Be kind to each other.

Remember to laugh.

Put each other first. If you allow family to interfere in your marriage they will degrade it.

Make sure you are from a similar economic background, are at the same level spiritually and have similar interests.

Never talk.poorly about your spouse to your family.

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Anonymous wrote:Don't combine funds.

Actually mine is the opposite. Do combine them.

+1

+2 Unless you come in with a kid I think it's best to combine completely and fully. You're one unit, one team, rowing in the same direction.

12 years married, three kids, never a joint account.

Neat?

Go to premarital counseling to settle any differences you have and clear the air.

Communicate communicate communicate beyond that.

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Anonymous wrote:Schedule sex

I think that is horrible advice.

It saved my marriage. So I would disagree.

Yes, absolutely. We have busy jobs and kids. At the beginning of our relationship, we had sex literally every day... but you get busy and you have kids and you get promoted and you have less time. I am a scheduler and since early in our marriage I have always scheduled sex twice a week. You can have spontaneous sex too, but scheduling sex keeps you honest. I run every day and that's very important to me and I write it on my to-do list every day. Why wouldn't I do the same with sex? I've always believed that you schedule what is important. The most we've gone without sex is six weeks (after I gave birth)! Action breeds motivation. You can't always wait for motivation.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't combine funds.

Actually mine is the opposite. Do combine them.

+1

+2 Unless you come in with a kid I think it's best to combine completely and fully. You're one unit, one team, rowing in the same direction.

12 years married, three kids, never a joint account.

Have your own money.

Don't care so much. I mean, care. But don't CARE care.

Get out of debt and stay out of debt.

Man needs a Man Cave. A room not decorated by his wife, and he keeps it in any messy condition he wants.

Anonymous wrote:Don't combine funds.

DO combine funds but be completely transparent about spending. Both spouses on every account and card. Agree on how big a purchase one can make without checking. Pull both spouse's credit reports annually (learned this the hard way).

Go to marital counseling as a preventative checkup, not just when things get bad. But still go when things get bad.

Each week have a regular date night and a separate regular "business meeting" to talk about the week's schedule, chores, finances, etc. Don't combine them.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't combine funds.

Actually mine is the opposite. Do combine them.

+1

+2 Unless you come in with a kid I think it's best to combine completely and fully. You're one unit, one team, rowing in the same direction.

Both get on the same wavelength on saving money. And never let sex be boring.

I agree with Chris Rock, "You're there to serve, you are both there to serve...don't compete, her success is your success, his success is your success...any problem you have was there in the beginning, but you were f#cking, so you forgave."