I hate when people say this, but he doesn't seem that into you.

Be careful about playing with coworkers.

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What gives? How can I figure out what’s going on here? Am I just the pretty work wife?

You have answered the question yourself. You are pretty. And he has told you he finds you pretty on more than one occasion. I'm a 50 year old man and I can tell you that men are not that complicated. If he thinks you're hot, he's into you. Period.

Drop a hint that you have to leave a meeting to meet with your lawyer or something. When he says "Lawyer?" you tell him about your divorce.

It's that simple.

This was genius. I did exactly what you said and we went for drinks this evening!!! You are brilliant! Thank you!

So how did it go?

I want to know too. OP - how did the night end?

It was a lot of fun. Still flirty the whole time but did not cross the line to what I would call a “date.” So I‘m not really even sure if it was a date, but at least the cards are on the table now in terms of my relationship status. To the PP that said I have to make the first move because of me too, I understand. But I’m never going to be able to bring myself to do that. That’s just not my personality type at all and I’d feel so uncomfortable.

And maybe that’s ok?

Yet today hm basically staring at my phone willing him to text me so who knows.

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What gives? How can I figure out what’s going on here? Am I just the pretty work wife?

You have answered the question yourself. You are pretty. And he has told you he finds you pretty on more than one occasion. I'm a 50 year old man and I can tell you that men are not that complicated. If he thinks you're hot, he's into you. Period.

Drop a hint that you have to leave a meeting to meet with your lawyer or something. When he says "Lawyer?" you tell him about your divorce.

It's that simple.

This was genius. I did exactly what you said and we went for drinks this evening!!! You are brilliant! Thank you!

So how did it go?

I want to know too. OP - how did the night end?

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Anonymous wrote:Next time he suggests a socially distanced drink, say, how about Friday?

YES - this!

don't listen to the shriveled crones here who think you should marry someone your own age and that going on a date with a friend means you'll marry them and regret it

please!

Say, how about we violate the social distance this Friday. My divorce attorney postponed our meeting so I'm free, in more ways than one.

You have to make the move. Metoo has us all scared of being too forward these days.

Anonymous wrote:How low are your standards, OP? I wouldn't even entertain that idea. Gross.

Low standards?
Who said anything about low standards?
Shes already said that she's attracted to him, so how exactly is she lowering her standards?

Why, because he's 20 years older than her?
Brad Pitt is 56 send he is still FINE, so if she's 36 & he's 56, that's still young enough to keep up with her.

Try not being so judgy, it's a really unattractive quality and nobody likes someone so judgmental... oh, and people are going to look at you one day and say "gross" too, as you'll be old like OP's crush.

Karma is a bitch.

Anonymous wrote:I would go for it. He is older, you will feel like a goddess next to him and you have a crush on him. Both of you are single so no issues there. Don’t look at it as your next boyfriend relationship but something to make yourself feel better. He will like the attention so no issues hurting his feelings. And if you do, no big deal either. It sounds fun to me

“recently separated” =/= “single”