Anonymous
Post 05/22/2020 23:33     Subject: Re:Two kids has pushed me beyond my limitations

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP, are your kids both boys? Just curious.


Seriously.

And just wait until they are teens. You'll be counting the days until they are out of the house.


Nope!! I'm PP.
Don't worry OP!!
LOOOVE my teen boys. They played chess together tonight, it's all good. They are better behaved than my husband. I know...I should have a better-behaved husband!
Anonymous
Post 05/22/2020 23:25     Subject: Two kids has pushed me beyond my limitations

Ideas;
You take one, dad take the other, then switch next time. Like you said it's quiet one on one.

Go outside and wear them out, running games or something! Obstacle courses, exercise challenges!

I have two boys and they were super cute, adorable, very very boisterous excited exhausting little boys!
Now they are sweet teens age 16 & 18.
Love my guys.
Anonymous
Post 05/22/2020 22:44     Subject: Two kids has pushed me beyond my limitations

I feel you. I try so hard but I do cool stuff and it is over in an hour and they are back to boredom. The toddler is mainly the problem. She is exhausting. Constant noise, needing of attention, energy, whines, and demands. I am done by 5. I literally go through the motions and pray for bedtime.
Anonymous
Post 05/22/2020 22:12     Subject: Two kids has pushed me beyond my limitations

Anonymous wrote:Oh OP, I'm sorry, I know it is hard, but your description actually had me laughing so hard. Parenthood is so crazy, isn't it? You can't make this stuff up!

3 is a super tough age. In sixth months things will be WAY better. Agree with the headphones. Just getting away from the noise gives you a well-needed break.

It's gone in the blink of an eye, enjoy it as much as you can.


Oh, it is pretty funny, I agree. Sometimes my husband and I just sit back and laugh because you really can't make up so many of these parenting moments.
Anonymous
Post 05/22/2020 22:09     Subject: Two kids has pushed me beyond my limitations

Anonymous wrote:I had the recent realization that having a second child pushed me beyond my limitations for noise and chaos. My kids are 5 and 3 and I'm totally in love with them both. Most of the time though, I hate spending time with them together because their personalities often change, they get whiney, compete for attention, argue, get rambunctious, etc. Even when they are getting along it's just a lot more noise and craziness. When I have either of them one-on-one, it is amazing. Chill, quality time. Opportunities for one-on-one time are few and far between, especially right now.

My tolerance for noise and chaos is low and it doesn't help that my youngest does that high-pitched thing that is like a knife to the head (and it rarely comes out if you are one-on-one with him, only when his sibling is around).

I'm not sure what the point of my thread is. Can anyone relate, though? How did you cope or manage to lower the chaos level in your house?


You are the mother from Hell. No bc
Anonymous
Post 05/22/2020 21:58     Subject: Two kids has pushed me beyond my limitations

Oh OP, I'm sorry, I know it is hard, but your description actually had me laughing so hard. Parenthood is so crazy, isn't it? You can't make this stuff up!

3 is a super tough age. In sixth months things will be WAY better. Agree with the headphones. Just getting away from the noise gives you a well-needed break.

It's gone in the blink of an eye, enjoy it as much as you can.
Anonymous
Post 05/22/2020 21:51     Subject: Two kids has pushed me beyond my limitations

Listen to calming music you like on noise cancelling headphones. Safe as long as you have a visual on your kids.
Anonymous
Post 05/22/2020 21:51     Subject: Two kids has pushed me beyond my limitations

Anonymous wrote:Hahaha. It gets better in elementary school. That said, we happened to be chatting with our neighbor this afternoon (at a social distance on our lawns) and during the entire conversation his two boys (9 and 11) had each other in headlocks they entire 10 minute convo. didn’t even look up to say hi.


That is pretty funny.
Anonymous
Post 05/22/2020 21:50     Subject: Re:Two kids has pushed me beyond my limitations

Anonymous wrote:9 and 5 year olds here and it helps immensely to BE OUTSIDE! Even when they don’t want to, you act excited and say “I need fresh air!” and force them out and all will improve.


OP here and they are always pretty much up for going outside but we've been more housebound than usual. First because we were potty training our 3YO. Then he broke a toe and was running around naked AND with a boot on. Then we took him to the doctor for constipation issues and the doctor said we needed to do a cleanout, so he is still running around half-naked so he has easy access to the potty when the seismic activity happens. If we put pants on him and take him outside he just craps his pants. Hopefully, only a couple more days of this because he has the potty thing down, so once the cleanout is complete, he can finally wear pants again (it will be 3 weeks tomorrow).

But I agree. They argue less when they are outside, and the house doesn't get trashed.
Anonymous
Post 05/22/2020 20:09     Subject: Two kids has pushed me beyond my limitations

Hahaha. It gets better in elementary school. That said, we happened to be chatting with our neighbor this afternoon (at a social distance on our lawns) and during the entire conversation his two boys (9 and 11) had each other in headlocks they entire 10 minute convo. didn’t even look up to say hi.
Anonymous
Post 05/22/2020 11:02     Subject: Re:Two kids has pushed me beyond my limitations

Anonymous wrote:OP, are your kids both boys? Just curious.


Seriously.

And just wait until they are teens. You'll be counting the days until they are out of the house.
Anonymous
Post 05/22/2020 08:05     Subject: Two kids has pushed me beyond my limitations

Well, I am sorry that some of you are struggling with this as well. I'm not glad that you are, but it does make me feel less alone/less at fault.
Anonymous
Post 05/22/2020 07:50     Subject: Re:Two kids has pushed me beyond my limitations

9 and 5 year olds here and it helps immensely to BE OUTSIDE! Even when they don’t want to, you act excited and say “I need fresh air!” and force them out and all will improve.
Anonymous
Post 05/22/2020 00:39     Subject: Two kids has pushed me beyond my limitations

I hear you, OP! I have nearly 8 year old twin boys, and the noise sometimes drives me bananas! One of them likes to scream or just be loud, the other loves to whine, or give out a cat-like tone....can drive me craaaaazy.
Anonymous
Post 05/22/2020 00:36     Subject: Two kids has pushed me beyond my limitations

Anonymous wrote:Train your kids to be quieter people. Everyone will appreciate this - not just you.


Oh shush....