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Anonymous wrote:Warning--remember how you feel RIGHT NOW after you've been ghosted after being intimate with him.

Because he may well get back in touch with you, have a lame excuse, and seem very interested again suddenly. This happens with men who have avoidant attachment styles. When he gets horny or lonely again, or gets over his fears, he will come back in force and seem excited and you'll feel that connection. Then when he gets what he wants again, or it's too much for him, he'll run away again.

So if he gets in touch, ignore and move on.

This is what is happening, OP. Verbatim. Let him heal from his appendicitis that made him unable to contact you for several days....and move on.

Anonymous wrote: He may not be ghosting you. I had a man do this because ha family member was ill .
pick up the phone like a grown-up call him and find out if he’s interested .

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Anonymous wrote:OP. I heard from him again. He said he started feeling really sick the morning after I left and ended up in the hospital with appendicitis. He had an infection and he was in the hospital until this morning. He never brought his phone and when it was brought to him and couldn’t remember my number to text me or call me. I believe him because he screenshot me proof of paperwork. He wants to see me again if I’m still interested. What should I do?

His phone was brought to him but he couldn’t remember your number to call or text.

How did he contact you before his appendicitis?

How did he contact you when he did?

(He didn’t want to talk to you. He always could have.)

OP here. Typo. He didn’t have his phone brought to him. I don’t remember phone numbers I put in my phone off of the top of my head. I don’t know his number either unless I look in my phone. It’s not like we have been dating 3 months or 3 years. It’s only been 3 dates. I wouldn’t expect him to know my number by heart at this point.

So you don't have his number stored under his name? He doesn't have your number stored under his name. He just forgot your name after 3 months, because he had appendicitis? I think it's a bunch of caca. But you know what it seems like you're into it so go ahead text him back, be his recovery nurse too.

OP here. I have his number under his name and vice versa but it’s only been 3 dates. He didn’t have his phone. I don’t know his number unless I look at my phone. I don’t expect him to know my number. How many people remember numbers from a person you went on 3 dates with? I don’t think many do.

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Anonymous wrote:OP. I heard from him again. He said he started feeling really sick the morning after I left and ended up in the hospital with appendicitis. He had an infection and he was in the hospital until this morning. He never brought his phone and when it was brought to him and couldn’t remember my number to text me or call me. I believe him because he screenshot me proof of paperwork. He wants to see me again if I’m still interested. What should I do?

His phone was brought to him but he couldn’t remember your number to call or text.

How did he contact you before his appendicitis?

How did he contact you when he did?

(He didn’t want to talk to you. He always could have.)

OP here. Typo. He didn’t have his phone brought to him. I don’t remember phone numbers I put in my phone off of the top of my head. I don’t know his number either unless I look in my phone. It’s not like we have been dating 3 months or 3 years. It’s only been 3 dates. I wouldn’t expect him to know my number by heart at this point.

So you don't have his number stored under his name? He doesn't have your number stored under his name. He just forgot your name after 3 months, because he had appendicitis? I think it's a bunch of caca. But you know what it seems like you're into it so go ahead text him back, be his recovery nurse too.

OP here. I have his number under his name and vice versa but it’s only been 3 dates. He didn’t have his phone. I don’t know his number unless I look at my phone. I don’t expect him to know my number. How many people remember numbers from a person you went on 3 dates with? I don’t think many do.

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Anonymous wrote:OP. I heard from him again. He said he started feeling really sick the morning after I left and ended up in the hospital with appendicitis. He had an infection and he was in the hospital until this morning. He never brought his phone and when it was brought to him and couldn’t remember my number to text me or call me. I believe him because he screenshot me proof of paperwork. He wants to see me again if I’m still interested. What should I do?

His phone was brought to him but he couldn’t remember your number to call or text.

How did he contact you before his appendicitis?

How did he contact you when he did?

(He didn’t want to talk to you. He always could have.)

OP here. Typo. He didn’t have his phone brought to him. I don’t remember phone numbers I put in my phone off of the top of my head. I don’t know his number either unless I look in my phone. It’s not like we have been dating 3 months or 3 years. It’s only been 3 dates. I wouldn’t expect him to know my number by heart at this point.

So you don't have his number stored under his name? He doesn't have your number stored under his name. He just forgot your name after 3 months, because he had appendicitis? I think it's a bunch of caca. But you know what it seems like you're into it so go ahead text him back, be his recovery nurse too.

Anonymous wrote:I would block his number so that he doesn’t get a chance to manipulate you when he comes back, they always do!

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Anonymous wrote:OP. I heard from him again. He said he started feeling really sick the morning after I left and ended up in the hospital with appendicitis. He had an infection and he was in the hospital until this morning. He never brought his phone and when it was brought to him and couldn’t remember my number to text me or call me. I believe him because he screenshot me proof of paperwork. He wants to see me again if I’m still interested. What should I do?

His phone was brought to him but he couldn’t remember your number to call or text.

How did he contact you before his appendicitis?

How did he contact you when he did?

(He didn’t want to talk to you. He always could have.)

OP here. Typo. He didn’t have his phone brought to him. I don’t remember phone numbers I put in my phone off of the top of my head. I don’t know his number either unless I look in my phone. It’s not like we have been dating 3 months or 3 years. It’s only been 3 dates. I wouldn’t expect him to know my number by heart at this point.

Anonymous wrote:Warning--remember how you feel RIGHT NOW after you've been ghosted after being intimate with him.

Because he may well get back in touch with you, have a lame excuse, and seem very interested again suddenly. This happens with men who have avoidant attachment styles. When he gets horny or lonely again, or gets over his fears, he will come back in force and seem excited and you'll feel that connection. Then when he gets what he wants again, or it's too much for him, he'll run away again.

So if he gets in touch, ignore and move on.

Anonymous wrote:Ghosting is seriously the worst.

The last guy I dated before I met DH ghosted me after about a month - maybe 4-5 dates. We had mutual friends so the likelihood of seeing each other in the future was high (and we in fact have been at many social events together over the years).

Anyway I called him out on it. I said it’s not a big deal to not want to date, but it is a dick move and totally disrespectful to not even send a ‘I don’t think this is going to work out’ text. I’m sure that conversation was way more uncomfortable for him than telling me he didn’t want to date me would have been. I know it wasn’t a “cool” thing to do, but all these years later I’m still proud of myself for doing it.

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Anonymous wrote:OP. I heard from him again. He said he started feeling really sick the morning after I left and ended up in the hospital with appendicitis. He had an infection and he was in the hospital until this morning. He never brought his phone and when it was brought to him and couldn’t remember my number to text me or call me. I believe him because he screenshot me proof of paperwork. He wants to see me again if I’m still interested. What should I do?

His phone was brought to him but he couldn’t remember your number to call or text.

How did he contact you before his appendicitis?

How did he contact you when he did?

(He didn’t want to talk to you. He always could have.)