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Anonymous wrote:I sleep in the guest room because: a) I sleep better; and b) I can masturbate in peace.

I used to endure the trouble I have falling asleep in the hopes that being in the bedroom would help our sex life. But it didn't. (Once every 4-6 weeks before, same after.)

I know my wife would like me to sleep in bed with her, but overall our marriage is better if I'm better rested & not sexually frustrated.

Wow, this is so dead on to my marriage I thought I wrote it. I tried to make it a habit of going back to sleep with my wife but all it led to was sexual frustration a d resentment. So back to the guest room for me

In all seriousness, this is exactly it. My DW and I have had issues with sex lately to the point where I'm lucky if it happens 1x month. She's borderline asexual and never initiates. Going to bed is fraught with issues - it's depressing/frustrating getting into bed with her b/c there is no chance for sex even when I'm crazy for her. I can see how sleeping in a guest bedroom would help in that regard but it's certainly not a long term solution

If we didn't sleep in the same bed wed probably rarely have sex.

This is what happens to couples where one has sleep apnea or snoring issues.

There is no law saying you HAVE to sleep in the same bed in the same room.

The pluses outweigh the minuses. A good night sleep is good for you. It helps your cells recover.

Another plus, you get to decorate your room like you want. I did my husband's room in camo. He LOVES it.

I did my room in birds. I LOVE it.

He snores. Separate beds is why I let him live.

Anonymous wrote:I sleep in the guest room because: a) I sleep better; and b) I can masturbate in peace.

I used to endure the trouble I have falling asleep in the hopes that being in the bedroom would help our sex life. But it didn't. (Once every 4-6 weeks before, same after.)

I know my wife would like me to sleep in bed with her, but overall our marriage is better if I'm better rested & not sexually frustrated.

Wow, this is so dead on to my marriage I thought I wrote it. I tried to make it a habit of going back to sleep with my wife but all it led to was sexual frustration a d resentment. So back to the guest room for me

Anonymous wrote:OP here. but we have not had sex in 6 months and he completely ok with it. He has been going through some health issues but nothing too serious.

Not normal for a man. Something is majorly wrong here. Confront him.

Separate bedrooms and it works so well. We go to bed at different times and need different levels of silence to sleep (ie total silence vs music). Google Carson daily and his wife. It’s becoming more and more common these days. I think it’s pretty healthy and sleep is so important.

It's a little weird, tbh, but there are a lot of weird people out there. if it works ok for you, so be it.

I sleep in the guest room because: a) I sleep better; and b) I can masturbate in peace.

I used to endure the trouble I have falling asleep in the hopes that being in the bedroom would help our sex life. But it didn't. (Once every 4-6 weeks before, same after.)

I know my wife would like me to sleep in bed with her, but overall our marriage is better if I'm better rested & not sexually frustrated.

Anonymous wrote:Sleeping in the same bed won’t fix ur sex life..:

+1

My husband is adamantly opposed to having separate bedrooms, despite the fact that he snores (to which he responds that sometimes I snore, too) and is a horribly restless AND light sleeper. And he complains about being tired all the time. He is also completely uninterested in sex. Personally, I think that getting better sleep might help, but he's unwilling to do anything about it.

We sleep apart because of his heavy snoring but it has had no effect on our sex life. A few nights a week we start in same bed for 30 minutes or so. I love morning sex so I will sometimes slip into his bed at dawn and it’s fun to wake him up.

He snores and I started snoring. Now he's up several times a night and twists and turns. When we don't get enough sleep, no one is happy. When we each get enough sleep, life is lovely. We both very much miss sleeping together, but it works.

Anonymous wrote:My husband snores like a congested wildebeest. If we didn’t sleep in different rooms he’d be dead and I’d be in jail for murdering him

I love you. Thanks for the laugh.

I prefer it. Spouse is a light sleeper, so i would always have to be super careful about movement so he wouldn’t wake up (always meant a cranky day). Spouse also always snores, but I got used to it and it and that didn’t really bother me, for years. Then he said I started snoring, and he would push me around to try to get me to shift position, always waking me up and I couldn’t go back to sleep. I had to lie super still so he wouldn’t wake up. I moved into the guest room and - bathroom is always clean because only I use it, I don’t have to worry about waking him up, I can luxuriate one in the whole bed. I’m never going back.