Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^^and our daycare is reopening in 10 days, so our youngest will be able to go three days/week. We should hear about camp one way or the other within a week, and if it doesn't run, then we will hire help. So, we're not doing this until September, either, but this assertion that people who don't hire help is doing it for recognition is unfair.

Then don’t act like you’re doing it as some kind of civil service. It can’t go both ways. It’s like those fringe sahm who insist that they have the moral imperative but won’t acknowledge that it’s easier for the family to stay home - and it should be as that is part of the reason to do it - and that it made financial sense.

What on earth are you on about?

My heart hurts for those of you who can’t deal with your own family...!

Get some cannabis.

I have a 13 year old son with an intellectual disability. We just started having his side come back this week after about 3 months off. She’s been with us 4 years. Not only does she help my special needs son, she can help my typical son too. And it also gives me time to be with my other son who needs some one-in-one time (I work part-time) now that school is out.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes I told my dh I needed help either hired or I was moving to my parents for the summer. Now here we are with my parents. Life is good. They are still working but part time (mom is a healthcare worker and dad consultant). My cousin and brother are in town and helping too. Such a mental relief.

Did the same. My husband doesnt love it and I feel bad but it’s so much better for the rest of us.

I’m close to getting in the car to do this so it is nice to see other families have.

Anonymous wrote:Shout out to the others who don't have help. We don't either. DH and I have flexible work hours and some leave saved up, so we're going to each work less than a full week this summer so we can switch off on child care. It's far from ideal, but it's what we've settled on.

Why are you posting on this thread?

I don't know what you mean by "social mistake," but you absolutely need to hire help. ASAP.

Anonymous wrote:^^and our daycare is reopening in 10 days, so our youngest will be able to go three days/week. We should hear about camp one way or the other within a week, and if it doesn't run, then we will hire help. So, we're not doing this until September, either, but this assertion that people who don't hire help is doing it for recognition is unfair.

Then don’t act like you’re doing it as some kind of civil service. It can’t go both ways. It’s like those fringe sahm who insist that they have the moral imperative but won’t acknowledge that it’s easier for the family to stay home - and it should be as that is part of the reason to do it - and that it made financial sense.

^^and our daycare is reopening in 10 days, so our youngest will be able to go three days/week. We should hear about camp one way or the other within a week, and if it doesn't run, then we will hire help. So, we're not doing this until September, either, but this assertion that people who don't hire help is doing it for recognition is unfair.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Shout out to the others who don't have help. We don't either. DH and I have flexible work hours and some leave saved up, so we're going to each work less than a full week this summer so we can switch off on child care. It's far from ideal, but it's what we've settled on.

We have a 4 and a 2 year old. We don’t have help or family nearby to give us a break.

Do you both want a cookie? I’m so confused. Nobody cares. You’re only hurting yourselves. Carry on.

NP, but it's not always that simple. Our work hours are flexible enough that we've been muddling through, in part because we keep hearing that daycare and/or camp might start up, and don't want to go through the hassle of hiring someone only to turn around and fire them. A nanny isn't our preference.

It's not about wanting cookies, it's about trying our best with the information we have.

Well, if you are going to hire help, don't hire a teenager or a college student because they will be going out to socialize, no matter what they tell you.

Hire someone older who also needs to shelter from the virus due to their age.

Just be mindful that your nanny won’t socially dosntace if you don’t. I’m socially distancing because my bosses are talking this very seriously. The minute they stop, I’m going back to the gym, outings, seeing friends, parties, shopping etc. I will disntance as much as my employers distance. You risk my health, I risk yours.

Nanny

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Shout out to the others who don't have help. We don't either. DH and I have flexible work hours and some leave saved up, so we're going to each work less than a full week this summer so we can switch off on child care. It's far from ideal, but it's what we've settled on.

We have a 4 and a 2 year old. We don’t have help or family nearby to give us a break.

Do you both want a cookie? I’m so confused. Nobody cares. You’re only hurting yourselves. Carry on.

Anonymous wrote:Mental health is just as important as physical health. Hire a nanny, just be upfront with how much you are/aren’t socially distancing so the nanny can make an informed decision.

+1
You can negotiate with whoever you find about rates, etc.

Hire someone - offer $25 an hour and let them know you are not social distancing. I would not let my kid work for you.