Anonymous wrote:Is your DH on the spectrum?

+1 this goes beyond rude

Sounds like my friend’s parent. These examples of the most hurtful behavior track. They are a narcissist. It took my friend a decade of therapy to become a truly functional adult. If your DH is a narcissist you need to get yourself into therapy so you can help your children. Good luck.

Be sure to address this with your son as you don't want him accepting this kind of treatment from other people

Major a$$!
Let your son know he’s being an a$$.
Tell your husband he’s being an a$$ and you won’t have it.

Some people are just rude. Others have underlying medical conditions that have yet been diagnosed that makes them behave more like assholes than they originally would have done.

This is a possibility for a man with teen aged sons.

I remember when I was little I got my dad a chia pet from like the school's Santa's secret workshop thing. When he opened it, he said..."This is the worst gift even given on Xmas." ....Some dads just suck!

He’s an ass. I’m sorry. Clearly your children take after you please try and set an example for them by standing up for yourself and them in front of him. He needs to apologize to both of them. If he keeps it up he either changes his behavior or gets out. I’m so sorry

There must be some good history here because j don’t think the kids would be still trying if he’s always been like this??

Anonymous wrote:Perhaps there's something wrong with me, but I found the pea thing hilarious, and as for the leaf blower, yes he could have been more gracious, but your son buying him a leaf blower is the equivalent of him buying you an iron or other chore related item.

nope, not even close. Parent/child relationship is different than spouse relationship.

OP's DS bought the leaf blower because he probably thought his dad would like it. Lots of men like tools. My DH does. He'd love it if I bought him all kinds of tools, but I have no idea what he has and doesn't have.

Unless the wife likes home cleaning supplies for presents, the iron would not go over well.

Anonymous wrote:God, my heart breaks for your son. How awful. I remember my mom criticizing gifts we got her when I was a child.

Have you talked to your son about it?

+1 Yea, those school projects for mother's day were crap, but she could've at least said thank you, and I love it that it's from you. But no... straight into the trash.

OP's DH is an ahole and a terrible father. Your poor kids.

Is your DH on the spectrum?

Perhaps there's something wrong with me, but I found the pea thing hilarious, and as for the leaf blower, yes he could have been more gracious, but your son buying him a leaf blower is the equivalent of him buying you an iron or other chore related item.

Wow, OP. your DH is something. Awful and/or triangulation material. Sadly, the two aren't mutually exclusive, which must be confusing for your children.

What a dick. My FIL can be like that, but not always. Some people are just super insensitive and jerks.

Am wondering if he has always been like this or if this is something new? Or has he always been an asshole to you but now it's spilling over onto the kids and that is the line in the sand for you?