Anonymous
05/18/2020 21:44
Subject: Re:If Colleges Remain On-Line Only
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:We've got 2 kids at 2 different colleges with leases signed for off-campus apartments. Both will be going back. I agree with posts regarding the college experience is more than the coursework. Hiding at home with mom and dad is no life for a 19 and 21 year old.
Np. I think you are right about college being more than academics but too judgemental when you say "hiding" at home with mom and dad is no life.
Not everyone can afford another apartment especially if the parents have lost their jobs. You do realize in th he past most people didnt move out of parents' home until marriage. I'm sure you are not suggesting that those teens had "no life".
What an odd response. What timeframe of teens are you defending from my judgement here? The 18th, 19th or 20th centuries? I was answering a post about 2020 college students' plans.
This is a privileged mindset. Most kids in this country commute to school.
+1 If they even go.
Sure, it's a great wonderful thing to be able to play "independent" on your parents' dime when you're 18-21 (i loved doing it, my kid loves doing it), but it's definitely not the norm outside the UMC and it's insulting that not being able to do that is "no life." Most people are stretching to pay for this, need financial aid. Learning to deal with reality's limits--that sometimes when there's a global pandemic you're stuck at home with your parents after enjoying your freedom is just a different kind of preparation for real adult life as renting an apartment with all your friends and "cooking" and "cleaning." (Don't remember doing much of that...) Bills are all automated now, so not much learning there. I hope my kid is going to be able to go back to school safely, but I don't think not being able to do so is "not a life." We've been focused on renegotiating a more adult relationship and enjoying our time together. At times he feels cramped and we feel invaded but we've worked out our boundaries quite a bit...and find ways to enjoy each others' company still.
Anonymous
05/18/2020 18:38
Subject: If Colleges Remain On-Line Only
Anonymous wrote:If colleges remain on-line only through the fall semester, are you considering having your child live off campus in the college town?
My DD has been home since March. She is taking courses online as is everyone.
DH and I are seriously considering paying for her to live in her college town this fall, even if the classes are all remote. We think this will be better for her mental health as well as ours.
We can't be the only parents thinking about this.
Please share your thoughts and opinions.
My kid is still in high school but have two college age relatives who are doing this, rising junior and senior. Their schools are in the south so likely to be at least partially in person. One is a science major and really needs access to lab.
Anonymous
05/18/2020 18:22
Subject: If Colleges Remain On-Line Only
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:No, we live being with out kids.
Do they live being with you?
Obviously, the attend a local University even though we are millionaires.
Anonymous
05/18/2020 18:20
Subject: Re:If Colleges Remain On-Line Only
Anonymous wrote:DC was already planning to be off campus and had signed a lease through Dec 2020. I think there is a strong possibility he will go back in the Aug/Sept time frame if his friends also go back. Of course, it is dependent on what happens. I don't think of it as hiding out at our house, but that he is missing his friends. This is the first time he has had a core group of really good friends.
On Friday his school revealed part of their plan. They are in NY and university "opening" is in Phase 4. Phase 1 has not started in their region yet. "Opening" in Phase 4 means, larger classes online, classes 24 and smaller will meet in the larger classrooms. Every student tested before they comeback and then every two weeks (I am hoping the spit or finger prick ones and not the swab up the nose ones). Medical masks in the classrooms, cloth masks everywhere else on campus except their dorm room. Separate quarantine accommodations with academic help to keep up with classes. They have hired 3 people to do contact tracing. No more than 2 students per dorm room (they had quite a few triples). I don't know about the dining options- last year they started a take out option, so I suspect that would be expanded and made less individualized.
They had a HUGE (like 5x the normal) flu problem this past year 2019/2020 and I just wonder if it has already gone through part of the population.
I am hoping, at some point soon, that the antibody testing gets more accurate and becomes easily accessible too.
PP, I note your son's college is in NY -- is it in NYC or NY state? Would you mind identifying it? My DC goes to a college in NY state that is in a region with high numbers of covid cases (but isn't NYC). I'm sure your son is not at my DC's school, as we would have heard these details already; I just would be interested to know what other colleges in the state are doing and it sounds like yours has some very specific plans in place.
Anonymous
05/18/2020 18:15
Subject: Re:If Colleges Remain On-Line Only
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:We've got 2 kids at 2 different colleges with leases signed for off-campus apartments. Both will be going back. I agree with posts regarding the college experience is more than the coursework. Hiding at home with mom and dad is no life for a 19 and 21 year old.
Np. I think you are right about college being more than academics but too judgemental when you say "hiding" at home with mom and dad is no life.
Not everyone can afford another apartment especially if the parents have lost their jobs. You do realize in th he past most people didnt move out of parents' home until marriage. I'm sure you are not suggesting that those teens had "no life".
What an odd response. What timeframe of teens are you defending from my judgement here? The 18th, 19th or 20th centuries? I was answering a post about 2020 college students' plans.
This is a privileged mindset. Most kids in this country commute to school.
DCUM is largely a MC/UMC forum. If you aren’t interested in responses from UMC families, then don’t read responses. Sheesh.
Anonymous
05/18/2020 17:52
Subject: Re:If Colleges Remain On-Line Only
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:We've got 2 kids at 2 different colleges with leases signed for off-campus apartments. Both will be going back. I agree with posts regarding the college experience is more than the coursework. Hiding at home with mom and dad is no life for a 19 and 21 year old.
Np. I think you are right about college being more than academics but too judgemental when you say "hiding" at home with mom and dad is no life.
Not everyone can afford another apartment especially if the parents have lost their jobs. You do realize in th he past most people didnt move out of parents' home until marriage. I'm sure you are not suggesting that those teens had "no life".
What an odd response. What timeframe of teens are you defending from my judgement here? The 18th, 19th or 20th centuries? I was answering a post about 2020 college students' plans.
This is a privileged mindset. Most kids in this country commute to school.
I’m not the PP but I don’t see how this is more of a privileged mindset than other posts on DCUM. Many students in this area go away to college and most parents on this board are so snotty they won’t send their kids to schools that aren’t elite. I see what the PP meant by “hiding at home” and agree I don’t want my college aged child staying home in the fall,
If money is the issue it’s a different story.