I want to skew things to my kid's advantage

All the neighbors did and it was 10 days before the cut off.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For sports. That’s the truth. And it worked - he got a baseball scholarship to college.

Ditto, except even with redshirting my son was the smallest kid on his varsity teams freshman year (family history of delayed growth).

+1

Not to mention, kid in the same "place" had he stayed back, or not. That year made zero difference.

Socially immature girl, smart but late reader

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My thinking is, if it's possible to give them an edge (socially, academically, physically) why wouldn't you??

I do everything I can to give my kids a leg up on the competition.

It’s cheating.

It’s explicitly allowed - the opposite of cheating. I’m only familiar with Virginia but they explicitly say if in your estimation the child isn’t really for school at 5, they can delay a year and go to school at 6.

Leg up on sports. Can't afford college.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My thinking is, if it's possible to give them an edge (socially, academically, physically) why wouldn't you??

I do everything I can to give my kids a leg up on the competition.

It’s cheating.

The school districts allow it (in fact, many schools encourage it), so it's hardly cheating. Out of curiosity do you do any of the following:

Move for a good school district "for the schools", aka no poor kids
Pay for extra curriculars
Pay for tutoring
Pay for outside classes

If so, you are a giant hypocrite. But typical of DCUM's massively hypocritical anti-redshirt posters, so you are in good company.

Anonymous wrote:My thinking is, if it's possible to give them an edge (socially, academically, physically) why wouldn't you??

I do everything I can to give my kids a leg up on the competition.

I want my kids to learn they need to work harder sometimes. They aren’t always going to have an unfair advantage. Plus they are UMC white boys. They already were born more than halfway up the ladder. If they can’t figure things out and be successful adults, shame on me as a parent.

Anonymous wrote:My thinking is, if it's possible to give them an edge (socially, academically, physically) why wouldn't you??

I do everything I can to give my kids a leg up on the competition.

Because they will hope up with out grit and self determination. We can't simply give our kids a leg up. They actually have to use their legs and learn how to run their own race

Anonymous wrote:My thinking is, if it's possible to give them an edge (socially, academically, physically) why wouldn't you??

I do everything I can to give my kids a leg up on the competition.

It’s cheating.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For sports. That’s the truth. And it worked - he got a baseball scholarship to college.

Ditto, except even with redshirting my son was the smallest kid on his varsity teams freshman year (family history of delayed growth).

I’m judging. This is sad. If he couldn’t have gotten it if he went on time he took another kids spot.
Both DH and I were D1 athletes, DH on full football scholarship and summer birthdays and still wouldn’t do this.

Anonymous wrote:My thinking is, if it's possible to give them an edge (socially, academically, physically) why wouldn't you??

I do everything I can to give my kids a leg up on the competition.

Lori Laughlin, is that you?

My thinking is, if it's possible to give them an edge (socially, academically, physically) why wouldn't you??

I do everything I can to give my kids a leg up on the competition.

August birthday boy, still took naps most days as a 4.5/newly 5 year old - I couldn’t imagine him making it through a full day of school until he finally dropped the nap around Christmas break after he turned 5- and had a speech delay. Didn’t want him in a big class and potentially not able to advocate for himself because of his speech issues.

Not intentionally redshirted, but so glad it happened. Fall birthday kid. He was unusually physically active and unable to sit still at all, outside of the range of his peers.

Years later, he was flagged by the school for ADHD and diagnosed. His developmental psychiatrist told me she thought redshirting was an excellent decision (she didn't know it was accidental). She thinks anecdotally that her patients with ADHD who are redshirted tend to do better socially and emotionally, but that academically outcomes are about the same. That seems consistent with our experience.

In HS now, and doing well. He plays a sport (that sorts by birth year, so one of the youngest ones there) that he may play in college. He has always had a lot of friends. Over the years, multiple teachers told me that they grouped him with kids who were struggling socially/emotionally, because they knew those kids would be safe with him.

No regrets at all. If anything it has made me believe we should have wider age bands in school and do things the way that the Dutch do. If I had to do it again, I would consider a private school without rigid age bands and skipped the public schools entirely. So many kids are asynchronous learners, and the schools just can't deal with that well. Rigid age bands benefit very few kids, and public schools don't have enough flexibility.