Anonymous
Post 08/03/2020 23:57     Subject: How far away can I be from the hospital the week before due date?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This is against the law in NY. They’re supposed to quarantine for two weeks upon arrival, not have a staycation with a pregnant person.



This is interesting. Can visitors from affected states not "quarantine" with family members?

I know that in Tokyo (so obv a very different scenario), nationals and the few others who are allowed into the country can quarantine with family members after receiving negative Covid results (another big way its different). It's still considered "quarantine," just not as strict as it is the first two days (pre-results).

Are there rules for what constitutes quarantine in New York? If they have to be alone, it seems like a really big issue to discuss. If you, OP, want them to quarantine alone first for safety (and I get the feeling you do as you've already discussed it at least once?), this may be your trump card.


You have to be in a separate room with it’s own bathroom and meals delivered to the room. So I guess you could stay in your family’s house but stay in a guest room with it’s own bathroom and have a tray left outside the door. Not the staycation the OP is envisioning.


The separate room is only if you are symptomatic. I am in NY and just spoke to the contact tracing team today. They asked what type of accommodations I was staying in and how many people were there with me. Asked if I had enough food to not need to run to the grocery store and same for medications. I don’t know if my parents were here if they would also now have to be quarantined due to contact with me. I know my brother is a cop and said he would have to quarantine for 14 days if he saw me.

If I become symptomatic then they will require separate rooms, etc.
Anonymous
Post 08/03/2020 23:13     Subject: How far away can I be from the hospital the week before due date?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This is against the law in NY. They’re supposed to quarantine for two weeks upon arrival, not have a staycation with a pregnant person.



This is interesting. Can visitors from affected states not "quarantine" with family members?

I know that in Tokyo (so obv a very different scenario), nationals and the few others who are allowed into the country can quarantine with family members after receiving negative Covid results (another big way its different). It's still considered "quarantine," just not as strict as it is the first two days (pre-results).

Are there rules for what constitutes quarantine in New York? If they have to be alone, it seems like a really big issue to discuss. If you, OP, want them to quarantine alone first for safety (and I get the feeling you do as you've already discussed it at least once?), this may be your trump card.


You have to be in a separate room with it’s own bathroom and meals delivered to the room. So I guess you could stay in your family’s house but stay in a guest room with it’s own bathroom and have a tray left outside the door. Not the staycation the OP is envisioning.
Anonymous
Post 08/03/2020 21:54     Subject: Re:How far away can I be from the hospital the week before due date?
Anonymous wrote:In what world is it cheaper to rent anything in the Hamptons?? Summer Hamptons prices are insane!! You can get three hotel rooms in White Plains for a third of the price of a place in the Hamptons. They can be close by without being in the Hamptons. That is what I would push for


OP is due the week before Christmas.
Anonymous
Post 08/03/2020 21:43     Subject: How far away can I be from the hospital the week before due date?
Anonymous wrote:This is against the law in NY. They’re supposed to quarantine for two weeks upon arrival, not have a staycation with a pregnant person.



This is interesting. Can visitors from affected states not "quarantine" with family members?

I know that in Tokyo (so obv a very different scenario), nationals and the few others who are allowed into the country can quarantine with family members after receiving negative Covid results (another big way its different). It's still considered "quarantine," just not as strict as it is the first two days (pre-results).

Are there rules for what constitutes quarantine in New York? If they have to be alone, it seems like a really big issue to discuss. If you, OP, want them to quarantine alone first for safety (and I get the feeling you do as you've already discussed it at least once?), this may be your trump card.
Anonymous
Post 08/03/2020 18:38     Subject: Re:How far away can I be from the hospital the week before due date?
There is simply no way at 39 weeks pregnant that you will be up for 2-4 hour car rides through Long Island traffic. No way.
Anonymous
Post 08/03/2020 18:37     Subject: How far away can I be from the hospital the week before due date?
This is against the law in NY. They’re supposed to quarantine for two weeks upon arrival, not have a staycation with a pregnant person.
Anonymous
Post 08/03/2020 18:31     Subject: Re:How far away can I be from the hospital the week before due date?
In what world is it cheaper to rent anything in the Hamptons?? Summer Hamptons prices are insane!! You can get three hotel rooms in White Plains for a third of the price of a place in the Hamptons. They can be close by without being in the Hamptons. That is what I would push for
Anonymous
Post 08/03/2020 17:20     Subject: Re:How far away can I be from the hospital the week before due date?
Anonymous wrote:Yeah I would stay within one hour of your hospital. Sure you can give birth somewhere else but what a nightmare, with new doctors and the possibility that insurance won’t cover?

Honestly I live ten minutes from my hospital- when you are in labor you FEEL those ten minutes.





