Grandparents job is to spoil/break the rules (safely). You can either choose to punish him for this and address it with her, letting her know you punished him, or you can address it verbally with both 'you know this was not ok' and leave it at that.

Let it go this tome but next time spell it out very explicitly. “Mom, no phone, no computer, no tablet, no iPad” etc.

The bully posse's in full force on this thread.

Anonymous wrote:Leave it alone. This is all in your son, who you say is old enough to know better. A full day of free babysitting and your child knowingly broke the rules? Choose your battles, coming down on your mom is not the battle.

This. Exactly this.

You might be the boss of your son, but you are not the boss of your mom. Why is that so hard to understand? Would you be ok if she told you that you overstepped by ordering her how to deal with a grandson that you brought to her to watch? She is not a nanny you are paying. Have a glass of wine and stop clenching your butt cheeks! You are not in Damascus!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Leave it alone. This is all in your son, who you say is old enough to know better. A full day of free babysitting and your child knowingly broke the rules? Choose your battles, coming down on your mom is not the battle.

+1.

Beggars can't be choosers. Your only option would be not having your mom watch him again. Are you willing to go down that road?

+1

You should have made it all or nothing on the electronics. Let it go.

Let it go. Grandparents privilege.

Not the end of the world in terms of your disciplinary approach - it will be ok.

Anonymous wrote:I would tell my mother she couldn't spend one on one time with my kid if she couldn't follow my rules. Yes, it's nice of her to watch the kid, but not if she undermines my parenting in the process. And spending time with her grandkid is a gift to her, as well.

Oh Jesus. She let the kid play on her her phone. They weren’t smoking crack together. You people clearly need a break. Lighten up.

Anonymous wrote:If your son is being grounded, don't have your mother babysit him.

Ditto! What are you going to do about your Mom? You’re going to thank her again for providing a day of free childcare. I have two young kids, but my God, get a grip!

Has to be my way, my way is Tv is ok, but phone is not.

Doesn't watching a movie involve electronics? You broke your own rule.

A question op? If you don't mind. Are you in favor of physical schools and ds going to school or are you in favor of DL?

Op, when you accept a favor, you do so knowing the outcome may not be perfect, to your liking.

You're entitle to feel any way you want but it's serves no purpose to dwell on this

Anonymous wrote:What if this wasn’t grandma? What if your son lost screens that day and then was invited to a friends house to play, would you tell that mom “he can come over, but no screens allowed because of his consequence”? No, of course not. You shouldn’t have your mom enforce your consequences either. Since this isn’t a safety thing, let it go.

If this wasn’t grandma, then my kid wouldn’t get to go to a friend’s house when he’s grounded. The answer is no.

Your comparison makes no sense.