened for about 2 years. She got invited to a big charity thing a few hours away and she didn’t want to go alone so she invited me. We had a great time with plenty of dancing and when we got back to our rooms she invited me into hers and that was that. So I guess it was on our first date but I knew everything about her beforehand.

We had been very good friends for three years and then one day at lunch we began flirting and I really felt something. Two days later we had our first date and spent the night together. I was a virgin through college and with the few guys I was with before my husband it was never before the 5-6 date. We’ve been married 32 years so it’s worked out very well.