Agree on the insurance issue. You need to check your coverage nearby (or even look at the hospitals en route) in case you don't make it to your preferred spot.
Anonymous
Post 08/03/2020 15:41     Subject: How far away can I be from the hospital the week before due date?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Make sure your parents quarantine before comig in contact with you. COVID is the last thing you want for yourself or your baby.

Really all family visiits should wait. It's not worth risking a sick baby.

Not sure if this is your first, but it kind of seems like it is, and now is the yime to be putting your needs, and baby's needs first. What your parents and other family members what goes way down the list.


In this climate I would be as close to a hospital as possible.

If I were you I would be telling the parents no. They are welcome to visit( fter wuarantining) my home that is 10 minutes from my hospital and birth team that I am comfortable while I try to relax before giving birth, and having life upended by a newborn.



Quarantining is a whole other issue I am worried about. It would be very expensive for them to arrive 2 weeks early in NYC and rent a place for that period (on top of the next 2 weeks they intend to be here). I raised it with them and they said they would do it if I wanted them to, but were obviously reluctant. I should add that these are actually my in laws (my parents are deceased)- Just didn't want to start in law drama by mentioning in laws in the original post. DH does not want to keep them from seeing their grandchild and thinks I am worrying excessively.


What the f? Ok so then can they spend a few hundred dollars they would have used on renting a place in the hamptons on a rapid covid test. Like you need to take some precautions - your DH is f’d in the head if he thinks You’re excessively worrying. Dear god. Put your foot down on that. It’s a newborn!
Anonymous
Post 08/03/2020 15:37     Subject: How far away can I be from the hospital the week before due date?
Not surprising at all that these are the in-laws, not the parents. Most parents would not treat their pregnant daughter like this.
Anonymous
Post 08/03/2020 15:36     Subject: How far away can I be from the hospital the week before due date?
Anonymous wrote:Regardless of Labor, I can’t think of anything more hellish than driving 2 hours at 39 weeks. I was miserable and peeing every 15 mins. Trying to find a comfortable position on a couch was difficult. Can’t imagine in a car.


OP don't do this. I would be so resentful and anxious about the whole thing. It's not worth it.
Anonymous
Post 08/03/2020 15:32     Subject: How far away can I be from the hospital the week before due date?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Make sure your parents quarantine before comig in contact with you. COVID is the last thing you want for yourself or your baby.

Really all family visiits should wait. It's not worth risking a sick baby.

Not sure if this is your first, but it kind of seems like it is, and now is the yime to be putting your needs, and baby's needs first. What your parents and other family members what goes way down the list.


In this climate I would be as close to a hospital as possible.

If I were you I would be telling the parents no. They are welcome to visit( fter wuarantining) my home that is 10 minutes from my hospital and birth team that I am comfortable while I try to relax before giving birth, and having life upended by a newborn.



Quarantining is a whole other issue I am worried about. It would be very expensive for them to arrive 2 weeks early in NYC and rent a place for that period (on top of the next 2 weeks they intend to be here). I raised it with them and they said they would do it if I wanted them to, but were obviously reluctant. I should add that these are actually my in laws (my parents are deceased)- Just didn't want to start in law drama by mentioning in laws in the original post. DH does not want to keep them from seeing their grandchild and thinks I am worrying excessively.



Where are they coming from? I am actually worried for you OP, you need someone in your corner backing you at this time, ideally, this should be your DH. If you can't do it for yourself you need to insist on quarantining for the baby. Do you want to risk not being able to hold your baby for a month because you tes positive thanks to granparents? Do you want to risk your baby getting sick because of grandparents?
Now is the time to start setting boundaries. You simply cannot have people who don't want to quarantine be around you or your newborn.
If your husband won't listen to you, will he listen to your doctor/midwife or your baby's doctor if you have picked one?
Anonymous
Post 08/03/2020 15:02     Subject: How far away can I be from the hospital the week before due date?
They need to suck it up and stay near you. You will be birthing their grandchild. They need to have some respect.
Anonymous
Post 08/03/2020 15:00     Subject: Re:How far away can I be from the hospital the week before due date?
Yeah I would stay within one hour of your hospital. Sure you can give birth somewhere else but what a nightmare, with new doctors and the possibility that insurance won’t cover?

Honestly I live ten minutes from my hospital- when you are in labor you FEEL those ten minutes.
Anonymous
Post 08/03/2020 14:54     Subject: How far away can I be from the hospital the week before due date?
I assume their are hosptials in teh Hamptons if you needed one. I used a different hosptial then expected as my Dr did not think I would make it to their preferred spot. Baby was born 30 minutes after I got there...which hosptial did not matter.