Anonymous wrote:OP you’re crazy. What do you think she would gain out of purposely misleading you? Don’t you think it would go the other way around? Mislead you into thinking this was a big deal vs her mom was sitting in traffic. Must be hard thinking the worst of everyone

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Anonymous wrote:Set up because … she didn't call you out on the spot for not being sympathetic enough and force you to realize you had misinterpreted the situation?

This has to be a troll post written by the babysitter to stack up grumbles about the MB. It's too much both fawning over the babysitter and presenting a bizarre, tone-deaf, double-downing.

Seriously? Like I said, I accept that I was short with her and I owned that. I was explaining my perspective of what happened. I think both of us are to blame and obviously we can communicate better in the future.

Anonymous wrote:OP the teen sitter did NOT "purposely misled" you. Geez.

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Anonymous wrote:If my teen babysitter texted me that there had been been “an accident” where her mother couldn’t pick her up, my first thought would be a car accident and to ask if she/mother were okay - not think about how it would affect me.

How did she purposely mislead you? She said there was an accident and there was an accident. She stated a fact. I cannot believe you were bitchy to her over it! I hope she never works for you again.

I feel like I was misled and set up to look bitchy because I took her to mean “there has been an accident....And as a result my mom is stuck in traffic” not that she was in the accident.

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Anonymous wrote:She texted saying that she was running late, her mom hadn’t picked her up because there “was an accident”. I was clearly annoyed with her that I would have to make other arrangements and I had several conference calls scheduled. She got to our house about 35 mins after the time we planned for her to be here and I was short with her because of the difficulties. Later on, she tells my DH that she’s sorry again for the disruption because of her mom being in an accident earlier in the day. He told me about it and I feel terrible. Her family lives on our street and i saw her mom going in the house with crutches so i know she’s telling the truth. She phrased it that there was an accident, not that her mom had been rear ended! Now I look like a jerk. What would you do or say in this situation?

NP You not only look like a jerk; you are a jerk!!!

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Anonymous wrote:When she said there was an accident, did you ask if everyone was okay?

No because I took it to mean her mother was stuck in traffic due to an accident not that she was actually involved in an accident

Do you think that maybe since you are an adult and she is a teenager you could have given her the benefit of the doubt? You have said nothing that would make any of us assume she is not trustworthy. In fact, it seems she bent over backwards for your stupid sitting job where you had some conference calls even after her mom was rear-ended!

You should sincerely apologize and tell her how grateful you are for her. I’d even get her a little gift or give her a little bonus. Your attitude was SO uncalled for and you probably upset her.

You’re being dramatic. Of course I appreciate her, she has been with us for 2 years and the kids love her. She is here everyday after school normally but since the covid stuff, she has been with us for most of the day (if I have meetings) instead of just 4 hrs in the evening. I certainly trust her or I wouldn’t have her caring for my kids. It’s just in this instance, I felt set up.

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Anonymous wrote:Set up because … she didn't call you out on the spot for not being sympathetic enough and force you to realize you had misinterpreted the situation?

This has to be a troll post written by the babysitter to stack up grumbles about the MB. It's too much both fawning over the babysitter and presenting a bizarre, tone-deaf, double-downing.

Seriously? Like I said, I accept that I was short with her and I owned that. I was explaining my perspective of what happened. I think both of us are to blame and obviously we can communicate better in the future.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Set up because … she didn't call you out on the spot for not being sympathetic enough and force you to realize you had misinterpreted the situation?

This has to be a troll post written by the babysitter to stack up grumbles about the MB. It's too much both fawning over the babysitter and presenting a bizarre, tone-deaf, double-downing.

Seriously? Like I said, I accept that I was short with her and I owned that. I was explaining my perspective of what happened. I think both of us are to blame and obviously we can communicate better in the future.