Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sure, of course. Might be a divorced guy though

Divorced men, with or without children, is fine by me. As long as the divorce is clean and over without residual drama.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sure, of course. Might be a divorced guy though

Divorced men, with or without children, is fine by me. As long as the divorce is clean and over without residual drama.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Divorced guys with baggage? Sure they are a dime a dozen. Plenty of these midlife losers out there. Take your pick. They will see charming and wonderful. You might want to check in with their prior wives/girlfriends for the truth.

I would never want someone else’s baggage. You are young. Go for a clean slate.

This is so true. OP, you have no idea.

I’ve been dating divorced men in your demographic and they’re all scared of intimacy and being hurt and refuse to consider another LTR.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sure, of course. Might be a divorced guy though

Divorced men, with or without children, is fine by me. As long as the divorce is clean and over without residual drama.

I’m a divorced 52yo guy I would absolutely love to get remarried to someone and have one more child. I have two now and the third with a new person would be great. I am very fit and healthy.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yeah. My husband is 12 years older but I wouldn’t have touched him with a 10 foot pole if there was an ex-wife and kids. Don’t settle for that if you have literally any other choice.

+1,000

You can get a clean slate at your age.

For the sake of a thought exercise, these are the things that I have found off putting about men under 35 (male friends, coworkers, ex boyfriends, male relatives) that I don’t see as much in men over 40:

Not being geographically settled so to speak, always leaving the idea of moving across the country on the table, leaving me wondering if this is a serious relationship worth pursuing
Being really into video games
Having overly “woke” politics (I’m quite left leaning on economic issues, but the online “woke” discourse is kind of off-putting”)
Not having a more classic or old fashioned sense of dating. I liked the way my sisters dated in the 90s: guys asked them out, they went on dates, then they were boyfriend and girlfriend. None of this ambiguous “seeing each other” and “not being about labels”
Being too into social media and on their phones
Tastes in music and cultural references
Goofiness and cutesiness in the bedroom. Not into that at all.

Anonymous wrote:Of course there is.

I don't want to be a jerk, but you do sound immature. Like a high school student trying to justify her relationship with a man in college. I find nothing wrong with age gaps, but your long defense of something you haven't done just sounds sad and try hard.

Anonymous wrote:I'm 44. Most men in their forties are divorced with kids. The ones who have never been married are often....socially awkward, not really looking for a great relationship, or otherwise somehow flawed.

YOU ARE 32. That is a great age because there are still many single men in their thirties who are very dateable who may be looking to get married. Target men who are 31 to 36. Trust me on this. Don't waste your time on men in their forties until you reach your early 40s and dont have any other choice.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yeah. My husband is 12 years older but I wouldn’t have touched him with a 10 foot pole if there was an ex-wife and kids. Don’t settle for that if you have literally any other choice.

+1,000

You can get a clean slate at your age.

For the sake of a thought exercise, these are the things that I have found off putting about men under 35 (male friends, coworkers, ex boyfriends, male relatives) that I don’t see as much in men over 40:

Not being geographically settled so to speak, always leaving the idea of moving across the country on the table, leaving me wondering if this is a serious relationship worth pursuing
Being really into video games
Having overly “woke” politics (I’m quite left leaning on economic issues, but the online “woke” discourse is kind of off-putting”)
Not having a more classic or old fashioned sense of dating. I liked the way my sisters dated in the 90s: guys asked them out, they went on dates, then they were boyfriend and girlfriend. None of this ambiguous “seeing each other” and “not being about labels”
Being too into social media and on their phones
Tastes in music and cultural references
Goofiness and cutesiness in the bedroom. Not into that at all.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Divorced guys with baggage? Sure they are a dime a dozen. Plenty of these midlife losers out there. Take your pick. They will see charming and wonderful. You might want to check in with their prior wives/girlfriends for the truth.

I would never want someone else’s baggage. You are young. Go for a clean slate.

This is so true. OP, you have no idea.

Anonymous wrote:Why not go on bumble and make your lead picture one where you’re holding up three fingers or something. Then one of us guys on here can have a photo of a similar thing and we could connect and if you like us you can swipe right.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yeah. My husband is 12 years older but I wouldn’t have touched him with a 10 foot pole if there was an ex-wife and kids. Don’t settle for that if you have literally any other choice.

+1,000

You can get a clean slate at your age.

Yes, OP can get a clean slate at her age, but the reality is that there are not that many quality men in their mid to late 40s, even early 40s, who were never married, and who do not have major issues. Good guys - successful, good looking, kind etc - get taken earlier. OP your preference for guys 15 years older than you is not very smart. By targeting men that much older than you, you are either going to get bachelors with issues, or divorced guys with baggage

Strictly in terms of the quality of men available and their willingness to settle down, the best time for OP to have acted on this preference would have been early to mid 20s. After 40 unless you’re dating A list celebrities I agree the never-married men are often single for good reason.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yeah. My husband is 12 years older but I wouldn’t have touched him with a 10 foot pole if there was an ex-wife and kids. Don’t settle for that if you have literally any other choice.

+1,000

You can get a clean slate at your age.

Yes, OP can get a clean slate at her age, but the reality is that there are not that many quality men in their mid to late 40s, even early 40s, who were never married, and who do not have major issues. Good guys - successful, good looking, kind etc - get taken earlier. OP your preference for guys 15 years older than you is not very smart. By targeting men that much older than you, you are either going to get bachelors with issues, or divorced guys with baggage

Anonymous wrote:I'm 44. Most men in their forties are divorced with kids. The ones who have never been married are often....socially awkward, not really looking for a great relationship, or otherwise somehow flawed.

YOU ARE 32. That is a great age because there are still many single men in their thirties who are very dateable who may be looking to get married. Target men who are 31 to 36. Trust me on this. Don't waste your time on men in their forties until you reach your early 40s and dont have any other choice.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yeah. My husband is 12 years older but I wouldn’t have touched him with a 10 foot pole if there was an ex-wife and kids. Don’t settle for that if you have literally any other choice.

+1,000

You can get a clean slate at your age.