Anonymous
08/04/2020 20:50
Subject: Re:Step-DD refuses to wear a mask
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP—I ended up taking the car keys away since the vehicle is in my name. Other irresponsible behavior contributed to the car privileges being taken away (losing her driver license while out with friends). I have basically told her that having a car as a 17yo is a privilege. Since she does not respect my boundaries and does not contribute to the household in any shape or form, I am not responsible for providing her with a mode of transportation. I do things for you, but I expect you to at least empty a dishwasher and walk the dog a few times a week. We’re not a very happy family right now, but at least I am not enabling irresponsible teenage behavior.
Good on you, OP. That couldn't have been easy, and I bet she's doing her best to punish everyone for her choices. You did the right thing.
+1
I’m sure she’s making life miserable, but she got what she needs. No way should she have a car!
Anonymous
08/04/2020 03:23
Subject: Re:Step-DD refuses to wear a mask
Anonymous wrote:OP—I ended up taking the car keys away since the vehicle is in my name. Other irresponsible behavior contributed to the car privileges being taken away (losing her driver license while out with friends). I have basically told her that having a car as a 17yo is a privilege. Since she does not respect my boundaries and does not contribute to the household in any shape or form, I am not responsible for providing her with a mode of transportation. I do things for you, but I expect you to at least empty a dishwasher and walk the dog a few times a week. We’re not a very happy family right now, but at least I am not enabling irresponsible teenage behavior.
Good on you, OP. That couldn't have been easy, and I bet she's doing her best to punish everyone for her choices. You did the right thing.
Anonymous
08/04/2020 02:12
Subject: Re:Step-DD refuses to wear a mask
Then she can find her own place to live. I am NOT dealing with a 17yo who feels free to bring covid home.
Anonymous
08/03/2020 15:28
Subject: Step-DD refuses to wear a mask
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Where is she getting her money and transportation?
From her savings (hard to find work right now due to COVID), we provide her with a car. We do give gas money during school year obviously.
Take the car. No mask, no keys.
Anonymous
08/03/2020 15:27
Subject: Re:Step-DD refuses to wear a mask
You need to pressure spouse to get a handle on his child. I would cut off anything that is enabling her such as credit cards, car, etc. until she demonstrates she is a responsible human being. Right now she's a selfish child and deserves nothing.
Anonymous
08/03/2020 15:15
Subject: Step-DD refuses to wear a mask
Can you shut down her phone?
Anonymous
08/03/2020 10:59
Subject: Re:Step-DD refuses to wear a mask
Anonymous wrote:OP—I ended up taking the car keys away since the vehicle is in my name. Other irresponsible behavior contributed to the car privileges being taken away (losing her driver license while out with friends). I have basically told her that having a car as a 17yo is a privilege. Since she does not respect my boundaries and does not contribute to the household in any shape or form, I am not responsible for providing her with a mode of transportation. I do things for you, but I expect you to at least empty a dishwasher and walk the dog a few times a week. We’re not a very happy family right now, but at least I am not enabling irresponsible teenage behavior.
So where is her dad in all this?
Anonymous
08/03/2020 08:27
Subject: Step-DD refuses to wear a mask
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Where is she getting her money and transportation?
From her savings (hard to find work right now due to COVID), we provide her with a car. We do give gas money during school year obviously.
I see this statement everyone on here. Excuses, excuses. Giant and Safeway are hiring.
Anonymous
08/03/2020 00:27
Subject: Step-DD refuses to wear a mask
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Where is she getting her money and transportation?
From her savings (hard to find work right now due to COVID), we provide her with a car. We do give gas money during school year obviously.
Well Jesus Christ then take away her car keys!
She just will have her friends pick her up; all are driving. I do not want to get involved as a step-parent.
She could kill you with what she's doing. You are allowed to get involved.
WAY too dramatic. Seriously. What is wrong with you?
It is in no way too dramatic. This bratty child could bring home a disease that likely wouldn't seriously harm the teenager, but could have much more devastating effects on the adults in the household. What is wrong with YOU?
Anonymous
08/02/2020 19:23
Subject: Step-DD refuses to wear a mask
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Where is she getting her money and transportation?
From her savings (hard to find work right now due to COVID), we provide her with a car. We do give gas money during school year obviously.
Then she’s getting money from YOU!!!!
No masks = no car
Stop enabling her. Obviously, gas should come out if her savings
Anonymous
08/02/2020 19:16
Subject: Re:Step-DD refuses to wear a mask
OP—I ended up taking the car keys away since the vehicle is in my name. Other irresponsible behavior contributed to the car privileges being taken away (losing her driver license while out with friends). I have basically told her that having a car as a 17yo is a privilege. Since she does not respect my boundaries and does not contribute to the household in any shape or form, I am not responsible for providing her with a mode of transportation. I do things for you, but I expect you to at least empty a dishwasher and walk the dog a few times a week. We’re not a very happy family right now, but at least I am not enabling irresponsible teenage behavior.
Anonymous
07/02/2020 11:05
Subject: Step-DD refuses to wear a mask
Anonymous wrote:Malls are still shut clown
Nope. Was just hearing on the radio that some have opened. Not that I'll be going to one anytime soon, but they are open...
Anonymous
07/02/2020 11:03
Subject: Step-DD refuses to wear a mask
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Where is she getting her money and transportation?
From her savings (hard to find work right now due to COVID), we provide her with a car. We do give gas money during school year obviously.
Then this is incredibly easy:
No mask, no car.
She has zero need to go anywhere right now. There is no school, sports, work or internships that she needs to go to. She is showing you she can’t handle the responsibility—believe her.
Confiscate the car keys.
Not OP, but dear lord you people are clueless. Her friends will pick her up.
Yiu can't control a 17yr old with a hammer. It won't work. She can walk right out thr door and if the parents decided to kick her out they will be arrested.
OP will get better results with diplomacy and compromise.
For the record my son works at Wegmans and picked up more shifts when school closed. He did not wear a mask, not did 90% of his coworkers until it became the law. No ody died at his Wegmans and nobody in out house died, or even got sick. He does no social distancing and has an active social life and I'm alive to tell the story.
This is clearly true and also clearly true for everyone, which is why no one in the US has COVID, nor has died from it.
Anonymous
07/01/2020 17:40
Subject: Step-DD refuses to wear a mask
Malls are still shut clown
Anonymous
07/01/2020 08:17
Subject: Re:Step-DD refuses to wear a mask
Anonymous wrote:1) Her dad needs to deal with this, not you
2) Her dad needs to tell her that if she won't wear a mask then she cannot be anywhere near the family so she will have to live in the basement and figure her meals out
3) if your husband won't tell her this then you need to tell him that he needs to stay in the basement
This is good advice. Especially if delivered calmly, matter of factly, not as punishment but as a reasonable means of dealing with people who have different attitudes about acceptable social risk. I’m not saying that I think the girl is being reasonable, but just what I would do given the current situation.