I’m rainbow and my partner is also rainbow, we won’t last

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Anonymous wrote:I am a black woman married to a white man. All of the other black women I know in this situation are highly educated. Education strongly correlates with longevity in marriage. The race mix may simply be a proxy for socioeconomic status.

So why are educated and financially well-off white couples getting divorced at such a high rate?

If they married at an older age (over 25) and are educated, I don't think they are. Look at the statistics for who gets divorced. It is relatively low for couples where both parties are well educated and didn't marry young.

That explains why there are so few upper middle income whites on this forum talking about divorce. (Sarcasm)

Unhappily married people come here to post about their problems. If they were happily married, why would they post here?

Statistically speaking, college-educated (or higher) people who marry between their late 20s and early 30s have about a 20% divorce rate. That means 80% of this demographic don't divorce. Those are pretty good odds.

Anonymous wrote:"Marriage of color" ??????

What the heck does that mean?

Blue + yellow = green?

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Anonymous wrote:I am a black woman married to a white man. All of the other black women I know in this situation are highly educated. Education strongly correlates with longevity in marriage. The race mix may simply be a proxy for socioeconomic status.

So why are educated and financially well-off white couples getting divorced at such a high rate?

If they married at an older age (over 25) and are educated, I don't think they are. Look at the statistics for who gets divorced. It is relatively low for couples where both parties are well educated and didn't marry young.

That explains why there are so few upper middle income whites on this forum talking about divorce. (Sarcasm)

I don't think you understand how statistics or self-selection work.

I understand that money and a degree don’t guarantee happiness or compatibility and I understand that divorces in this country are decreasing — but marriages are, too.

Not PP but they weren't talking about happiness. They were referring to statistical data about biracial marriages and higher levels of education. Everything you are referring to is anecdotal and every post about divorce on this forum has bias issues, by both statistical definitions as well as layman's use of the term.

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Anonymous wrote:Indian arranged marriages last longer.

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that's mostly due to culture, not because the marriages are awesome.

My parents' generation (Asian) look down on divorce, but many of the marriages of that generation are horrible, and they would've divorced if there was not so much stigma around it and/or there were was more opportunities for women back then. And I include my parents' marriage in this category.

I'm sure some sociologist has studied this, but I can't be bothered to investigate it.

I will say that I am married to someone of a different race; my siblings are married to people of the same race. One of my sibling has divorced; the other, they were close to divorcing (lots of fighting), but they held out because they did not want to end up as a statistic and they stayed together for the kids. They seemed to have accepted that their marriage is what it is.

My marriage is on much more solid ground, however, I got married much later in life compared to my siblings. A PP stated that the age of the wife at time of marriage is a stronger indicator, and just anecdotally, I would have to agree.

Of all the divorces I know (some involved interracial couples), the woman was quite young when they married, and/or the man was not mature enough to be married.

I would say that interracial marriages have a lot more hurdles to overcome, but at the same time, if the couple have managed to over come many of the hurdles earlier on in their relationship before they got married, then the marriage is much stronger than same-race marriages because their relationship has already been tested and gone through rough patches.

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Anonymous wrote:I am a black woman married to a white man. All of the other black women I know in this situation are highly educated. Education strongly correlates with longevity in marriage. The race mix may simply be a proxy for socioeconomic status.

I posted earlier. I could see that. We've both got masters' degrees.

I’m black and I met my white husband at an Ivy where I was getting my MBA and he was getting his MBA/JD. I think that level of education was a big factor in both sets of parents accepting us as a couple which really helped us get started on the right foot. We have both had very good careers and with money not being an issue that has really helped. We have certainly had to deal with racism on both sides but it has always made us tighter as a couple. We don’t have any close friends who are an interracial couple though I wish we did just to compare notes.

"Marriage of color" ??????

What the heck does that mean?

Blue + yellow = green?

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Anonymous wrote:I am a black woman married to a white man. All of the other black women I know in this situation are highly educated. Education strongly correlates with longevity in marriage. The race mix may simply be a proxy for socioeconomic status.

So why are educated and financially well-off white couples getting divorced at such a high rate?

If they married at an older age (over 25) and are educated, I don't think they are. Look at the statistics for who gets divorced. It is relatively low for couples where both parties are well educated and didn't marry young.

That explains why there are so few upper middle income whites on this forum talking about divorce. (Sarcasm)

I don't think you understand how statistics or self-selection work.

I understand that money and a degree don’t guarantee happiness or compatibility and I understand that divorces in this country are decreasing — but marriages are, too.

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Anonymous wrote:I am a black woman married to a white man. All of the other black women I know in this situation are highly educated. Education strongly correlates with longevity in marriage. The race mix may simply be a proxy for socioeconomic status.

So why are educated and financially well-off white couples getting divorced at such a high rate?

If they married at an older age (over 25) and are educated, I don't think they are. Look at the statistics for who gets divorced. It is relatively low for couples where both parties are well educated and didn't marry young.

That explains why there are so few upper middle income whites on this forum talking about divorce. (Sarcasm)

I don't think you understand how statistics or self-selection work.

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Anonymous wrote:I am a black woman married to a white man. All of the other black women I know in this situation are highly educated. Education strongly correlates with longevity in marriage. The race mix may simply be a proxy for socioeconomic status.

So why are educated and financially well-off white couples getting divorced at such a high rate?

If they married at an older age (over 25) and are educated, I don't think they are. Look at the statistics for who gets divorced. It is relatively low for couples where both parties are well educated and didn't marry young.

That explains why there are so few upper middle income whites on this forum talking about divorce. (Sarcasm)

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Anonymous wrote:I am a black woman married to a white man. All of the other black women I know in this situation are highly educated. Education strongly correlates with longevity in marriage. The race mix may simply be a proxy for socioeconomic status.

So why are educated and financially well-off white couples getting divorced at such a high rate?

If they married at an older age (over 25) and are educated, I don't think they are. Look at the statistics for who gets divorced. It is relatively low for couples where both parties are well educated and didn't marry young.

Anonymous wrote:I am a black woman married to a white man. All of the other black women I know in this situation are highly educated. Education strongly correlates with longevity in marriage. The race mix may simply be a proxy for socioeconomic status.

So why are educated and financially well-off white couples getting divorced at such a high rate?

Anonymous wrote:I am a black woman married to a white man. All of the other black women I know in this situation are highly educated. Education strongly correlates with longevity in marriage. The race mix may simply be a proxy for socioeconomic status.

I posted earlier. I could see that. We've both got masters' degrees.

I am a black woman married to a white man. All of the other black women I know in this situation are highly educated. Education strongly correlates with longevity in marriage. The race mix may simply be a proxy for socioeconomic status.

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Anonymous wrote:The best predictor of marital longevity is wife’s age at time of marriage. Nothing else is very predictive.

Never heard of this. What about the husband's age?

Does a young wife correlate with longer or shorter marriages? I can’t tell from your post.

DP. Divorce rates are highest for brides under age 20 or over age 45.

Uh, don't most people get married within these parameters?

You think most people's ages at marriage are 19 or younger or 46 and older? Reread what PP said. She said divorce rates are highest for women who are under 20 or over 45 when they marry.