Anonymous
Post 05/04/2020 14:41     Subject: Acting incapable really works
As a wife I have done this. Got myself banished from matching and folding DH’s socks and doing anything at all with the dishes and dishwasher. He insists making rice is beyond his capabilities (he is PhD). I guess we have a manipulative marriage but it works for us! Very happy.
Anonymous
Post 05/04/2020 08:03     Subject: Acting incapable really works
Anonymous wrote:Equality and partnership without manipulation. You should try it sometime!


+1. H does this incapable act to get out of doing work, but it's only led to resentment towards him.
Anonymous
Post 05/04/2020 01:14     Subject: Acting incapable really works
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:At the end of the day, a successful marriage is simply an exercise in manipulation.


Sure in the saddest story ever told.


Sad. But true.
Anonymous
Post 05/03/2020 23:22     Subject: Acting incapable really works
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Haha. I don’t know how to hang pictures, change light bulbs, do taxes, or anything concerning the car.

DH is clueless when it comes to loading the dishwasher, doing laundry, and getting kids to school or bed on time.


So he’s smart and you’re dumb. Way to reinforce stereotypes.


Meh. In some circles it's just called equitable division of labor. But whatever, PP, you do you.
Anonymous
Post 05/03/2020 23:20     Subject: Acting incapable really works
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My DH thinks I’m incompetent at many things, because I act like a lily of the field (toil not, neither do I spin). So he takes on 50% of the childcare and housework. I do the organizational things. When I actually clean something he’s shocked and appreciative. Y’all should try it sometime.


I think men don’t get annoyed at this approach because it’s what they do. It feels familiar. Plus, you’re not nagging or upset, so when it bugs him he does it.



Yep, I refuse to learn about home repair/plumbing or how to figure out when the trash comes. I act perplexed by the schedule. DH has acted like cooking a simple meal is brain surgery since we met. Whatever, we each have our things.


This made me laugh and I like you.
Signed~perplexed by the gas pump and how that funny little nozzle goes into my car
Anonymous
Post 05/03/2020 23:18     Subject: Acting incapable really works
really works at what? getting you dumped or divorced?
Anonymous
Post 05/03/2020 20:19     Subject: Acting incapable really works
Anonymous wrote:Haha. I don’t know how to hang pictures, change light bulbs, do taxes, or anything concerning the car.

DH is clueless when it comes to loading the dishwasher, doing laundry, and getting kids to school or bed on time.


So he’s smart and you’re dumb. Way to reinforce stereotypes.
Anonymous
Post 05/03/2020 20:19     Subject: Acting incapable really works
Anonymous wrote:At the end of the day, a successful marriage is simply an exercise in manipulation.


Sure in the saddest story ever told.