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Anonymous wrote:Could be a lot of things, but aggressive/nasty people just remind me of aggressive/nasty dogs. There isn't something wrong with them, but people always hurt them (or have hurt them) so they have a "fight face" on and have to lash out first. They have the attitude of dogs who were forced to fight.

Cut them off, and find people who have the attitude of a golden retriever loafing around in a pile of leaves.

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Primitive people = primitive behavior, OP.

+1.5

Nature + nurture comes into play here too.

Sometimes there is something wrong with them actually. They may have brains that are structured in a certain way which makes impulse control difficult for example.
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Yes, that is definitely a nature thing. But even people that have things chemically off can obtain treatment to live with their disability without hurting their relationships. But yes, i would think the exceptions to that might be someone with a severe form of Narcissistic Personality Disorder, or a sociopath or serial killer. I've never really think much about the possibility that people *can't* change. I usually consider it as someone unwilling to, not literally incapable of it.

You make a good point to keep in mind.

Well sociopaths might change their behavior, but an in with them often has to be because it is in their best interest, that they get something out of changing their behavior (e.g. staying out of jail, partner not divorcing them and taking their money). They are not necessarily changing out of remorse for something they did or wanting to be a better person or valuing growth. Change has to be because they get something they want. That can motivate them.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Could be a lot of things, but aggressive/nasty people just remind me of aggressive/nasty dogs. There isn't something wrong with them, but people always hurt them (or have hurt them) so they have a "fight face" on and have to lash out first. They have the attitude of dogs who were forced to fight.

Cut them off, and find people who have the attitude of a golden retriever loafing around in a pile of leaves.

+1

Primitive people = primitive behavior, OP.

+1.5

Nature + nurture comes into play here too.

Sometimes there is something wrong with them actually. They may have brains that are structured in a certain way which makes impulse control difficult for example.
.

Yes, that is definitely a nature thing. But even people that have things chemically off can obtain treatment to live with their disability without hurting their relationships. But yes, i would think the exceptions to that might be someone with a severe form of Narcissistic Personality Disorder, or a sociopath or serial killer. I've never really think much about the possibility that people *can't* change. I usually consider it as someone unwilling to, not literally incapable of it.

You make a good point to keep in mind.

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Anonymous wrote:you described quite a number of folks who frequent DCUM

Funny what I was thinking. I'm shocked at the people who admit they lie and cheat and have zero remorse...at least most.

Or the bragging AP's. I'm old enough to have seen some really bad things happen to those people. Bad people invite all kinds of drama into their lives.

not just limited to the issue of cheating but there are some prolific posters who just tear into people for no reason other than they themselves are just sad, depressed, angry human beings

Yes. They are on DCUM a lot. When I see the following phrases I know the person has issues and to keep scrolling: "grow up", "can't take you seriously", and "virtue signaling".

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Could be a lot of things, but aggressive/nasty people just remind me of aggressive/nasty dogs. There isn't something wrong with them, but people always hurt them (or have hurt them) so they have a "fight face" on and have to lash out first. They have the attitude of dogs who were forced to fight.

Cut them off, and find people who have the attitude of a golden retriever loafing around in a pile of leaves.

+1

Primitive people = primitive behavior, OP.

+1.5

Nature + nurture comes into play here too.

Sometimes there is something wrong with them actually. They may have brains that are structured in a certain way which makes impulse control difficult for example.
.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:you described quite a number of folks who frequent DCUM

Funny what I was thinking. I'm shocked at the people who admit they lie and cheat and have zero remorse...at least most.

Or the bragging AP's. I'm old enough to have seen some really bad things happen to those people. Bad people invite all kinds of drama into their lives.

I’m anxiously awaiting to see that Karma take a lying/cheating evil b@tch down!!

I agree. At 50, I’ve seen many a-holes pay their due in some fairly spectacular ways!

Karma doesn't always deliver a gut punch though. I've got an unhappy neighbor who takes it out on others in the neighborhood and while the Karma bus hasn't come it appears that a slow, miserable Karma burn is taking over this person's entire mental state. Pinched face, angry grimace and aging quickly. Wow, all of that negativity is eating them up inside.

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It does! Totally eats people like this from the inside out, and they hate nothing more than seeing someone else happy, or seeing someone with something they want. It KILLS them.

OP, people like this can't figure out how to be happy, because they get in their own way. They don't know any better. NOT your problem.

Exhibit A
Before (pre Senator Palpatine)


Exhibit B
After (pre Darth Sidious)

LOL. He always looks so unhappy and that reflects how he works his relationships at work.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Could be a lot of things, but aggressive/nasty people just remind me of aggressive/nasty dogs. There isn't something wrong with them, but people always hurt them (or have hurt them) so they have a "fight face" on and have to lash out first. They have the attitude of dogs who were forced to fight.

Cut them off, and find people who have the attitude of a golden retriever loafing around in a pile of leaves.

+1

Primitive people = primitive behavior, OP.

+1.5

Nature + nurture comes into play here too.

Anonymous wrote:Could be a lot of things, but aggressive/nasty people just remind me of aggressive/nasty dogs. There isn't something wrong with them, but people always hurt them (or have hurt them) so they have a "fight face" on and have to lash out first. They have the attitude of dogs who were forced to fight.

Cut them off, and find people who have the attitude of a golden retriever loafing around in a pile of leaves.

+1

Primitive people = primitive behavior, OP.

Poster above...because they are incapable of empathy.

Some people (babies) are also born inherently more aggressive. So maturing and working through frustrations is more challenging. They may need stronger outside boundaries from a parent for example, or more guidance, supervision and patience. Usually more Love to mediate or neutralize their aggression. The lucky ones get it, many don't. A certain number will be abused, sadly, amplifying their aggressive, difficult character. Then they are more likely to be hated by others as their hate increases and well then the nasty cycle continues. They may identify with the abuser, and then their sadistic features grow and they develop a whole sadistic, perverted character that overshadows, the good. It's very sad. Avoid these people...they can be deeply destructive.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:you described quite a number of folks who frequent DCUM

Funny what I was thinking. I'm shocked at the people who admit they lie and cheat and have zero remorse...at least most.

Or the bragging AP's. I'm old enough to have seen some really bad things happen to those people. Bad people invite all kinds of drama into their lives.

I’m anxiously awaiting to see that Karma take a lying/cheating evil b@tch down!!

I agree. At 50, I’ve seen many a-holes pay their due in some fairly spectacular ways!

Karma doesn't always deliver a gut punch though. I've got an unhappy neighbor who takes it out on others in the neighborhood and while the Karma bus hasn't come it appears that a slow, miserable Karma burn is taking over this person's entire mental state. Pinched face, angry grimace and aging quickly. Wow, all of that negativity is eating them up inside.

+1

It does! Totally eats people like this from the inside out, and they hate nothing more than seeing someone else happy, or seeing someone with something they want. It KILLS them.

OP, people like this can't figure out how to be happy, because they get in their own way. They don't know any better. NOT your problem.

Exhibit A
Before (pre Senator Palpatine)


Exhibit B
After (pre Darth Sidious)