Anonymous
05/30/2020 16:22
Subject: Should I call out DH when he lies to people?
Anonymous wrote:I’m married to someone that exaggerates, fabricates and lies when we’re out with friends . It’s so hard to sit there and listen to it I’ve become antisocial. About 30% of what he says is true. Finances, his business, his accomplishments etc.. The best one is when he starts with how little he eats. Being that he’s about 50lbs overweight. He goes on and on how he eats so little and I’m sitting there thinking about the boxes of candy, cookies and chips that arrive weekly via Amazon. After he eats dinner he starts snacking nonstop till he falls asleep with cookie crumps in his beard. I want so bad to whip out my phone and show our friends pics of the boxes of junk food stashed in his closet and under the bed, literally! What would DC wives do?
I have a DW like that. Always talks about how healthy she eats and like your DH, could def. stand to lose a bunch of weight. Best part, she gives out health and diet advice to others! Makes me cringe. I have the sense to not call her out of course. Talking privately is no use either. She will insist she's not lying and accuse me of calling her fat! I just walk away when she begins talking about topics that I know she will lie about..
Anonymous
05/30/2020 13:45
Subject: Should I call out DH when he lies to people?
Anonymous wrote:I’m married to someone that exaggerates, fabricates and lies when we’re out with friends . It’s so hard to sit there and listen to it I’ve become antisocial. About 30% of what he says is true. Finances, his business, his accomplishments etc.. The best one is when he starts with how little he eats. Being that he’s about 50lbs overweight. He goes on and on how he eats so little and I’m sitting there thinking about the boxes of candy, cookies and chips that arrive weekly via Amazon. After he eats dinner he starts snacking nonstop till he falls asleep with cookie crumps in his beard. I want so bad to whip out my phone and show our friends pics of the boxes of junk food stashed in his closet and under the bed, literally! What would DC wives do?
Oh Melania! I feel for you girl! We’re all done with him as well. Just run! His lying is pathological.
Anonymous
05/30/2020 13:37
Subject: Should I call out DH when he lies to people?
I mean, isn’t the bigger problem that you seem to absolutely HATE your husband?
Calling out a spouse in front of others is wrong. So cruel, and in theory the two of you are a team. I do think teasing him later or, if it’s serious, asking him why he does this is OK. But that ship seems to have sailed for you. Sometimes these kind of BS-ers are fun... exaggerated stories, lots of laughs, everyone kind of understands that’s and takes it with a grain of salt. My favorite uncle was exactly that guy and everyone loved him. But again, you sound either so mean or so fed up with it (maybe he’s not funny or interesting?) that I’m not sure it applies here.
Calling out a spouse in front of others is wrong. So cruel, and in theory the two of you are a team. I do think teasing him later or, if it’s serious, asking him why he does this is OK. But that ship seems to have sailed for you. Sometimes these kind of BS-ers are fun... exaggerated stories, lots of laughs, everyone kind of understands that’s and takes it with a grain of salt. My favorite uncle was exactly that guy and everyone loved him. But again, you sound either so mean or so fed up with it (maybe he’s not funny or interesting?) that I’m not sure it applies here.
Anonymous
05/30/2020 13:33
Subject: Should I call out DH when he lies to people?
With mutual friends, good friends of yours, when you are alone with them, you make a blanket statement such as, "John exaggerates". You want them to know you know. You might even add, "John exaggerates and it often embarrasses me". You say this once. Friends know to give you a pass. You aren't responsible for your spouse. No one is. Don't let it affect your socialization. If anything, with friendships that are worthwhile, you'll get brownie points for managing the situation with grace.