Anonymous wrote:Some scorned women in this world. Keeping the phone or a PP
said, “When you go, leave the phone someplace awesome.”
We don’t give a rats azz about being exposed as a cheater. Like it’s some dirty little secret? BFD, it happens all the time.

Really? You don’t care if friends, neighbors, families get sent copies of your dirty pics and texts?

Okay

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Anonymous wrote:Keep the phone.
Kick him out (unless it is his house, you were a bit unclear), or leave ASAP.
You deserve better.

Keep the phone? For what? Use as evidence? Courts don’t care about that. It’s 50/50 unless stated otherwise.

Not true. VA cares about adultery. It’s not a no fault state.

Some scorned women in this world. Keeping the phone or a PP
said, “When you go, leave the phone someplace awesome.”
We don’t give a rats azz about being exposed as a cheater. Like it’s some dirty little secret? BFD, it happens all the time.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Keep the phone.
Kick him out (unless it is his house, you were a bit unclear), or leave ASAP.
You deserve better.

Keep the phone? For what? Use as evidence? Courts don’t care about that. It’s 50/50 unless stated otherwise.

That’s not true, cheating is considered in alimony for divorces. Depends on where OP lives.

Yes it is... Best friends ex-wife had pages of text messages of his affair. Didn’t increase the dollar amount she received.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Keep the phone.
Kick him out (unless it is his house, you were a bit unclear), or leave ASAP.
You deserve better.

Keep the phone? For what? Use as evidence? Courts don’t care about that. It’s 50/50 unless stated otherwise.

That’s not true, cheating is considered in alimony for divorces. Depends on where OP lives.

Anonymous wrote:See a lawyer immediately to get good advice to protect your share of assets. Laws vary from state to state. Would take out half of money in joint accounts and transfer that to an account just in your name to prevent him from emptying them. Keep the phone, immediately email yourself pictures and forward emails/texts so if he can wipe his phone remotely you still have copies. Take valuables that belong to you (jewelry, etc) and secure them in a safety deposit box or safe place he can’t access. Look out for your well being, financial future and safety first. I’m sorry he acted this way, hope you have some family or supportive friends to lean on.

Remember this... Whatever money she take from a joint account, it will all be brought up in court. I agree she should get money and protect herself. I’m not saying she shouldn’t.
Copies of texts and pictures for what? Keep them for piece of mind? To show everyone he’s a cheater? I doubt he cares and doubt he will have hurt feelings. Do you think having evidence will have any outcome on the amount of money she is entitled to?
Do you think the more pictures and texts will increase the dollar amount she will receive? There are no punishment guidelines for divorce.
Affair = Split assets 3/4.
Irreconcilable differences = Split assets 1/2.
Numerous friends have all gone through divorce for one reason or another and the financial support is the same unless it was all worked out ahead of time in the event of a divorce. Prenup...

Anonymous wrote:Keep the phone.
Kick him out (unless it is his house, you were a bit unclear), or leave ASAP.
You deserve better.

Keep the phone? For what? Use as evidence? Courts don’t care about that. It’s 50/50 unless stated otherwise.

See a lawyer immediately to get good advice to protect your share of assets. Laws vary from state to state. Would take out half of money in joint accounts and transfer that to an account just in your name to prevent him from emptying them. Keep the phone, immediately email yourself pictures and forward emails/texts so if he can wipe his phone remotely you still have copies. Take valuables that belong to you (jewelry, etc) and secure them in a safety deposit box or safe place he can’t access. Look out for your well being, financial future and safety first. I’m sorry he acted this way, hope you have some family or supportive friends to lean on.

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Anonymous wrote:I would keep the phone and say absolutely nothing, but immediately make arrangements to leave.

Same here. Put on your game face and make your exit plan. So very sorry you're going through this.

When you go, leave the phone someplace awesome.

I think this is a troll post.

Amateur hour...burner phone. Rule 1 for an affair... no electronic footprint.

Anonymous wrote:Why are so many men such complete sh!t bags?

Sorry, OP. He sucks. Take the high road and leave him completely. Let his head spin.

Sorry I have an exDW that proves it’s not just men

OP said she was on Facebook with him/her. She knew he was married.

Anonymous wrote:Men don’t find the cream of the crop to have their affairs with. Those women would require much more than the bare minimum bread crumbs our husbands gave these trash bags.

How do you know the other woman knew? It’s possible, but there are people who live double lives and just lie. About everything. Everything.

Men don’t find the cream of the crop to have their affairs with. Those women would require much more than the bare minimum bread crumbs our husbands gave these trash bags.