Anonymous wrote:Ideally a husband would sincerely be grateful for the sacrifice his wife made and would come up with a thoughtful gesture on his own but since men aren’t thoughtful it comes off as transactional.

She did not make a sacrifice. She did what female organisms do when they want offspring. HE did not impose this on her, biology did.

And hundreds of thousands of couples around the globe would give anything for her ability to carry a baby to term.

AND she was rewarded with the greatest gift there is: a healthy baby.

How sad that the father of that baby is now crowdsourcing a monetary value for what he OWES her. This is messed up on so many levels!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I got the idea from my parents. I think it’s something real nice and gives the wife a nice memory/gift of being a mom and giving birth. I have my wife diamond earrings.

I never heard of this until now. What is it?

I'm glad I had my kids before the cultural shift of push gifts and gender reveal parties started. The attention starved culture is way too much and annoying.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand how you can get to having a baby and still have a financial situation where one partner gives the other extravagant gifts.

10 years together, pregnant with our third, and we still have separate finances.

The state would not consider your finances separate in a divorce situation. Your finances would be considered joint even if you have separate accounts.

Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand how you can get to having a baby and still have a financial situation where one partner gives the other extravagant gifts.

Some families are into extravagant gift giving. Shrug.

The term is so gross.

And it’s a tacky gift grab to expect one.

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Anonymous wrote:She gets a baby, priceless .

same with him

Usually husbands aren’t asking for a push present.

If technology ever developed to allow gay men to incubate children they’d invent push presents all over again.

Ha! Best post of the thread!

Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand how you can get to having a baby and still have a financial situation where one partner gives the other extravagant gifts.

My parents have given each other extravagant gifts for holidays and birthdays throughout my entire life. (Not every year, but on occasion). You have really never heard of a man buying his wife jewelry?

I had never heard of this but DH had, and when our first DC was born he got me a wonderfully cozy blanket that I’d been coveting but couldn’t justify purchasing. DC was a January baby and I loved snuggling with the baby and that blanket during my maternity leave (and after). 4 years later I still sleep with that blanket most nights. I love it.

I never heard of this til dcum

Anonymous wrote:Ideally a husband would sincerely be grateful for the sacrifice his wife made and would come up with a thoughtful gesture on his own but since men aren’t thoughtful it comes off as transactional.

I kinda agree with this. I wouldn't ask for a push present, and I definitely wouldn't expect a $1-2k one, but a gift as a thoughtful gesture would have meant soooooo much to me.

OP, is your wife's love language gifts? A lot of people think expecting gifts is tacky and gold-diggerish, but for many people it's their primary love language.

Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand how you can get to having a baby and still have a financial situation where one partner gives the other extravagant gifts.

10 years together, pregnant with our third, and we still have separate finances.

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Anonymous wrote:Ideally a husband would sincerely be grateful for the sacrifice his wife made and would come up with a thoughtful gesture on his own but since men aren’t thoughtful it comes off as transactional.

1st, the wife is not making a "sacrifice" in any real way because the woman often sought out a man with the express intent to make a child. She isn't doing it against her will for the soul benefit of the man.

I sacrificed my ability to cough without peeing, among many other unpleasant things. DH wanted kids more than I did. He gave me very thoughtful gifts that reflected his gratitude.

Luckily we are in agreement. Hopefully you and your spouse share a view on this as well.

Your husband sacrificed sex. Thats a HUUUUGE sacrifice.

Why don’t you go to a public place then pee yourself. Just a little! Then tell me how many weeks of sex you’d skip not to so that again.

I don’t understand how you can get to having a baby and still have a financial situation where one partner gives the other extravagant gifts.