Anonymous wrote:When you’re pregnant you’re basically wearing a big sign that says I got laid. A coworker of mine told me that when I told her I was expecting, and it would randomly pass through my mind when I was pregnant. Depending on who I was talking to it would cause me to giggle or blush.

If you’re a teen mom.

When you’re pregnant you’re basically wearing a big sign that says I got laid. A coworker of mine told me that when I told her I was expecting, and it would randomly pass through my mind when I was pregnant. Depending on who I was talking to it would cause me to giggle or blush.

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Anonymous wrote:It wasn't just the sex aspect, I didn't like people thinking about what's going on with my body. It just was so personal and everyone wanted to know all sorts of details that I wasn't okay with sharing... I tried to be coy, but people took it as if DH and I weren't happy about the pregnancy and said mean comments about that then. "In my day, people used to like sharing the news." "I used to love talking about my pregnancy." I was a manager at work and was generally really friendly (regarding other topics).

But...it's your family. Not the guy at the water cooler, right?

PP here. No it was weird to tell family too. My mom is extremely nosy so I think that's where my anxiety about this stuff stems from. She immediately wants to know if I've had bleeding, weight gain, morning sickness, wants to be there for the transvaginal ultrasound, feel my stomach when baby kicks.... you name it. It wasn't pleasant telling inlaws either even though they're not intrusive. They're still judging my pregnancy and thinking things.

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Anonymous wrote:People already know you have sex.

+1 I do think it's strange to announce that you're "trying," because that's just like telling people you're boning, with no real conversational payoff otherwise. But expecting a baby is different - it's news they can use!

+2, unless they are doing ivf or similar.

No, but we are lesbian so it had nothing to do with our sex lives. 😂

Anonymous wrote:It wasn't just the sex aspect, I didn't like people thinking about what's going on with my body. It just was so personal and everyone wanted to know all sorts of details that I wasn't okay with sharing... I tried to be coy, but people took it as if DH and I weren't happy about the pregnancy and said mean comments about that then. "In my day, people used to like sharing the news." "I used to love talking about my pregnancy." I was a manager at work and was generally really friendly (regarding other topics).

But...it's your family. Not the guy at the water cooler, right?

I had a boss who never addressed her pregnancy with me. She just kept getting bigger, obviously expecting. Didn't say a word. She must have been 8 months when a client of ours brought it up and so to be polite, she had to engage. But she tried to shut down the conversation as quickly as possible. It was so odd.

So trust me, people think MORE about it if you're weirdly secretive about something so obvious.

I don’t like being the center of attention - so it was weird/hard for me. But I have “issues” lol.

I felt odd too. With both pregnancies. But once you announce you feel better.

never, not ever.

Certainly, in part because my parents are ever happy about such things. They're so weird.

Ha, no I did not feel this way at all. Maybe some awkward "why do I have to tell you my medical stuff" type of feelings towards coworkers, but not about the sex part. I wasn't a 16 year old kid, so no shame there.

It wasn't just the sex aspect, I didn't like people thinking about what's going on with my body. It just was so personal and everyone wanted to know all sorts of details that I wasn't okay with sharing... I tried to be coy, but people took it as if DH and I weren't happy about the pregnancy and said mean comments about that then. "In my day, people used to like sharing the news." "I used to love talking about my pregnancy." I was a manager at work and was generally really friendly (regarding other topics).

I'm dreading the "oh so quarantine went well then" type comments. We'd been trying for awhile, and didn't want to delay, so yup, we'll have a covid baby.

Didn’t have a hard time announcing for the first baby but we accidentally conceived baby #2 while living with my parents for six months (we were house-hunting). We also had to announce basically right away because it was over the holidays and we’d been happily enjoying drinks all together every night so I just muttered “yeah, I can’t have that now...we’re having another baby...how pregnant? Like two weeks...Yup.”

So announce with confidence that at least you conceived in your own house and not your childhood bedroom.